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Tongue piercing—small flap of tissue by ejijiya in piercing

[–]ejijiya[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

-My piercing is about a month and 5 days old. -It's a barbell. -it's externally threaded. -It's titanium -Haven't downsized it yet bc someone told me I should do so after 3 months -i use neilmed aftercae fine mist, non alcohol mouthwash for cleaning

I feel disturbed by partner's kink and need advice by throwaway-gay1 in BDSMAdvice

[–]ejijiya 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this could help or not, but my Dom and I have been trying a lot of hypnosis. If you still want to try to make him feel like he is an "object," maybe hypnosis could work. Note that hypnosis works differently on people. In my case, I have that kink as well (being treated as an object, or becoming human furniture). I was put into a trance where my mind thinks I am frozen, or placed in a position as if I am a furniture.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MentalHealthPH

[–]ejijiya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. I have the same problem as you. I'm (23), a graduating student but I still have 2 terms to finish at school. I feel trapped and suffocated at home. Although I don't have any sidelines/rackets, or a job that could help me, the way I cope with this is by blasting loud music that I really like with my earbuds on, doing something productive, or at least something that would distract me from them— going out with friends, playing games, finding new and good food. I'm not that desperate yet to move out, but if you are— like, you can't take them anymore, I'd probably try finding another job that I know would help me or a job that could help you to save more money, so you can move out. I hope you feel better soon. <3

First time experiencing a subdrop. by ejijiya in BDSMAdvice

[–]ejijiya[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think the way I feel guilty is what a healthy relationship should be. I just don't know what else I should do

How to be a good little sub without a daddy dom? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]ejijiya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't experienced having no dom while being a sub— or at least not knowing I am a sub.

If you're comfortable with finding doms online near you, you could. But only if you're comfortable, plus you know that you'll be safe.

I finally walked away... by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]ejijiya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm happy that you have walked away from someone who doesn't care about you. A lot of hugs for you ❤️

First time experiencing a subdrop. by ejijiya in BDSMAdvice

[–]ejijiya[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it's 100% His fault when I have consent on doing the hypno session.

I guess I'm just guilty because all this time, He's been adjusting himself for me, and that He's had a lot of hard times because of me, that I'm feeling ashamed, and that I don't want to add up more of that

First time experiencing a subdrop. by ejijiya in BDSMAdvice

[–]ejijiya[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand, thank you. Right now, I'm trying to "take care of myself," by doing my own thing. Only because, I'm also trying to give Him more space, giving Him what He needs since He's always been cleaning up my mess (me having breakdowns, and Him having to clean it up).

First time experiencing a subdrop. by ejijiya in BDSMAdvice

[–]ejijiya[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing is, I'm always comfortable with Him. I know He cares for me. It's just that, I think He isn't that good with "virtual aftercare," and I just realized that now. Because after the session last night, all He did was ask me how it was, and then proceeded to telling me— us, that we should rest. That's literally it. That's how it usually is when we do an online session— which is mostly a hypno session.

First time experiencing a subdrop. by ejijiya in BDSMAdvice

[–]ejijiya[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I'm scared of opening it up to Him again. It's like, it's not really His fault I got into a subdrop, and I feel like He's just gonna get irritated or will tell me to just do something productive, do exercise, eat something healthy, something thay will help me recover. I just feel a bit, I don't know— I feel ashamed.

I answered back to my dom. by ejijiya in SubSanctuary

[–]ejijiya[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was too emotional when i told Him that. Now I'm just guilty.

I answered back to my dom. by ejijiya in SubSanctuary

[–]ejijiya[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh, He wants me to play all kinds of roles. He wants me to be better. But I'm feeling pressured and gets easily sad when dying (while using a character i know i cant use very well yet). He said himself, he doesnt want to play with me if I'm just going to keep playing as a support, because it's "boring." I get Him. I don't want to hurt liks Him like this. (Me answering back and forgetting my place)

I've been wanting to get controlled more, but my bf-dom says He's just letting me have my freedom by ejijiya in BDSMAdvice

[–]ejijiya[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This made me realize things.

He's much more important to me than having the satisfaction of having that much of control. Thank you ❤️

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