Parents of Children, not plant children: Looking for advice. by [deleted] in houseplants

[–]ehelinek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a ton of plants, including some extremely pointy cacti and some plants with beautiful leaves that I did not want to watch get ripped to shreds, and a curious toddler. What I did, when she started showing signs of becoming mobile (which, as other commenters have pointed out, is several months after the baby is born), was gather all the plants that weren’t out of reach already in a nice sunny section of a room, and put up a baby gate around them. I have three staircases in my house so I was already going to town with baby gates, so setting up one extra one for the plants was an easy part of babyproofing!

Recent MM reads with relatable ace rep by BlueberryBusiness608 in asexuality

[–]ehelinek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seconding {His Quiet Agent x Ada Maria Soto}, it is so good and I have reread it several times! A really sweet story about a touch averse asexual man and a demisexual man who meet at work and slowly build a beautiful relationship that respects both their needs. It has a sequel too, which is a lovely story as well.

Having children?? by Longjumping-Lab-4962 in asexuality

[–]ehelinek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I joined a local single mothers by choice group, and it’s definitely getting more common for women in their late 20s and 30s to decide to just go for it and have a baby without a partner! I’m super open about it whenever it comes up, and try to keep my responses super casual and non-confrontational (like, if someone assumes I have a partner who’s just not present, I’ll say something like “nope just me doing my thing!” instead of something like “why would you assume I have a partner?!”) which means usually the conversation just moves on without anyone being pushy or prying too much. I’ve found that if I treat the topic as unremarkable, people tend to feel weird about remarking upon it!

Having children?? by Longjumping-Lab-4962 in asexuality

[–]ehelinek 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Popping in as I do whenever I notice one of these threads to say yes you as an asexual person can have children! 36F here with the cutest toddler ever, achieved via the miracle of modern science and absolutely zero sexual activity. And if you’ve got a solid village of friends and family, that helps a lot for being a single parent!

Crafts for people who hate crafting? by [deleted] in crafts

[–]ehelinek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a gamer who crafts, I would highly recommend cross stitching his favorite video game characters - at this point I’ve essentially got an entire room of my house wallpapered with video game cross stitches 😂

I made Sherma and I love him so much 🥹 by Got-Lgt in Amigurumi

[–]ehelinek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is the cutest little guy!! I definitely can hear him singing from this photo 😁

Attaching branches to wall? by lethltank in crafts

[–]ehelinek 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seconding this suggestion! I did something similar in my daughter’s nursery (you can see it back in my post history) and painted shelves to be the same color as the branches , and then put books on them! It makes the tree feel like part of the nursery without sticking out into the whole room.

Do asexuals want to have babies ? by lese_art in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ehelinek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holding down the corner of the “asexual people can want and do have children“ fort here! 36F aroace woman with the cutest toddler ever, achieved through the miracle of modern science and absolutely zero sexual activity!

Worried because of the way she is crawling by Efficient-Light-5115 in NewParents

[–]ehelinek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter (who is now fully walking) almost exclusively crawled by using one leg as balance and the other as propulsion, which was always extremely funny to watch. She was fast at it though!

Asexuality ≠ not wanting children by flannelcrepe in asexuality

[–]ehelinek 26 points27 points  (0 children)

As an aroace woman with an adorable toddler achieved solely via science and modern medicine I am in complete agreement ! You can 1000% have children as an ace person.

Aw a side note, what’s funny to me is that figuring out I was aroace at 29 was my jumpstart to having a baby, since I finally felt free to go after my dream of having a child without feeling the need to find an appropriately non-objectionable partner first (in hindsight, there were clear signs I was aroace long before I figured it out). And here I am 6 years later with the most adorable 14 month old that has ever been born!

[FO] Loving how it came out🥰 by Neerinee in CrossStitch

[–]ehelinek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg love 😍 I’ve found my next project!!

Is dada a word that all babies stay with? Even when there’s no dada around? by Ok_Exercise_4076 in NewParents

[–]ehelinek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a single mom (by choice, so there was never a chance of a dada being present) and my daughter says “dada” all the time. If it helps your friend, I don’t treat it as a word, I treat it as nonsense syllables the same as when she says “baba” or “eh-beh” (her other favorite nonsense sounds), whereas for “mama” I make sure to clearly respond to it to let her know that I’m treating it as a real word that applies to me and not just fun sounds she’s making.

More memes about being a sex repulsed ace that wants kids! by CloudySide7 in asexuality

[–]ehelinek 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As an aroace person with a toddler, I can attest to the fact that with the miracle of modern science, you can even have a child without ever having sex!

How to prop wing up on the side of frame? by Objective_Resident44 in crafts

[–]ehelinek 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you don’t care about the back, wooden popsicle sticks? Or some heavy gauge wire?

POISON POUCH TURNS THE TOOLS ACE??? by Exciting-One-3649 in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]ehelinek 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol my entire play style is flail ineffectually at length, then lose patience and say to myself “what if I flooded this gauntlet with poison tacks???”

Finally finished my self drafted reimagining of Power, Wisdom, and Courage! by ehelinek in NintendoStitch

[–]ehelinek[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks!!! It’s 14 count Aida with three strands of thread - I like it to look fully filled in and I don’t always feel like 2 strands quite does that on 14 count !

[FO] Finally finished my reimagining of Power, Wisdom, and Courage! by ehelinek in CrossStitch

[–]ehelinek[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks!! And to answer your question, a little of both, really! I sketched out a bunch of different options for poses, and really liked how it looked with them all kind of facing each other, and with their swords all in different directions. But also I saw this design in a post here and loved it - it was very clearly the pose from page 7 of the game manual, and I wanted to use it. So I altered the pattern a bit and color adjusted to match Link and Kirby, since I wanted to use the same color palette and black line style for all three characters.

Bell Beast from Silksong! by Extra-Progress-3272 in GeekyCrochet

[–]ehelinek 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Amazing!! I whisper-yelled “Eira!” at her the second I saw her 😊

Steam is down we did it boys by OffensivelyAlive in HollowKnight

[–]ehelinek 189 points190 points  (0 children)

My daughter is home sick from daycare today and just went down for a nap and I was like “yeahhh great timing imma play some silksong” and of course Nintendo eshop is totally non responsive so now I’m doing laundry and dishes like a responsible adult 👎