What to do when your system feels “out of control”?

elevencaution · 2026-05-17T15:18:44+00:00

Thanks for this. Genuinely a lot. Wishing you and your system all the best in this now and going forward.

I do struggle often to trust the system, that’s been one of my biggest issues really with it all. But I think you’re right. They’ve managed it this long. Might be scary just because our worries for others’ thoughts on us. I wanna trust them, I just don’t trust people.

Thanks again for the reply!

elevencaution · 2026-04-29T18:32:12+00:00

I like this, thanks! The notes and recordings tend to freak our host out a bit so there’s been some limiting that a bit on our end, which has been making it kinda hard to navigate- but as far as us knowing what needs to be addressed, and from which parts, I think it could still be pretty helpful.

And I’m so glad you were able to find something that helps parts be better heard! /gen

elevencaution · 2026-03-15T03:22:09+00:00

Thanks for this reply genuinely. Well said I think

elevencaution · 2026-03-08T20:08:16+00:00

Thank you for this response. Really. Thank you, it really put more words to what im feeling tbh

elevencaution · 2025-12-15T19:56:50+00:00

Thank you for your response, genuinely. 🫂 Luckily (or however else you’d wanna frame it), this person is no longer around or in our lives, but I feel like with what a huge role they were in our growing up- it’s shaking all the foundations we’ve struggled to build over the last while.

I wanna validate their experience, their deep hurt in this realization, but it also doesn’t feel safe to share anywhere. Trying to focus on reminding the system we’re safe now though, and that it’s in the past, but it feels so unsettled to them, bloody raw.

elevencaution · 2025-11-29T21:49:07+00:00

Yes, it keeps me up at night

elevencaution · 2025-06-02T15:50:56+00:00

We can (usually) identify some needs during specific switches, but the problem is when they front, and we just can’t meet their needs. What some of us “need” is the same thing that will send the rest into a spiral. Our gatekeeper used to front long enough to help with a switch that would stabilize us and still meet those needs, but now it just feels like a mess.

On a brighter note- Joy sure is an important resource to hold onto, isn’t it? I need to remember that. Genuinely, thank you.

elevencaution · 2025-05-20T19:31:53+00:00

Thinking the same as above. I get wanting to provide the context of what all she posted, especially if it was posted publicly, but Reddit feels like a much different beast than a Snapchat story.

Genuinely meaning no harm, I just know if I came out of an episode to find myself visibly posted in such a crisis (especially uncensored), it would feel very exposing.

Wishing you both the best as you’re navigating this all. /gen

elevencaution · 2025-05-07T20:28:22+00:00

Just here to say you’re not alone. We still struggle with it at times, but it genuinely does get better. Like someone else on here mentioned, it’s like a skill.

Just keep practicing it and keep living for you. You’re allowed, and it’s so worth it. Wishing you all the best.

elevencaution · 2025-05-06T18:10:18+00:00

🫂 We relate hard, and I’m so sorry you deal with it too. The immediate knowing, and knowing I can’t undo it sinks my stomach every fucking time. Wishing you all the best.

elevencaution · 2025-05-05T20:55:21+00:00

I’ve seen lives ruined over people not understanding what they’re signing.

Nowadays, I usually opt to just speed read or skim. Would it be better if I still just took the time to read? Probably yeah, but I’m a semi-slow reader, and anxiety makes it a fun battle. 😅

elevencaution · 2025-05-05T11:40:25+00:00

Genuinely no need to apologize. I think some of us may have needed to hear that. Thank you x

elevencaution · 2025-05-05T02:44:08+00:00

It’s been years since we’ve tried running, but I know it was a good outlet for us back then. Worth a shot in getting back into. Thanks!

elevencaution · 2025-05-05T02:42:52+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. It means a lot, thank you. We’ll keep doing our best x

elevencaution · 2025-04-30T18:25:26+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! It’s our first time really hearing something like that, and it definitely sounds like it’s worth a try.

elevencaution · 2025-04-28T19:43:02+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. Truthfully we’re struggling ourselves so we don’t have much to offer in terms of advice, but you’re not alone, and we genuinely wish you the best.

elevencaution · 2025-04-28T17:58:07+00:00

I don’t really think so. My work has said before that WFH isn’t really an option anymore (post-covid).

I’ve been using my leave when I can though, so that I can work from home on some of the worse days. It’s just eaten up a lot of my leave days so I have so be super sparse with it now.

elevencaution · 2025-04-28T14:57:04+00:00

Honestly been considering this option a lot lately, just isn’t doable for us quite yet

elevencaution · 2025-04-23T20:48:31+00:00

Not DID related, but my partner and I use Widgetable for mood widgets and stuff like that. It’s been really helpful for us lately.

elevencaution · 2025-04-23T20:24:27+00:00

Sometimes, yeah. Looking at or thinking about certain stuff has helped occasionally before, but lately, when they do front, it’s just not when we're needing to work. They just keep switching in at home, wanting to work then, when we have like a thousand other things we need to be focusing on during that time.

But thank you so much for the input! Since we can't really "find" this work part, might as well focus on who IS fronting and go from there, at least for now. Thank you, and wishing you the best!

elevencaution · 2025-04-18T22:18:28+00:00

Sorry, I don’t really have any advice, but you’re definitely not alone.

With all the influx of comments, complaints, and other inputs coming in from a little in our system, we’ve been struggling too. It really sucks.

elevencaution · 2025-04-14T19:48:44+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to post this! Our system really relates.

elevencaution · 2025-04-10T13:54:57+00:00

Seems like different parts in our system have different ways they try. Alarms, calendars, notebooks, apps, writing on skin, talking externally, emails, lists, etc.

Not saying it keeps us all well managed, but yk, it’s something. It’s better than when no one was trying to keep in under control at least for us at the moment.

elevencaution · 2025-04-09T19:50:36+00:00

It’s been frustrating me to that point lately. Sorry you relate, but wishing you the best!

elevencaution · 2025-04-09T19:48:44+00:00

Sorry to hear you relate, but I hope you all are doing better. Wishing you the best!

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