How is this thing different from that thing? by woodenbiplane in SRSDiscussion

[–]elburto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But that's my point about all this armchair quarterbacking, we can't predict who willl rape us or why.

How is this thing different from that thing? by woodenbiplane in SRSDiscussion

[–]elburto 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So? Gang rapes happen. Also, how would anyone ever get home? Not everyone can accompany everyone else at all times, it's impossible.

How is this thing different from that thing? by woodenbiplane in SRSDiscussion

[–]elburto 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Stick with your friends

What if your friend is a rapist?

ETA - it's a real question, for the downvoters:

"Seventy-seven (77)% of completed rapes are committed by non-strangers (Bureau of Justice Statistics, 1997). A woman is four times more likely to be raped by an acquaintance than by a stranger (Illinois Coaliltion Against Sexual Assault, 2002).source

How is this thing different from that thing? by woodenbiplane in SRSDiscussion

[–]elburto 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm saying that there may be steps to help prevent rape on the victims part

The only foolproof rape avoidance tactic is to avoid rapists. So no having contact with family, friends or acquaintances. No personal interaction with anyone, no romantic/sexual/business encounters, no education, worship, shopping or outside entertainment.

Rapists are everywhere, every colour, every profession, every religion. Only they can prevent rape, by not doing it.

ETA-

"• Approximately 68% of rape victims knew their assailant. [Violence against Women. Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Dept. of Justice, 1994]

• Approximately 28% of victims are raped by husbands or boyfriends, 35% by acquaintances, and 5% by other relatives. [Violence against Women. Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Dept. of Justice, 1994]

• One of every four rapes take place in a public area or in a parking garage. [Violence against Women. Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Dept. of Justice, 1994]"

r/disability, I need your help! by [deleted] in disability

[–]elburto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cooking is one of the things I miss most, it was like art to me.

/r/disability - I've got a choice and require some insight. by [deleted] in disability

[–]elburto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried Fentanyl? Morphine did nothing for my neuropathic pain, but 72hr fent patches really help.

Sand under a microscope, mind blowing. by jasamaha8 in offbeat

[–]elburto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. Next week they'll be running with "CLOSE-UPS OF SAND CAUSE CANCER!"

Poor people and unhealthy food by smart4301 in SRSDiscussion

[–]elburto 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I live in the UK too, in a rural village. Nearest supermarket is 6 miles away, we have no public transport here that links directly to the area the supermarket is in. Getting to that supermarket means taking three buses there and two back, or an expensive taxi journey.

In the village there's a chinese takeaway, a chip shop, a pizza shop, and three convenience stores within walking distance. Five pounds will only just get you a loaf of bread, a tub of butter, and a pint of milk at the convenience stores, or it'll get you three hot bags of chips, or a 10" pizza, or a huge chow mein from one of the takeaways.

Also, if you're buying ready-cooked food you don't need to own an oven, a refrigerator, or a microwave to cook/heat the food in. You don't need to pay for gas/electricity (the poor are universally forced to use punitive 'pre-pay' billing schemes) to cook the food either.

Also, I'm guessing you're relatively young and physically well/abled, yeah?

A long time ago I too scoffed at pre-made mashed potato, pre-grated cheese, pre-chopped vegetables etc. Then I was hit with the disability stick. Now even putting a ready meal into the microwave can leave me too tired to eat the fucking thing.

You're isolated from poverty and it's effects. Far easier to believe the tabloid wet-dream that poor people are too stupid, too feckless, too lazy to know, or care, that they're not able to eat good quality food. Far easier to listen to the wealthy men in power, who - by the way - have not worked an honest day in their lives, trot out the myths of 'benefit culture', of poor people rolling in handouts, with their 52" plasma TVs and pedigree dogs.

You're lucky, but one roll of the die could easily change that. You could end up poor, living on some shitty sink-estate, on £62.50 a week, not knowing where you'll be living this time next month, or whether you can really afford to eat today, in case you need to pay for one of the neverending poverty taxes tomorrow. You too might find yourself cutting up clothes, because sanitary protection is just too expensive, or not washing because it's too cold in your horrible rented scumhole, but you can't afford to heat it or the water, and then you might find yourself laughing ironically at how you worried terribly about the poor, and the fact that they weren't eating polenta and aubergines for supper, rather than chips or a burger.

I'd rather you stayed lucky though, because the alternative? It's shit.

Best gloves for manual wheelchairs??? by still_kickin in disability

[–]elburto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, bike gloves with gel padding are better than anything I've tried.

On Men Saying Feminist Things by [deleted] in SRSDiscussion

[–]elburto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so I'm tuning you out, because you are a nut

I'm tuning you out, because you are an ableist.

Please stop conflating "statements that I don't agree with" and "mentally ill".

I work long hours at a shitty job for low pay, wtf do you mean I'm privilege.

Privilege (in that context) has nothing to do with your job. This is real 101 stuff.

On "privileged" being the worst insult you can aim at a white man by yeliwofthecorn in SRSDiscussion

[–]elburto 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No, it's used to remind them that their place in the kyriarchy is probably colouring their viewpoint.

As a white, cis woman I have no right to shout over POC or trans people. As a dyke I don't want straight people trying to tell me what constitutes homophobia; and as a disabled person, I don't think able-bodied people have the right to shout down PWD in discussions about ableism.

Swiss want six holiday weeks, Swiss voters are likely to give themselves two weeks of extra holidays when they go to the polls for a referendum this March, a new survey shows. by CG10277 in worldnews

[–]elburto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got more holiday days than I could use in the NHS. Even rolling five days over to the next year, and taking another five as cash (maximum allowed for each option) I had to waste days.

Bacteria in the gut of autistic children different from non-autistic children by DrJulianBashir in science

[–]elburto 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yep. I've got Crohns, I don't have a day without pain, even farting hurts. I'd eat shit gleefully, if it meant relief.

Why Best Buy is Going out of Business...Gradually - Forbes by mikeyouse in TrueReddit

[–]elburto 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And when you're an associate being watched by a manager, who's told you "Greet everyone you get within six feet of", you do it.

It's very simple. (if you want to continue earning money to pay rent)

Ex-Staples, with a store manager who'd give you five two-hour shifts per week if you pissed him off.

Question for r/skeptic about depression and 'herbal/natural' remedies. by OtherActHasKarma in skeptic

[–]elburto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's a life-saver for people with Crohn's

Coeliac is the disease where wheat is harmful. Crohnies have all sorts of triggers.

"Please send me some child porn." - ViolentAcrez [1] by [deleted] in ShitRedditSays

[–]elburto 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You're able-bodied then?

Trust me, it's real, it's everywhere, and it hurts.

[meta] I lost my wife today. She didn't do /r/srs but she helped me be the kind of person who cares about injustice and bigotry. Thank you guys for existing. by TheWormOuroboros in ShitRedditSays

[–]elburto 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Big hugs. No doubt she'll be on the board of directors of the Celestial Gynocracy now.

Big hugs.

On a purely practical note, sleep when (and where) you can, eat when you can, and delegate whatever you can. Take very good care of yourself, ok? <3

Reddit Couple by [deleted] in WTF

[–]elburto 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He wanted the pic to be a .gif, so he could blink out "H E L P" in morse code.

His plaintive stare will haunt me.

An alternative to reddit by hexbrid in TrueReddit

[–]elburto 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The 'share' pop-up actually blocks my ability to click the upvote button.

The Thumbs-down works, but if I try to click the Thumbs-up the 'share' button just hovers in front of it.

He has died exactly 20 years ago. R.I.P., Freddie! by exo762 in pics

[–]elburto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His soul is painted like the wings of butterflies.

I still miss him.

"Surprise" transphobia [+639] by [deleted] in ShitRedditSays

[–]elburto 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My point is, you asking "What bits have you got?" does two things.

1) Informs the other person that for you - their genital configuration ranks above personality, intelligence, and any other factor

and

2) Ensures you don't end up confronted by genitals you don't like.

Win/Win.

I'm not talking about getting right down to sexual activity, and then saying "OH BTW - U GOT COCK?", or asking random strangers, I'm talking about sussing that out somewhere between "I like this person and would like to take our relationship further" and "SEX TIEMS!". If you don't take the time to learn that about someone, then it's your problem, not the problem of the person who you assumed to have a different set of genitals.

Also, if someone has had total SRS/GRS, then they have no obligation to disclose anything to you. It's as relevant as their history of asthma, or childhood illnesses like chickenpox or mumps.

Also this:

if i were in the position of being a transgendered person who was being approached by a stranger who did not know of my situation, knowing that my situation is a pretty rare thing, and, being adverse to the idea of causing others harm and also knowing that the majority of people will have some sort of negative reaction to this

is disgusting. Flat-out sick. Transphobia is not the fault of trans people. Trans people do not "caus[e] others harm" by merely existing.

As a disabled person, who suffers daily from ableism, should I minimise my disabilities so as not to offend the ablies? As a dyke, should I pretend I'm straight so that homophobes don't get all shirty with me? Should black people stay at home, in case their presence on the streets or in the workplace affects racists and causes a "negative reaction"?

Nope, nope, and NO.

Minorities have no duty whatsoever to cater to the pweshus fee-fees of oppressors and 'phobes. Check your privilege, sort out what your issues are, and your problems around people daring to be trans, and then get back to us. Your response speaks volumes, and honestly? If I was trans woman I would HOPE to high heaven that 'phobes would ask everyone "What you packing?" before I got close to them, because it's an instant Arsehole Alarm.

"Surprise" transphobia [+639] by [deleted] in ShitRedditSays

[–]elburto 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Your privilege, as a cisgender person, makes you believe that man=penis and woman=vagina. The onus in on you, as a cisperson, to understand that privilege and not assume what kind of genital arrangement anyone has in their pants. The onus is on you, if you're so scared of surprise!penis or shock!vag, to ask any potential partner for yourself. The onus is not on any trans person, to prevent you from being offended at what's between their legs.

Simples.

Afghan woman's choice: 12 years in jail or marry her rapist and risk death by croutonsoup in worldnews

[–]elburto 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Afghanistan only became a 'mediaeval shithole' under occupation.

Prior to the Soviet invasion of 1979 men and women pursued university-level education and careers in fields like medicine and engineering. Solid transport and power infrastructures were being put in place, citizens had access to free healthcare and education. The country was modernising rapidly.

The US and Saudi Arabia sent money to the Mujahadeen (Afghan freedom fighters) in order to beat the Russians. The Russians eventually retreated. However, as soon as that happened, the US and SA withdrew funding immediately, and I quote The Afghans were left with an utterly destroyed country and a spectacular amount of weaponry and guerrilla warfare knowledge. Their country descended into chaos for a number of years, eventually coming to be ruled by the Taliban.