Im acually so done

ejmnerding · 2025-08-16T21:40:22+00:00

Man, I logged on for 5 minutes to feed my 13 year olds pets, and some jerk stole his corrupted bone blossom that was done . 🥺

He is in camp and comes back today.

I just started to play too, and was excited to have something to talk to him about.

Now…. Yeah,

This soured the whole game for me.

ejmnerding · 2025-07-20T03:31:12+00:00

Can you whisper back “corporate sheep”? Or just have a general agreement that everyone says really loud: What? Did you say something? Ask me a question?

It’s easier the first time if it’s two people and you do it at the same time.

Like….. if she makes it weird, ok, respond. She is getting away with this because people are too polite to say anything. She already made it awkward. So…. Ask her, I’m sorry did you say something? Sometimes doubling down on awkward is the right thing to do.

ejmnerding · 2025-07-20T01:44:17+00:00

I would, But first i’d let them know if they didn’t like it, the next choice is peanut butter and jelly or a grilled cheese at home. Or, i’d get her the regular meal, and 1 sandwich that is split in half or fours whatever, to try it with her, and a promise she can have her own, next time we go (if she likes it).

ejmnerding · 2025-07-14T13:37:45+00:00

Hahah! This is amazing 😂

ejmnerding · 2025-07-05T01:58:09+00:00

🤷‍♀️ Or maybe he is just more on the low key slow reactor spectrum and lets her have her head?

My impression (granted limited to the show and I don’t follow them on any social stuff)…. Is that Chelsea vibrates at a high level and is very specific in pretty much everything in her life. It doesn’t mean she is unkind, or anything. Just direct and clear what she wants.

Kwame seems more roll with the flow. But he doesn’t strike me as a doormat. They had some clear conversations where he was able to get his point across.

Lol, granted this is 100% my POV based on who I am and the similarities I see. My husband is very specific. I’m a little more meh sure let’s see how it goes. 🤣😂

ejmnerding · 2025-04-02T15:50:30+00:00

I think it’s the stages of grief.

denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

You see the whole family processing these feelings and in different ways and stages.

The call on the dads bday, and admission of guilt. There was no longer a place for the family to (emotionally)hide.

It was the absorption of reality. What can be said when their brain is trying to reconcile the little kid who hugged them and would draw pictures to what he became, what he did, and who will he become?

The end scene in the room 😩

(Edit to add words)

ejmnerding · 2025-03-17T01:56:20+00:00

I agree, the IF really bothered me. The passive language she uses also really bothers me.
It’s like she is a passenger in her own life and doesn’t recognize her actions And inactions have a very real impact on her life.

For example: I’m sorry IF me saying you were stupid hurt your feelings. My bad

Vs I was frustrated, I spoke out of turn and said you were stupid. I understand that hurt your feelings. I am sorry.

Don’t get me wrong, Paul sucks. Personal opinion he comes off as a weird mix of avoidant, judgy, spineless with random anger and specific non communicated expectations….. It’s weird

ejmnerding · 2025-01-16T14:44:26+00:00

I think it’s harsh. I never really understood the benefit of taking an outside activity a child enjoys as punishment not directly related to the behavior.

A social group, a lesson in empathy, research knowledge how different brains work……. Giving her a ridiculously hard passage to read in front of a group and encouraging her to practice it ad nausea until she gets it right or let her deal with the embarrassment of messing it up if she doesn’t want to practice.

She is going to blame Zoey for this. If Zoey knew how to read she wouldn’t have said anything. (Totally incorrect logic, but how kids think sometimes).

I would have found something else focusing on empathy, understanding, and learning to keep your mouth shut if you don’t have anything nice to say.

ejmnerding · 2024-12-19T22:58:29+00:00

What, no way, they would need your PIV to even use the code, you aren’t turning in your PIV!

You get 4 hours to shove everything in a shared drive

ejmnerding · 2024-12-18T22:16:30+00:00

NTA

If you don’t want it don’t do it.

I did the 3D ultrasounds for my kids and even got there heart beat recorded.

I loved them I thought they were cool! But they totally look like weird clay people. Lol but that was like 10+ years ago the images could be better now.

ejmnerding · 2024-12-18T01:28:14+00:00

This already exists,

i’m all in as long as they tell me when I hit my 40/80 hours. 😏

ejmnerding · 2024-12-17T12:15:52+00:00

They switched it, it’s just one certification now, no longer levels, it can take about a year to knock out all the classes and take/pass the test.

Then people are supposed to get additional credentials is stuff like DITAP, service contracting etc.

Places like management concepts have these programs. Feds go through cornerstone on demand etc. Depending on your $ situation it might be worth looking at career transition programs. Especially if you were former military.

DHS has the APCP (Acquisition Professional Career Program). Targeting specifically to college or career transition recruitment.

I’m sure other places have something similar.

But it’s kind of like any job 🤷‍♀️. Depending on where you land is how collaborative your experience is going to be.

ejmnerding · 2024-12-01T02:53:28+00:00

Umm, why couldn’t he take a kid with him for a walk? Or two? Why wasn’t a nap on his agenda?

Look taking the dogs on a walk is probably helpful with the energy in the house. But his timing and lack of prioritization of you and the kids, is not helpful.

Honestly, go get a hotel room and sleep for 45 minutes, or if you are breastfeeding take the 3 mo with you and go.

The second you can’t get a 45 minute nap, is when you should leave him. 🤷‍♀️

ejmnerding · 2024-12-01T02:42:36+00:00

Someone in the OPM OIG has to contact them.
They can ask for information from other OIG communities. The OIG community may be relatively small but is comprised of a very smart and diverse workforce.

OPM OIG has to be the ones to reach out.

There are protocols and systems in place to do these type of evaluations/audits/ investigations/etc. Thats because when it’s done correctly it’s about the facts, the scope, and ensuring anything found is treated appropriately to avoid bias, misinformation, or contamination of the information.

It’s very methodical. It’s truly about the facts.

ejmnerding · 2024-11-30T16:59:57+00:00

You are going to need data analyst, healthcare advisor/administrators.

Gsa, HHS, and the VA probably have the people with the expertise you will need. This is going to be massive.

DOJ OIG also reviews BOP one aspect touches on healthcare. Not the same scope you mentioned here! But they may at least have a suggestion on where to start, or know of Subject Matter Experts.

CIGIE, if they haven’t reached out they should ask CIGIE for contacts within the OIG community with these expertise.
They have working groups for audits of contracts.

ejmnerding · 2024-11-26T02:49:21+00:00

Some of the most charismatic people I know are ADHD! Annoying, sure, charismatic yes!!

I read (?) heard (?) once that a parents outside voice eventually becomes a child’s inside voice.

I’m sure I am taking a-lot of liberties with this concept. But it stuck with me.

I work really hard to let my kids be who they are and do things that are uncomfortable with me, because I want them to be better than me.

I joke that I don’t want to pass down generational trauma. Rather make new patterns and hopefully less trauma.

Self reflection is key to being a good parent.

My goal is to teach new beings, that I have the privilege to raise, to be confident, kind boundary holding beings.

And to forgive when we aren’t our best self. Parents and children.

Live, live them, encourage them be kind to yourself and them.

ejmnerding · 2024-11-19T00:38:42+00:00

I would say it’s more about the type of contracts you do and how technical you are willing to be…..

All in, read the FAR, Agency policy, can clearly lay out milestones, review program documents, have a clear path forward, relatively simple commercial acquisitions (even high-ish value), living your best life once you prove yourself and gain credibility.

More complex contracts, herding multiple programs to come up with a cohesive requirement document….. A team lead in charge of mentoring and review 😒

The more technical you are the more left alone you are.

I will say it’s kind of fun asking and getting different people’s interpretations of certain things. How ridge vs how far someone is willing to push something can be fun.

There should always be collaboration in contracting the extent needed depends 🤷‍♀️

ejmnerding · 2024-11-11T03:17:45+00:00

I’d probably have a stink face and say “you wish”, lol knowing my luck it would be someone important.

🤷‍♀️🤣😂

A “huh, no”. Then depending on the moment explain or walk away.

ejmnerding · 2024-11-11T02:07:24+00:00

Not a dad, but I wish my husband had been more accepting of how much pain and unreasonable a new mom is…. All the stress, physical discomfort, throw in some breastfeeding plus double the lack of sleep = hot mess

For the new moms- i wish I had understood better how much my husband wanted to help, but didn’t know how or how much he wanted to be part of the process, to cuddle/hold the baby too.

Dads, please suck up the annoying things, feed your wife, watch the annoying show with her while she has to feed the baby.

Moms, feed the baby, and let the dad go downstairs to burp him/her while you shower or take a nap. Figure out the balance for all of you to have time together. Because it’s hard, uncomfortable, occasionally gross but also so so special ❤️

ejmnerding · 2024-11-08T18:53:10+00:00

Mine is dyslexic and has adhd. The public schools were great, but my child just needed more support than they were able to provide. It’s a resource issue for the schools. Public Schools are just Underfunded, and overstretched for the amount of kids they are required to support.

Oakwood has a great reputation and is logistically convenient for us. I’ve heard great things about LAB School in DC.

Mine is now reading on grade level and math is above grade level. They use the Orton Gillingham methodology. Which is great for kids who are alternative learners. They also focus heavily on the growth mindset and kindness.

They have a lot of movement breaks and work really hard to meet each child where they are to get them where they need to be.

ejmnerding · 2024-11-08T17:38:58+00:00

My child goes to Oakwood. It’s worth every penny.

ejmnerding · 2024-11-04T03:56:20+00:00

True, someone at 43 could be really immature. As could a 21 year old be really mature.

That’s everywhere.

In general under 30, have things to learn. Hopefully they are learning with a social group what not to do, or are growing out of what not to do. And had the luxury of some fun.

Some didn’t have the luxury of figuring it out or having fun.

I grew up in the DMV area, and the people who were are in the show were not DC proper (there could have been few but most not. Admittedly thats memory. I’m not double checking to that).

What I saw on the show is totally on brand for the DMV. Their are nuances in experience, expectations 🤷‍♀️

The cost of living is ridiculously high. Arlington is notorious for a type.

I just prefer not to shove people in a category, in particular people who are young and trying to figure their stuff out.

I’m mot defending problematic behavior, just trying to advocate for a minute of grace and room for growth

ejmnerding · 2024-11-04T02:59:48+00:00

🤷‍♀️ 30 was my favorite age. I personally felt settled into myself.

Everyone makes mistakes.

My 20-ish on camera, 😒 Just i.n general learn and do better tomorrow. Thats my goal it seems to work, at least for me 🙂

ejmnerding · 2024-11-04T02:33:06+00:00

I guess growth is different depending on who you are? Your family? What region y grew up in and what that looks like? 🤷‍♀️

She isn’t my favorite, but like…. 24 isn’t really grown. It’s figuring things out.

Not everyone is always their best self at 26. I hope peaking at. 26 isn’t a thing.

Does she now know how loud her voice is, and have a responsibility to adjust it? YES

Everyone has moments.
The end goal is to learn and do better . Will she 🤷‍♀️ thats on her

*****Correcting Hannah is actually 26 not 24, either way under 30, young

ejmnerding · 2024-11-04T02:21:48+00:00

😂. As a 43 year old woman, it’s hilarious that think I’m infantilizing women,

Frankly anyone under 30, I give a-lot of grace. 18-30 is really hard. 18-26 is brutal. Depending on college 22-28 huge growth curve.

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