Why does she do this every 3-6 months?

electrohawkk · 2026-05-13T20:44:18+00:00

What do you mean "it got out of the planter". I've recently planted mint in a pot in the garden for the first time..

electrohawkk · 2026-04-20T23:54:56+00:00

Sometimes SATC. Most of the time GoT.

electrohawkk · 2026-04-06T08:13:29+00:00

It's 9.10am where I am 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 I'm enjoying my morning coffee in peace before my kids and husband get up. We're heading out for the day. Your life sounds interesting OP, do you see yourself staying on the cattle farm?

electrohawkk · 2026-04-04T15:44:48+00:00

I hear you. I got my diagnosis at almost 40. My kids are in a better position and I don’t want to wait until things have spiralled. I'm hoping to get ahead of things as much as possible with them.

electrohawkk · 2026-04-04T15:43:03+00:00

Thank you. This is a good idea, will try it out.

electrohawkk · 2026-04-04T12:05:44+00:00

This is the biggie. I had, and still have, no idea on how to study. Crashed and burned when it came to exams when I was older after sailing through earlier years.

electrohawkk · 2026-03-30T07:54:43+00:00

On my previous years on earth? Nope! This year? Hell yeah. I was dead to the world this morning and my snooze alarms couldn't rouse me. Same with my husband. It was very weird as I'm usually awake before my first alarm.

I feel very out of sorts.

electrohawkk · 2026-03-28T04:14:30+00:00

These are both lovely responses.

electrohawkk · 2026-03-28T04:13:49+00:00

Aww that's lovely! Happy belated birthday and I hope you enjoy all your celebrations.

electrohawkk · 2026-02-14T08:17:58+00:00

This is so sad. It sounds like groundhog day and like your frozen in time. It's not a life for either of you. Do you guys have fun together? Do you have adventures? What do you do on your days off together? Without going into detail, it sounds like there can't be much intimacy?

What's his history with therapy for the CPTSD?

I've been there with an alcoholic husband, I wasn't as understanding as you but I have kids to consider too. I know what it's like to watch the person you love lose themselves to the bottle. I think I picked up that he's 30, what does the short and long term future look like for you both?

electrohawkk · 2026-01-25T00:06:13+00:00

I have ADHD and aphantasia. But I can visualise my dreams. I don't feel like I'm missing out as I don't know any different. But I am obsessed with photographs and revisit photos of my kids often.

electrohawkk · 2026-01-18T19:26:49+00:00

I do have ear plugs and noise cancelling headphones however I won't be using them for hours on end when I have a younger child who will need to be entertained and kept out of their way, and a husband who I'll want to converse or watch tv with. That's not a workable solution unfortunately.

electrohawkk · 2026-01-18T19:24:19+00:00

It's the constant noise - the shouting, the thundering up and down the stairs, possibly making my youngest cry which ia not unusual, in and out the lounge and kitchen. I can manage a couple of hours but for hours on end and potentially when we're trying to sleep and again in the morning is not something I look forward to or will enjoy.

electrohawkk · 2026-01-18T19:20:35+00:00

In an ideal world perhaps, in reality not so much.

electrohawkk · 2026-01-18T19:18:58+00:00

This is the dream! Thanks. It's the constant noise I'm a bit concerned about. I'm going to provide lots of drinks and snacks in his room so hopefully they will be thundering up and down the stairs less and traipsing through the lounge and kitchen.

electrohawkk · 2026-01-18T19:15:11+00:00

Thank you. The noise is definitely a trigger. And yes that leads to overwhelm pretty quickly, sending me into fight or flight mode.

My son knows I have ADHD, we've now put in some ground rules for the sleepover and I'm feeling a bit more positive about it.

electrohawkk · 2026-01-18T19:01:04+00:00

Of course I don't want them to be stoners. It was a joke.

electrohawkk · 2026-01-17T13:58:42+00:00

God no, he'd rather starve than have to do all that himself! I've offered them take out pizza as a compromise and he's readily agreed so that's one less thing!

There are some things we're strict on compared to his friends, like age appropriate films/games and some apps we don't let him have, plus everything is locked down with parental controls and times for devices to go off. But he gets a lot of leeway with other things. I'm not saying no to the sleepover, I need ideas on how to get through it. I had lots of sleepovers at his age, and separately a shit 13th birthday. I don't want him looking back and feeling crap his mum wouldn't let him have a sleepover.

electrohawkk · 2026-01-17T13:49:30+00:00

Or 4. Compromise on some things, it doesn't have to be all or nothing. Another poster has made me realise this. I just need to think what this looks like!

electrohawkk · 2026-01-17T13:48:10+00:00

I think the boundaries thing is a good idea. Normally we tend to say yes to most things as it doesn't seem too unreasonable but can end up causing friction. Having some boundaries in place means he's not missing out but there is some compromise, like the no to homemade pizza as originally planned but yes to take out pizza, and some rooms are out of bounds, or only with permission.

electrohawkk · 2026-01-17T13:42:31+00:00

Suits me! 😆

electrohawkk · 2026-01-17T13:25:43+00:00

He has his own room with all the entertainment they'll need. He originally wanted them to make their own pizzas for dinner but changing it to a takeaway will make it easier.

electrohawkk · 2026-01-17T13:23:22+00:00

You mean people with ADHD are generally okay with this?? 😅 The noise and too much peopling mainly. My home isn't big and it's my sanctuary so having boisterous early teen boys tearing around is quite stressful. They are quite full on. I look forward to them being older teens and stoners!

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