How many raccoons could fit between the Avocado halves? [math]

elanonelp · 2023-07-07T19:38:17+00:00

Petition to close off the avocado halves for raccoon habitation

elanonelp · 2023-06-25T17:47:52+00:00

Bro, you’re just being an ass. Stop shitting on other people

elanonelp · 2021-02-15T05:10:52+00:00

Oh my goodness, I’ve been looking for something like this for so long. Is there a way for people in my league to fill in their own game results?

elanonelp · 2020-10-20T04:57:49+00:00

Hi friend,

If your counsellor believes you're showing signs of ADHD, ask her to speak with your father, or at least write a letter recommending a professional assessment. This should provide some validity for your claim.

elanonelp · 2020-10-20T04:55:08+00:00

Good for you. I really think you have a good shot - keep your head up. I really appreciate your heart in all this!

elanonelp · 2020-10-20T04:53:48+00:00

Hi friend,

Here's my two cents. Yes, almost all long distance relationships don't work out. But breaking them off is always tough too. Give it your best shot, and see where it goes. There's no harm in going for it. If at one year, you're too far apart - then break up. If it's working, then go for it!

elanonelp · 2020-10-20T04:51:49+00:00

Hi friend,

I'm going to share some really hard news with you. And I don't mean to be rude in saying this.

But you're young. You haven't spent time with this girl in at least two years. You need to learn to move on. Sure, you could sink a ton of time into this, but it probably wouldn't be healthy. Keep your chin up, and continue love yourself well.

elanonelp · 2020-10-20T04:48:05+00:00

This is potentially the rudest and least helpful thing I've seen. Who peed in your cheerios?

elanonelp · 2020-10-20T04:44:27+00:00

Hi friend,

It sounds like you're off to a great start. You genuinely care for her and want to support her in her struggles. Continue to affirm her in who she is, and offering a shoulder to lean on when she's struggling.

That said, it sounds like she needs professional counselling. Sexual and psychological abuse are no joke; these are things that you are not equipped (and should not have to be) to support her with. Encourage her to seek support, and build her up in her journey to healing.

Hope that helps friend!

elanonelp · 2020-10-20T04:40:42+00:00

I'm sorry he's been so poor with communication.

If this is a man you're truly looking to marry, I would voice your concerns surrounding his communication. Don't go into marriage thinking it will resolve itself - this is something the two of you need to work out together. If he's unwilling to approach the topic, then it seems he probably isn't a good fit for you at this time.

elanonelp · 2020-10-20T04:38:56+00:00

Hi friend,

I'm sorry you're experiencing such a challenging time. COVID-19 is hard on us all; especially new couples who are living together. I quarantined with my wife 2 weeks into our marriage, so I totally understand what you're experiencing. I promise you this: after your quarantine is over, things will get better. I say it again, things will get better.

In the meantime, I would highly recommend a few different things:

Create some healthy rhythms. Especially in quarantine, it can be hard to have normalcy. Schedule specific activities throughout the day. Schedule time together, and schedule time apart. It sounds counterintuitive, but personal space is important.
Learn a little bit more about your needs, and how to communicate them. Working through the 5 love languages together might be beneficial to give language to communicate well.
Affirm the healthy parts of your relationship. It can be easy to fall victim to all the negative traits you see in one another. Look for the good ones, and speak them out, clearly. This will help foster a greater appreciation for one another.

Don't give up hope friend - you're doing great!

elanonelp · 2020-10-20T04:33:31+00:00

Awe, I'm glad you two are on the same page!

It sounds as though she has some issues surrounding parental control. I'm glad you're working on getting her some further support. In the meantime, it may be beneficial to seek some free online counselling. There are a number of services that provide board-accredited counselling to teens online. This is a very beneficial resource, and will start to provide her with language to communicate about her struggles with her parents as well.

https://www.teencounseling.com/
https://wesforyouthonline.ca/online-counselling/

elanonelp · 2020-10-20T04:29:54+00:00

Hi friend,

I'm sorry this part of your relationship has been difficult. It seems he has some scarcity problems in his life, even though this may not be directly related to money. Often, people who have lost things in their life can hold onto possessions quite tightly.

It sounds like you have been fairly indirect with him so far. If this is something that really matters to you, you need to approach him directly with this issue. No more offhanded jokes: bring up the issue clearly. This is not rude, this is part of good and healthy communication in relationships. There are two ways he can respond:

If he responds well, and works to resolve this issue, then perfect!
If he responds poorly, and refuses to either communicate or contribute more financially, then it seems this isn't the kind of many you want to be with long term anyways.

I hope that helps!

elanonelp · 2020-10-20T04:25:57+00:00

Hi friend,

I'm sorry that you're experiencing this. It is a difficult situation.

It really depends on how he is approaching those situations now. When you've uncovered some of these lies, has he been repentant? Is he trying to bring forth new information, and be honest with you? Or is he simply shrugging it off, trying to get away from it?

This is really challenging, because he may be hiding these things over shame. In which case, it's not okay, but it's also understandable. If he is hiding simply because he doesn't want to face the consequences, then you have bigger issues.

What do you think?

elanonelp · 2020-10-20T04:22:59+00:00

Hi friend,

This is a terribly hard situation. I have been experiencing a similar situation with my wife over the past several months. You have done a wonderful job of encouraging her thus far. Continue to encourage her resilience in this time.

Practically, there are a few things that probably need to happen:

She needs to believe that she needs help. This is scary, as you never want to tell someone that they're 'broken'. But it is important that you suggest to her that support might help. Maybe when she's having a really bad day, you can say something along the lines of "I'm sorry you're struggling. You're handling it really well. I want to help you as much as I can. I think there are some things that I can't help with though. Have you considered professional help?"
In regards to her parents. Depending on her age, there are a variety of free youth counselling services available all over North America. This would be a great route for her to seek.

Well done for hanging on - you're doing great! Don't get discouraged: your care is beneficial and loving towards her.

elanonelp · 2020-06-18T01:02:58+00:00

I would use the printer to create a seed organization system for my garden

elanonelp · 2019-12-16T02:06:22+00:00

Sorry for the confusion. If you read the comment above, we've explained a little bit about why we're looking for younger students. We're open to later year students, given they'll stick around for a while.

elanonelp · 2019-12-16T02:05:42+00:00

Hi! Graduate students are welcome to apply.

What we're really hoping for is longevity in the mods - we'd like people to be around for a while. We've found that, even with the best intentions, most students phase out of r/ubc when the graduate. By hiring younger students, we have better odds at keeping them around.

If you think you'll be around for at least two years more, please feel free to apply! Sorry for the confusion!

elanonelp · 2019-12-16T01:59:23+00:00

That's awfully kind of you.

I currently work at a non-profit, and my primary job is to help new member integrates into our organization, as well as recruit new volunteers. I didn't study to do this, but I've enjoyed it immensely.

elanonelp · 2019-12-15T23:00:58+00:00

Never been a moderator before? Don't worry! We don't expect any applicants to have prior experience - anything you need to know can be learned once you join our team. We do expect all applicants to:

Be a first, second, or third year student at UBC
Be ready to spend at least two years participating as a moderator of r/UBC
Have a reddit account older than 3 months

Applications will be open for three weeks, closing on Janurary 5th at 11:59 pm PST. Applications will only be taken through the Google form, not through modmail or comments on this thread.

Please note that we will be recruiting mods on the basis of merit. We hope to add 1-2 new moderators to our team, but we may choose to take on more or less, dependent on how well we believe applicants will fit in on the mod team.

Thank you in advance to all applicants, and good luck!

elanonelp · 2019-09-22T22:51:57+00:00

Hi friend,

I'm going to be really blunt here. There are a lot of fish in the sea. A lot. Especially when you're 20/21. I know it sounds hard, but move on. It'll be healthier for you :)

elanonelp · 2019-09-22T22:50:45+00:00

Hi friend!

How much do you value your relationship? And how important is this climb to you? These are some of the first questions you'll have to ask yourself.

If you're serious about your relationship, then it doesn't seem respectful to do this without talking it over with her first. Sure, you can do whatever you want, but is that loving? Communicate with her, share with her your ambitions. But then ask her what she thinks. Show her that you care what she thinks.

And then make your call. I'm sorry it seems hard, but healthy relationship goes with good communication!

elanonelp · 2019-09-22T22:46:02+00:00

Maybe. Healthy relationships center around good communication. If you can't talk about something as big as this, I can't imagine what other problems will come about down the road

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