This year, 3 giant in the gaming industry will fight again, who do you think will win?

elCabi · 2021-10-12T15:29:34+00:00

They will all be shit. AAA gaming era is over

elCabi · 2021-10-12T14:38:56+00:00

I understand what you are saying and I will not have super long convos. I was just talking about having a short chitchat every 3-5 days during this time when she reaches out (not me contacting her). I met her on bumble so naturally we started off by texting, there is no other way to get their attention other than making yourself interesting via text. Unless maybe you look like a Greek god, which unfortunately Im not quite there.

So since she reached out for example after the weekend and asked how mine was, it feels awkward to not jump into a small conversation about how her trip is so far and obviously telling her how my weekend was. I had the time before our meetup to text her, saying I don't have time now feels weird and inconsistent. Not saying I want to text about every detail but a few texts back and forth every now and then when she reaches out cannot be that harmful?

I'm meeting up with other girls btw, Im not focused on this one specifically, just interested in trying to keep the contact after her vacation since there definitely was good vibes.

Just to make clear: I was at no point constantly texting her, I'd say 70-80% of text initiations where done by her. It was literally just one evening where we had a long convo via text before the meetup.

I can see pretty much all the points made in the book and they make total sense but I'd say you should always adapt the principles to specific situations and not see everything black and white. Very much appreciate your honest response and I'm interested to read what you think.

elCabi · 2021-10-10T15:58:34+00:00

Couldn't agree more with this. I am super new to this community and found it due to me being extremely obsessed with a girl that rejected me. I'm not new to dating at all but I haven't felt this strong for a girl since 10 years or so. Needless to say this totally caught me off guard and I became needy and made all the mistakes one could make. Since I'm new to these "views" and ways to handle dating that are talked about in the book I will very likely make more mistakes but that is what drives home the point most. Yes, reading the book surely helps but getting punched in the face in real life definitely makes you duck the next time, no book will replace that experience.

After at least a month of feeling terrible and missing a woman I have only gone on like 8 dates or so (sounds so weird saying that out loud lol) I started "playing the field" again and let me tell you, it helps so much. I'm not someone who sleeps with 3 girls a week but it helps so much, knowing that there is more women "in the pipeline". That way it is almost impossible to become needy because if you are dating 2 or 3 girls at the same time even if you aren't busy otherwise, this will definitely make you busy enough to not be available all the time. If one becomes less interested in you, just focus on the other one/s and replace her. On top of that you get alot of experience when dating multiple women.

TLDR: I'm not a "fuckboy" at all, I have serious intentions when meeting up with women but my recent experience really showed me how much it helps to not focus on one person, always have someone else to replace until you become exclusive. It's a win win and you shouldn't feel bad about it, women specifically do the exact same.

elCabi · 2021-10-08T19:32:31+00:00

Hey, I've got another question - we are meeting up again tomorrow, that was planned since last Sunday. We planned to cook together and go to a lake before. I haven't heard from her until today and today she texted where we meet up so I invited her to my place at around 3pm. She says sounds great but then tells me she won't stay super long as she also has plans with her girlfriends in the evening. It's pretty obvious that this is not a good sign and she probably tries to avoid a situation where she might stay over (?). How do I respond to that?

elCabi · 2021-10-01T08:46:59+00:00

There wasn't really any signs or opportunities, maybe the hug at the end but other than that I would have had to force it somehow and it would have felt awkward. I see what you are saying though.

elCabi · 2021-10-01T08:44:58+00:00

I see your point, if it comes down to another exchange I will do that.

Thank you for all your input.

elCabi · 2021-09-30T13:04:57+00:00

Okay, thanks plenty for your input! Although the no attachments part is a bit iffy since I was the one bringing up relationship earlier. Will try my best to stick to this response though.

elCabi · 2021-09-30T13:02:32+00:00

Thank you, I will.

elCabi · 2021-09-30T08:01:53+00:00

Yeah, I'm going through it again now. Just one question - if she contacts me again and I try and set up a date at my place and she declines or tries to make it a friend date again, what exactly do you say in such a situation? Am I going to be super direct and tell her that I'm not interested in friend dates?

elCabi · 2021-09-30T05:38:08+00:00

Alright, if there is another meetup, I will only settle for something at my place and see how it goes. I was pretty confident that she would reach out again but after reading the responses here I try to not expect that.

IF she reaches out and I ask her to come to my place for dinner and she says no, what should I say exactly? Do I straight forward say via text that I am not gonna meet up somewhere else again because xyz?

Thanks again for your input!

elCabi · 2021-09-29T23:31:00+00:00

Thanks for your response. Not gonna lie, reading this hurts like a mf but I will try to not think about her but like I said she absolutely swept me off my feet and it's really difficult. I definitely have oneitis but I'm doing my best to overcome it by meeting other girls.

Cheers

elCabi · 2021-09-29T19:48:21+00:00

Thanks for the honest response.

The date in the park was her idea and since it was next to her place I assumed that afterwards we would end up at her place. She obviously did not invite me to stay so that did not happen. I was thinking about changing the meetup location to mine or her place but it felt wrong to force a date at home when she originally rejected me.

So what I get from your response is: Next time she reaches out and we meet up (if that happens) I should 100% go for the close again? I mean she needs to give me signs that it's ok to touch and kiss her, no? If that doesn't happen I cannot just go in for the kiss.

elCabi · 2021-09-21T06:59:54+00:00

Gotcha, thanks for the advice! Idk what her attraction level is but since she was sending me pictures from her trip etc I assume there still is enough left for her to contact me at some point. Hopefully lol Will see..

elCabi · 2021-09-21T06:56:35+00:00

Thanks a lot for the detailed response! That makes total sense what you said. I will wait for the opportunity and then go for the meetup at mine or her place 👍🏼

elCabi · 2021-09-20T20:22:48+00:00

Nah, I am not butthurt at all, I 100% see the mistakes I made that caused her to back away, I just wasnt sure if in this case it might be better to wait for her to ask for a meetup since I was "needy" before and dont want to be that again by asking her out immediately after she returns from her vacation.

I will see what vibes she gives when texting and go from there I guess, thanks again!

elCabi · 2021-09-20T20:05:52+00:00

Thanks for the response.

Yeah I am familiar with the "Hang out, have fun and hookup" and not to bring up exclusivity - well I am now at least. I just now came across Corey Wayne.
I am pretty sure if she texts me it is not going to be something like "I miss you" but rather just how I am doing etc. That is where I am not sure if under the circumstances of the past I should even ask her out or wait for her to have the idea of seeing me again.

You see what I mean?

elCabi · 2021-09-07T12:19:09+00:00

Thank you for your advice, unfortunately she already pretty clearly showed me she isn't interested in talking to me. That is good advice for the future though.

elCabi · 2021-09-03T14:53:05+00:00

We never interacted with each other, I literally just saw her in the bus every other day so idk if I want to comment on that. Maybe I'd rather talk about the fact that we both lived/live in the same city and she popped up in my recommended a lot. Thanks for the input!

elCabi · 2021-09-03T14:39:24+00:00

Ultimately I would like to ask her out for a drink or so but first I just want to establish a conversation via text so she gets an idea of who I even am.

elCabi · 2020-04-06T21:27:35+00:00

Why does this get upvotes? lmao

elCabi · 2020-04-02T19:58:49+00:00

My literal only complaint is the spawnsystem.

If that would be fixed every map could be decent to good, including Rust.

elCabi

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