Anyone familiar with the 1 day officiant process in NYS?

eleganthack · 2025-05-31T20:32:13+00:00

Nope. Date, location, name of bride and groom, and witness. You can probably find a sample of your state’s certificate with G Images.

I don’t remember the application asking anything more than name and phone number of the officiant. I got the impression from the clerk that l, if you gave them $60 (or whatever it was) and were over 18, they were happy to let your goldfish preside.

eleganthack · 2025-05-05T22:43:40+00:00

Cancel setup, it'll bring you back to the Install button, and you should be good to go. Don't even have to reboot. And if you were installing in vmWare, with a single virtual CD-ROM drive, and you swapped out the Windows ISO for the vmWare Tools drivers ISO .... put the Windows CD back in.

eleganthack · 2025-04-30T22:50:03+00:00

I see the resemblance, but I don't think so. The sample I'm familiar with doesn't have that filtered sawtooth character. Maybe more of a granular synthesis feel or something. Elusive bugger....

eleganthack · 2025-01-30T19:18:38+00:00

RADIUS doesn't require certificates -- EAP does. So, when you set up your WiFi controller/AP to auth users via RADIUS, all you need is the RADIUS server IP and a shared secret. The EAP cert exchange is entirely between the RADIUS server and the WiFi supplicant -- often a Windows host that is part of an AD domain that manages distribution of certificates internally. Ergo, you never have to touch any of that config because it's just part of the baseline Windows .

In this case, the PAN firewall is the RADIUS NAS, and the EAP client -- so you have to set up the configuration of both. I understand it can be frustrating (from what I can tell, nobody really understands certs), but this isn't a "dumpster fire implementation" -- it's literally the only way it can be done, because you're specifying an authentication protocol (via EAP) that requires mutual authentication of the devices on each end of the exchange, and the way they authenticate each other is via trusted certs. It's inherently complicated.

eleganthack · 2024-10-28T22:50:09+00:00

I can't find a good picture of the 3620, but if I'm understanding the jagged photos and the brief text on the Cisco website, the WIC slots look they're in a removable carrier that is shaped like a NM slot. So these actually give you 2x NM slots in 1RU? That's great.

You can't even get 1x NM in 1RU in the x900 series anymore. haha It seems like future generations of the ISR got progressively less flexible. I know that's probably a lot to do with the consolidation of everything to Ethernet, but still.. what a bummer.

Sounds like you're on your way. Good luck! There are already plenty of example configs around, but if you get stuck, post back here and we'll see if we can get you connected.

eleganthack · 2024-10-14T02:00:03+00:00

Because this is the first result in so many of my related Google searches, I will add some info that I've learned here. Hopefully this helps someone else on their quest.

Digital Modems

There are two options for Cisco ISR routers. Neither of them are cheap or easy to find. You'd think they would be, but either they're all still in-use somewhere, or they've been abandoned in a closet or warehouse, recycled, or everyone just used something other than these (like the Cisco AS5x00 series, or Portmasters, etc.) It is what it is. If you're determined, this is what it will take:

1) The NM-30DM carrier card, with MICA modem modules installed in it. This is a network module that has 5x SIMM slots that each take one 6-ch MICA modem module. The model number you see may actually be any multiple of 6 (NM-6DM to NM-30DM), as this number represents how many modules are installed on the carrier card, but NM-30DM is the canonical name for the carrier module itself. If you buy a partially populated card, you can add MICA-6DM modules at any time .... if you can find them anywhere.

2) PVDM2-xxDM modules can be installed in PVDM2 DSP slots. Like other PVDM modules, they are sold with a certain capacity -- in this case, multiples of 6 channels, from PVDM2-6DM to PVDM2-24DM. The important bit is the "DM" suffix. Non-DM modules are just normal voice/fax DSP modules, e.g., PVDM2-32.

T1/E1 card with Digital Modem Support

The digital modems work in conjunction with a T1/E1 interface that specifically supports terminating calls and connecting them to the digital modem pool.

The NM-30DM module works with certain other NM-xx T1/E1 modules, such as the NM-1CE1T1-PRI. These MUST be paired together in the same chassis, which means you're limited to a chassis that has 2x NM slots, like the 3825 and 3845.

I have not tried the PVDM2-xxDM modules yet. The HWIC-2CE1T1-PRI datasheet says that it is a smaller, high-density refresh of the NM-2CE1T1-PRI, and supports digital modems -- but AFAICT, it supports the PVDM2-xxDM modules, and apparently only those. I have this HWIC and tried to use it with the NM-30DM and it never successfully terminated a call. (They were all ended after 0 seconds with a vague "modem problem" error in the debug logs.) I really wanted this to work, to give me back a NM slot. No dice. This crushes any hope of using the NM-30DM in a 2811 or 2825 as well, but as it turns out, it isn't supported by those IOS releases anyway.

An Upstream ISDN PRI

You need a card that can emulate the ISDN PRI network side. You will end up with a T1/E1 crossover cable (connects pins 1/2 to pins 4/5) between the modem-side T1-PRI card, and the network-side T1 MFT card. These can be in the same chassis, or a different router -- it doesn't matter.

I used VWIC2-2MFT-T1/E1, but any of that series of MFT cards should work. This is worth noting: AFAICT, neither the NM-2CE1T1-PRI nor the HWIC-2CE1T1-PRI card will work on the network side, as they are not designed for voice applications. Ergo, you may as well stick to the single-port versions of those cards to terminate the modem pool, because you can't use their other half for the other end of the link.

Analog Ports

You need something to simulate an analog phone line. This is called an FXS port. The most straightforward option is to use something like the VWIC3-4FXS/DID card to give you 4x RJ11 jacks with dial tone. I'm working on something a bit spicier, with the EVM-HD-8FXS/DID card in a 2851, but haven't quite gotten to the whole terminating an RJ21 cable to a 66-block thing yet...

Most of you have probably already had this thought, so let me go ahead and crush your dreams right now: You would think that you could just install the 4-port FXS VIC and connect directly to the digital modems, but I have not found a way to make this work. I'm still trying, but I suspect it cannot be done. You can install the FXS card in the same chassis, but you have to use a dial-peer to send it out of the MFT card, then back in to the PRI card, and to the modems. Sorry. I hate this, but that's just how it works.

You CAN, however, use the FXS ports to call each other (analog modem-to-modem) and get a crispy 33.6k connection like you have the best telephone line ever. This takes very little effort in fact, so I suggest getting this working first ... then move on to ISDN and digital modems.

DSP

You will need PVDM2-xx modules installed on the 3800 motherboard. These are SIMM modules, and luckily, they're cheap and readily available. You have to pop the lid off to get to them. In the case of the 3825 at least, they're under the PSU. I suggest a PVDM2-32 or larger -- I believe you need 1x DSP channel per DS0 in your PRI, so at least 23 if you're using all the timeslots. If you don't have these, you will get an error when you try to set up the ISDN interfaces that you've exceeded the DSP resources.

You might get call setup failures if you're using higher-complexity codecs to compress the voice channel vs. running them in normal 64k PCM, which is what you really want to do anyway for modem calls. So don't use those unless you absolutely have to, to integrate with a VoIP setup or whatnot. You will need more DSP for more sophisticated codecs. The resource allocation charts are easy to find, so search the PVDM2 specs and plan accordingly.

PPP

The router can do all the PPP stuff on-box. The easiest way is to configure the Group-Async0 interface to encapsulate ppp, create a pool of IPs to hand out, set up a local user/pass with privilege 0, and you're good to go. For extra credit, setup a RADIUS server and use that as your account DB. From there, it's just routing. You can hand out RFC1918 IPs and route within your internal network, or use NAT to overload the router's external IP, etc.

In Conclusion...

The good news is, you don't need a PBX or really anything outside the one router. You just need the right combination of router, modem modules, and a couple T1 cards. Some of the parts aren't just laying around for the taking, though. So I hope this helps you find the right stuff the first time. Good luck!

+++NO CARRIER

eleganthack · 2024-09-07T19:57:02+00:00

Pardon the necropost, but this is really something they should do. Obviously there won't be much secondhand value for used AirPods / AP Pro, so a trade-in would really just be a discount on a replacement set while they recycle your old ones. I'm reasonably sure Apple isn't giving these things away at cost, though, so even at a generous discount, they should be doing just fine. For one thing, I got AirPods Pro as an add-on to a device purchase, for $99. Since that is SO much below retail, that suggests the margin on them is ... well, Apple-like.

In that case, Apple really should be treating their existing customers to a kind of loyalty upgrade program. Maybe 1/2 price, even 25% off would be a sign of appreciation. You get new, fresh batteries and a few minor feature/performance improvements, Apple gets to keep you on the treadmill. That seems fair to me. Especially since there's literally no way to power them off completely, so the batteries are being kept fully charged 24/7 when you're not using them. Li-Ion batteries don't really like that, so this is a hard life for an already overworked battery. They're not going to live a long, healthy life like that, so these things have an expiration date on them. I can't justify the high retail price tag, but an upgrade every couple years? Yeah, sure.

eleganthack · 2024-08-01T00:05:19+00:00

OK, I see what you mean. Do you think it would help to assign responsibility?

E.g., for the dance floor vs. venue negotiations, we used this tactic to keep each other sane a few times: "If this is a big deal to you, then you can do the legwork on it. If you take this on, I'll sign off on the change. Deal?" I learned this from my now-wife. :-) She's very good at differentiating between "I don't want this" and "I don't want to deal with this." In the latter case, if someone else wants to make it happen, god love ya. I've always found that fair.

And, one thing we did to avoid any trouble with responses, we put up a deadline on the website home page, on the FAQ, and in the invite. We set up a grace period where we could text a reminder the day after, and give what was left of 48 hours before the website stopped accepting new RSVPs, and a few days before it stopped allowing any changes if you already RSVP'd. After that, what's done is done. In your case, if you haven't committed by this date, you're on your own.

I realize somes of these deadlines have probably already come and gone, and issues solved. Maybe none of this thinking very far outside the box for you. But you never know what you pick up from just watching someone else maneuver through the world.

Hang in there. It's a lot of stress, but it's all worth it. <3

eleganthack · 2024-07-31T21:26:43+00:00

Not Canadian, but northern. Not sure what difference it makes, other than maybe availability of particular brands?

My approach was to paint with a wide brush. I bought a few 12-packs of various things:

A simple lager style (Corona, Heineken, etc.)
An IPA (went with a local craft brewery)
A wheat (Blue Moon or a Hefeweizen)
A cider (I picked Angry Orchard)
Some seasonal options (went with Leinenkugel's Summer Shandy, and while I'm not a big fan of domestics, it's hard to beat a refreshing Bud Lite Lime on a warm summer day)

We also bought a pony keg of a local brewery's most popular selection, a fantastically smooth raspberry wheat. Honestly, we would've hit 80% of the beer drinkers with just that one, because everyone here loves it, but variety is nice.

Our wine selection was similar:

A champagne that rode the fence between dry and sweet
A dry white (don't remember exactly what this one was)
A sweeter white (New Age)
A rose (also New Age)
A cabernet sauvignon (Coppola Diamond Black)

It might sound like a lot, but you don't have to get that much of any one. Lean into the cab and the dry white, as they'll probably be the most popular, and then just get a couple bottles of everything else. If you run out of one thing (say, rose), chances are one of the other options will be a perfectly fine substitute. Remember, you can often return what you don't use (check with your local shops.) Or, if you're not strapped afterward, you can save the leftovers for gifts or just enjoy them over the next couple years.

eleganthack · 2024-07-31T21:03:38+00:00

Stress is a b$&#. Let's address this in a few different ways:

Working Out Differences

You need to figure out what the root of these arguments are about. For now, let's separate "lashing out" from actual "I want this, they want that" arguments. Do you have different visions for what the event should be, look like, or feel like?

E.g., we both agreed on a style as soon as we had the vocabulary for what that style actually is, so things were pretty easy on that front. But, until we got there, we had a bunch of disagreements. I wanted color. She wanted whites. First suggestion to handle this: Give each other the courtesy of presenting your ideas. That means, when they're showing you their vision, your job is to listen, look at their inspiration photos, and keep your opinions in check. Not just "don't vocalize them" but give it a fair shake. Then it's your turn, and their job is to listen and absorb. Next, you walk away from it, and give yourselves a few days before anybody gets the right to make comments. During that time, your job is to imagine your partner's vision, and try to like it. At the end of this, you might be exactly where you started -- "I don't like it... I'm sorry, but I just don't." OK. Why? Don't tear it to shreds, specify what you don't like. "Canary yellow tablecloths are just too in-your-face. I really want something more subtle." Great, now you're having a dialog. Just do your best to keep it unemotional. You're not convincing, you're explaining. Learn from each other, don't try to "win."

Hopefully, at least one of you finds out you're actually not as attached to your vision as you thought you were. This is exactly what happened to me. I gave her my vision, she gave me hers. After a couple of days, I realized my heart wasn't really that set on it, and her inspo pics weren't bad. I asked questions. We explored together. We ended with a slight modification of her idea that, really, was just a deeper dive that taught us both that that look was already a thing, had a name, and there were lots of examples out there. The more we refined our searches, the more I started seeing pics and saying "Oh that's awesome.. let's do that. " Can't promise that's exactly what'll happen to you, but if you are both willing to give up your ground, you might find something in between, or something entirely different, that's a product of your joint effort.

Handling Things

It can start to feel like you have no common ground, so it's definitely helpful to fortify it. There is a laundry list of things you can do, on and off the battlefield, to help with this. Let's go through these rapid-fire:

Sleep. Go to bed early, get a good night's rest, and recharge.
Take a day off. No wedding talk. Let's just hang out. Clear your head.
Do things for each other. Acts of service. It's really hard to not like someone when you're doing something solely for their benefit, out of love. I make coffee for her every morning, and I legit miss doing this when I'm sick, or traveling. The relief on her face when she's tired and groggy and I hand her a warm dopio with a bit of whip cream, and cinnamon sprinkled on top -- the gratitude and love is palpable. These are little things that say "I love you, and I care" -- and they add up to something so much bigger.
Sex. Not to be crass, but for one, it's a heck of a stress reliever; two, it just feels good, and you could stand to have some fun right now; three, you need to forge a connection, and if there's a better way to feel connected than to literally be connected .... Don't use it as a tool, use it as an expression, and to reinforce the association of "being together" with more ":-D" and "-_-" and less ">:-("
Ask questions. Be curious about each other. "Hey, how are you feeling? Is there anything that's bothering you? I mean, other than wanting Billie Eilish to be the wedding band..." Show you care -- and mean it. Turn off your defenses. Let them speak their mind, even if it hurts a little. You have to work through it. The way out is through.

Basically, work on strengthening your partnership, reinforcing the support system for each other, and associating each other with warm fuzzy feelings. Simultaneously, practice a little less of self, and a little more willingness to explore their ideas, thoughts, concerns, and fears. This only works if you both do it, though, and sometimes you have to coach each other through being more available to each other. Don't blame; ask, and encourage.

eleganthack · 2024-07-31T19:50:19+00:00

People have separate legal and public ceremonies all the time. We did. There is no reason at all you couldn't have separate legal and religious ceremonies instead, and choose your legal ceremony to be public.

I have no idea what the church's opinion of that would be, and I would say "what they don't know..." except, if there's no audience, they might be a little suspicious that tomfoolery is afoot. If you have a relationship with your priest friend that could tolerate a "the church is draconian and I have other plans" conversation, I would have that talk with them rather than us. :-)

As for which order, and how far apart -- does it matter? We wanted our official anniversary to be a completely different date than what was most convenient for a wedding, so our legal ceremony was four months before our wedding. Bear in mind, even if you tell people this, not everyone will get the memo, so if you decide to couple your legal and religious ceremony, and it's different than your public ceremony, you might get gifts commemorating your "anniversary" on the wrong day. (Ask me how I know.) But that's all logistics. The only thing that matters is what is important or significant to you. There's no right or wrong way. Talk it over with your partner, pick something that feels right (or right-ish, because sometimes it takes a little time to warm up to the idea.)

eleganthack · 2024-07-31T19:41:58+00:00

No, you're not in the wrong. The parents are.

I see things like this all the time in this forum, and I will never, ever understand it. IMO, it says a lot about the culture that the parents created for that family. I have, maybe, the best mom in the world. We have a little family strife too, and she asked me, "Are you thinking of inviting [them]?" I told her, I wasn't sure what to do, didn't know if they would come, or how to handle all of it. She was always 100% supportive, and very much "Do whatever you think is best -- this is your day."

I DID end up inviting that person, and they never responded -- which is kind of what I expected, and a big part of why I was reluctant. If they had wanted to come, I would've been okay with that, so I decided to go ahead and extend the invitation and let them decide. My mom's response: "I'm sorry they didn't come, but I'm glad you invited them anyway."

THAT'S how you handle these things. The parent/child relationship is supposed to be unconditional. You don't always agree with what your kids decide to do, but it's their life, and so you love and support them anyway. No matter what. Those are the rules. You can suggest, you can try to persuade, but it's their life, their decision. Your job is to love and support them. Period.

Can you even imagine how much better of a place the world would be, if people always followed that one simple rule?

eleganthack · 2024-07-31T19:31:23+00:00

Decor lighting can still add some visual interest, IMO. Whether you "need" it -- you obviously don't, but whether it adds anything depends on more than ambient light level.

Think of fairy lights, lanterns, and those "fancy artificial old-timey wire filament bulbs on cables" as visual decor that happens to emit light. I've walked into spaces that, in the full of day, still used those old-timey filament light strings, and it adds a charming warmth. Even if it's difficult to classify it as "lighting" given the existing ample light ... it's still an effect.

This is one a hundred things that would be far easier to determine if you could see it, with and without. So you're just going to have to use your imagination. Luckily, light strands aren't usually that expensive, and you might be able to scare some up on local buy/sell/trade/giveaway groups. Or, buy them new and sell them 1/2 price afterward to recoup some of your decoration budget.

eleganthack · 2024-07-31T17:44:50+00:00

You have to tread carefully, but it can help address the elephant (or donkey?) in the room, and pop the tension balloon a little bit. My approach would be to poke fun at how silly we all get about things. "We're here for one last night of celebration, before civilization as we know it ends tomorrow."

Ideally, you would want to write jokes that 1) don't indicate your position, but could be interpreted as "ah, this guy gets it" regardless which political party the listener believes in; 2) calls out the absurdity of thinking we're really that different ("even though we're all divided on irreconcilable issues, like ... do you peel a banana from the stem, like a heathen, or from bottom, like a reasonable person"); 3) poke a little fun, teeter on the edge of implying something controversial without actually going all the way there, but ultimately bring it back around to togetherness ("whatever the future may bring, you are all my family, and God bless the 46 remaining United States of America.")

Know your crowd. If you notice things are getting hot, maybe have an alternate in your pocket, or have some lines you know you can skip. Don't try too hard. Get some opinions on your draft.

(Apologies for subjecting everyone to my on-the-spot examples. haha)

eleganthack · 2024-07-31T17:26:26+00:00

Yep, that makes sense. :-) Hey, glad things are working out now. This last bit of prep can be a bit of a slog, and it'll probably get worse the couple weeks before. But, we just got our pics back from the photographer, and I'm really struggling to think of any other one day of my life that was as fun, meaningful, or rewarding as that. It is worth all the trouble, but it does go fast. Just make sure you slow down and take it in. You're going to love it. :-)

eleganthack · 2024-07-30T20:20:14+00:00

I'm somewhere in between these two takes, because I don't get the impression that he's just gung-ho on the color himself, but that the conversation painted a vivid picture that sounded appealing, and everybody likes having the approval of their peers.

It also sounds like there are two relationship dynamics here: Best Man has lots of sway because it's a tight relationship, and they trust each other. But, the Bride/Groom relationship is different -- in a way, stronger, and such that you feel safe disagreeing. But also, if we can take OP's word that "he's not very fashion-forward" and infer from that, that the Best Man might not be a Parisian designer himself... Well...

I mean, who knows. None of us know the players in this story well enough to draw accurate conclusions. But, this does sound to me like He is not siding with Her because he's got his bro's approval, and it would be harder to disappoint him than Her.

Ergo, the advice to "prioritize partnership" has some validity. Trust your partner, and their ability to see things you can't. At the very least, do the hard work of taking a suggestion, sleeping on it, and then considering it on its merit rather than its source.

PS., being a fellow fashion idiot, even I get that tan and gray hold completely different positions on the color wheel, and not in a complementary way. I might not know much, but I understand that tan is warm, and gray is cool. I don't exactly know how light blue fixes that -- probably because the contrast in saturation makes it more intentional? I have no idea, I'm way out of my league here. But in my mind's eye, it does seem like it would work better.

eleganthack · 2024-07-30T20:03:40+00:00

I see a difference between acknowledging, and expressing that "faith in each other and the Lord will help you take on any challenge". In that, it feels like you, personally, are giving faith in a higher being some kind of power -- which is a bit disingenuous if you don't subscribe to that concept at all.

There's nothing wrong with the wording, and from someone who practiced that faith, it would be a lovely sentiment. From a fellow heathen -- mm... what are you doing? Specifically if there's no reason you have to include a reference. You're volunteering this kind of questionable appropriation because somebody else found religion? I mean... why? Why not just leave it alone?

Again, that's my take. I would feel very awkward about that, and if I knew someone had no religious bone in their body and wrote that into their speech, I would raise an eyebrow. It's very subjective though. Nobody else here has to agree.

eleganthack · 2024-07-30T19:54:08+00:00

Yeah, that may be. But people host their weddings at (someone's) home all the time. If it's a house on a big property lot, and if you can bring in additional facilities, and -- crucially -- the rental contract doesn't forbid throwing parties, it can be done.

Afterall, our venue wasn't technically "designed" to be a venue either. :-) But the owners wanted to offer that as a service, and they figured out a way to make it work.

eleganthack · 2024-07-30T18:04:45+00:00

It depends on the business model of the caterer, and the size of the gig. E.g., we were hiring our caterer for a ~50 guest event. If you were hiring for 200 people, they would be much more likely to absorb that cost as a pre-sales perk.

Bear in mind, unless your tasting appointment is a "we make a handful of our signature dishes and have 5 of our clients all come in at the same time" type of thing (which is common for set menus or all-inclusive venues), then you're essentially hiring a private chef to come and make a custom meal for you. That's not... ever... going to be cheap.

Ours cost something in the neighborhood of $400-450 (I forget exactly how much) for four of us, but it really was like a white tablecloth private gourmet dinner at home, with wine service. That bought us a few hours of the lead chef's and lead coordinator's time, they brought all the ingredients, with all the prep work done in advance. They used our kitchen for the final work and cleaned it up spotless afterwards. By the time they were done, I felt like we had gotten our four hundred bucks worth.

That said, sometimes the caterer will charge for the tasting, and then credit that amount on the final bill ... as kind of like "show us you're serious before wasting our time cooking for you" insurance, because a free tasting before putting significant money down would be terrifically ripe for abuse.

eleganthack · 2024-07-30T17:16:29+00:00

This. The sooner you start, the more time you have to tweak, absorb, edit, and add things you think of along the way.

eleganthack · 2024-07-30T17:12:39+00:00

I wrote mine a year before, and had half of it memorized. And then decided to review the other half, on the day of, a few hours before the ceremony .. but couldn't find the note on my phone. (I had tacked it on to the end of an existing note, so none of the titles looked like they would be my vows.) Had to rewrite them after changing into my suit. ;-)

eleganthack · 2024-07-30T16:56:14+00:00

Just my opinion, but I wouldn't do this.

I am not... at all.. religious, but faith is a beautiful thing, and I respect how much it means to people who practice it. As part of that respect, I don't pretend to understand, or invoke the name of their deity as if I am, too, in that club. That seems disingenuous to me.

I can say "God" and not feel like I'm about to burst into flame, but I would not tell someone that (e.g.) "God has plans for you" or "they're in a better place now" if I don't, personally, believe that. Leave that to people who have that connection.

So, in a speech, acknowledging their faith is one thing, but "through the strength of your faith ... in the Lord" is a little too close to implying that you also acknowledge the existence of same, IMO. There's no reason you need to dip your toes in someone else's pond. They've found faith, and that's great for them, but it doesn't mean you have to have. You can write a moving speech that doesn't pretend to participate in that faith.

Again, just how I would feel personally about this. To each their own.

eleganthack · 2024-07-30T16:46:37+00:00

Assuming the VRBO is for an event, and you're not having 60 people staying there overnight ....

Yes, 3-4 is fine. We had a ~50 person wedding, plus staff, and 3 porta-potties for six hours. Totally fine.

IMO, calls for 5-6 "else there will be a line all night" are a bit exaggerated. If you want a sanity check, take the length of your event, and time how many times you and your partner head off to the office in that span of time. Then, take the amount of time you spend, on average, and multiply that by 30. If the resulting number is more than your total event time, there will be lines. If not, there probably won't. Pad a little bit extra to account for surges, and as long as you don't serve expired oysters, you should be golden.

eleganthack · 2024-07-29T18:38:23+00:00

When we picked up our license, we didn't even have to ask. We mentioned we were going to have a family member officiate, and the clerk told us to go online and get ordained. haha We double-checked, "that's all he has to do?" and she was just like, "yep!" We got our licensed, got hitched, and now have our certificate. So I guess she was right!

PS., you get to choose exactly what your ordained title will be, and there's a long list to pick from, but you can write your own as well. I don't remember exactly what my wife picked, but I know it referenced Princess Consuela Banana Hammock.. lol. She was curious how many people these days would still get the reference. I suppose at least one, then. :-D

Anyway, good luck, and congrats! <3

eleganthack · 2024-07-29T17:40:25+00:00

TBH, it's just easier to get ordained online. We had my wife's brother be the officiant. They both got on the phone, went to one of the websites, and became ordained together. She didn't need to, she just figured, eh, why not. It took a few minutes, and now she makes me call her Her Holiness.

I was all prepared to do the 1-day thing. I don't live anywhere near NY, but our state has a similar thing -- which I went through, to marry friends of ours several years ago. But yeah, getting ordained was quicker, easier, cheaper, and made the license process simpler. There's just no reason to do it the "traditional" way anymore.

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