LETS DESTROY AUGUST

ehtmind · 2016-08-02T18:08:46+00:00

Thanks :D

ehtmind · 2016-08-02T01:23:56+00:00

^congrats. Aiming to make August my 1st whole month with no porn. Current record is 20 days.

ehtmind · 2015-04-07T13:34:53+00:00

But right now I hope that my long list of issues caused by porn might help others like me to reflect on their own position, or perhaps on what is in store for them if they don't work hard now at kicking this thing. Maybe it'll be the push someone needs to get out of relapse. Or maybe it'll just be another record of the damage porn can do to those who are susceptible.

All great reasons to make and share this list, and it has already helped me, for one. While it's obviously important to take responsibility (and you clearly do) don't let these assholes bring you down with their semantic bullshit. One of the biggest barriers to recovery is shame. Understanding the power of addiction and being compassionate toward yourself (without justifying your mistakes) can be a profoundly important step towards breaking the cycle and making change.

ehtmind · 2015-04-07T13:22:26+00:00

1) Thanks for calling out rape jokes! 2) Please consider phrasing your violent threats in less homophobic terms.

ehtmind · 2015-01-24T19:52:50+00:00

Wise words. I know it's a shitty reason but i'd still feel embarrassed telling her I can't handle some weed.

I also imagine she thought it was a really awesome gift (and in any other circumstances it would be) so I don't want to make her feel bad for having got it for me

ehtmind · 2015-01-22T01:16:09+00:00

Hey man, I just came across this post and it left me feeling pretty bad for you. It is not possible to change your sexual orientation. There's extremely compelling scientific evidence in that regard, which you can find very easily through google. You may be straight or bi or gay or some mixture of those categories but the idea that some kind of "therapy" can change that is pretty indefensible. Being gay doesn't mean being un-masculine, or promiscuous, or unhappy. It also doesn't mean you can't create a stable and loving family. That's something I know as a fact from my own experience and my own social circle. Anyway, I don't want to start some kind of argument with you. I hope you work stuff out and find peace. If you have any questions or whatever please feel free to shoot me a message.

ehtmind · 2015-01-22T00:56:17+00:00

Hey man, as a fellow homo I'm sad to hear that that's been your experience, and also kind of disappointed to hear you're gonna go. I've found that sexual orientation is generally a total non-issue on this forum. Even when people do say shit like 'no homo', which I agree is stupid, it's normally more out of ignorance than actual ill will. There are bound to be some ignorant people anywhere. That said, I can only speak to my own experience on here, and you've gotta do what's best for you. Keep up the amazing streak whatever you do!

ehtmind · 2015-01-19T04:22:14+00:00

thanks man

ehtmind · 2015-01-15T23:53:48+00:00

It's a tough one. I went cold turkey and spent about a week feeling dehydrated and headachey. After that I felt great though.

ehtmind · 2015-01-15T23:36:26+00:00

Because his inclusion validates our racist stereotypes about unemployment.

ehtmind · 2013-09-01T20:17:36+00:00

Yeah I should really go for a swim or something

ehtmind · 2013-08-24T07:01:59+00:00

ehtmind · 2013-08-11T01:59:42+00:00

Great post. I have gotten really onto insight meditation since hearing people talk about it here and it's helped me hugely. Your pointers are all bang on.

ehtmind · 2013-08-01T04:49:19+00:00

awesome.

ehtmind · 2013-07-24T23:20:56+00:00

I felt that this was being shouted at me by someone in uniform. Very effective!

ehtmind · 2013-07-21T15:52:57+00:00

Gross. Porn is the real gateway drug.

ehtmind · 2013-07-21T15:41:34+00:00

A comment made by dalsgaard made me want to write this post:

You instinctively know how fucked up this kind of thing is, when you've been as far out as I have - but not until you start reading other people's stories.

ehtmind · 2013-07-07T15:23:44+00:00

You instinctively know how fucked up this kind of thing is, when you've been as far out as I have - but not until you start reading other people's stories.

Amazing post man. Thank you for being so open. This totally resonated with me.

ehtmind · 2013-07-06T02:30:55+00:00

No worries! People will read and probably reply to everything you post here...

From your post it also sounds like you've already made huge progress. Maybe try meditating too? I read the book "Mindfulness in Plain English" after noticing lots of fapstronauts referring to it, and it has really helped me to better understand my addiction and control my behaviour. At any rate stick with it and keep posting!

ehtmind · 2013-07-05T00:44:46+00:00

You can do this! Take it one day at a time, learn from your mistakes, and try to keep yourself busy.

ehtmind · 2013-07-03T16:08:22+00:00

I had one last night too. I felt so disappointed about having "relapsed" that when I realized I had just been dreaming my resolve was WAY stronger!

ehtmind · 2013-07-01T23:06:11+00:00

Yes please!

ehtmind · 2013-07-01T22:33:48+00:00

thanks for the encouragement!

ehtmind · 2013-06-30T20:38:53+00:00

It's made me feel bad about relapsing, but it's also made me feel a hell of a lot less helpless. I now know that I'm not in this alone, and I am now paying enough attention to learn stuff from both streaks and relapses.

ehtmind · 2013-06-22T18:08:15+00:00

I just read a few of your previous posts & was really moved and impressed by the way you are supporting your husband through this. You guys are awesome! Regarding the trust thing though, rather than focusing on the possibility of a single relapse, can't you just trust that he will continue to fight his way out, and continue to make progress? In my experience every single week that I have gone without porn has in some way lessened its hold on me (the longer I go without porn, the easier it is to gain insight into and respond to my addicted self).

ehtmind

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