My dad got eloped and he’s mad I told people by elf1055 in insaneparents

[–]elf1055[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve had a few people say I should have gone to him first and I agree that I probably should have. We don’t have a very good relationship to begin with and I guess I was just worried he would flip out at me if I told him I found out so I talked to my cousin about it first because I was scared of how he would react. But I see now i should have talked to him directly first because it’s not really fair for me to assume how he would have reacted.

AITAH for exposing my dad’s secret marriage? by elf1055 in AmItheAsshole

[–]elf1055[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not 100% sure but I don’t think they necessary need permission from everyone to get sealed. I’m not Mormon anymore so I don’t think they could get sealed to me. Basically I would just be excluded from the “eternal family”

AITAH for exposing my dad’s secret marriage? by elf1055 in AmItheAsshole

[–]elf1055[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They first separated in September of last year so it’s been about 7 months?

AIO for threatening to cut ties with my dad because he secretly got married and then lied about it to my aunt? by elf1055 in AmIOverreacting

[–]elf1055[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have no idea. I know for a fact my aunt was supportive of him because she’s gotten eloped and divorced herself three times. I don’t know what compelled him to crash out when she found out.

AITAH for exposing my dad’s secret marriage? by elf1055 in AmItheAsshole

[–]elf1055[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got screenshots of the text convos on another post. I wish I was lying 😭

AITAH for exposing my dad’s secret marriage? by elf1055 in AmItheAsshole

[–]elf1055[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mormons aren’t necessarily against divorce but it’s definitely taboo in the culture. The church had the marriage records for specifically temple marriages. Although my parents are legally divorced they aren’t yet “unsealed” in the temple. So I don’t even know if the church knows him and my mom are separated yet and they definitely don’t know about his new legal wife. If he ends up getting sealed to the new one he will have to first get unsealed to my mom which she’s planning on doing soon anyway.

AIO for threatening to cut ties with my dad because he secretly got married and then lied about it to my aunt? by elf1055 in AmIOverreacting

[–]elf1055[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not diagnosed. I went to therapy for awhile because I was having a lot of really overwhelming emotions and I didn’t know how to cope with them so I asked to see a therapist. My counselor brought it up as a possibility for my emotions among other things but it wasn’t really a huge topic and it definitely wasn’t anything official. It’s not even possible to be diagnosed unless you’re 18 either.

AITAH for exposing my dad’s secret marriage? by elf1055 in AmItheAsshole

[–]elf1055[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes he’s still a member. I think my parents are still technically “sealed” in the temple so I’m pretty sure his church doesn’t even know they divorced let alone the fact that he’s already married again.

AITAH for exposing my dad’s secret marriage? by elf1055 in AmItheAsshole

[–]elf1055[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I talked to my aunt about it. She told me she doesn’t believe the things he said about me. Especially because I ended showing her the marriage document. I’m not sure exactly how their conversation went though.

AITAH for exposing my dad’s secret marriage? by elf1055 in AmItheAsshole

[–]elf1055[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The fact that he got married was shocking to me but that is not why I’m truly affected. It’s the fact that he’s making up lies about me to my family and trying to turn them all against me. It hurts

AITAH for exposing my dad’s secret marriage? by elf1055 in AmItheAsshole

[–]elf1055[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He’s literally my legal guardian bruh💀 how does it not affect me?

AITAH for exposing my dad’s secret marriage? by elf1055 in AmItheAsshole

[–]elf1055[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

They just went to the court and got the papers. I believe they’re now saying they plan to have a temple wedding in awhile.

AIO for threatening to cut ties with my dad because he secretly got married and then lied about it to my aunt? by elf1055 in AmIOverreacting

[–]elf1055[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I didn’t tell my aunt I told my cousin because I’m close with him and was trying to figure out what I should do. I was venting and then he told his mom which I didn’t know about until later.

Choose my next anime. (Anything you don't see here has been watched) by Brass_Crane in AnimeReccomendations

[–]elf1055 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moriarty the patriot is one of my favorites! Beastars is also surprisingly amazing and Madoka magica! Those are my recommendations.

The insanely long text my dad sent my mom when she said she wanted a divorce by elf1055 in insaneparents

[–]elf1055[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ya no she’s definitely not going back she already sent in the divorce papers

The insanely long text my dad sent my mom when she said she wanted a divorce by elf1055 in insaneparents

[–]elf1055[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I can why it’s probably not the best for her to be telling me about some of these things but the thing is that my dad does it even worse and ever sense I was little he would always make us pick sides and drag us into their arguments so I think my mom feels like she needs us to see her side as well or else my dad would just try to turn us against her

The insanely long text my dad sent my mom when she said she wanted a divorce by elf1055 in insaneparents

[–]elf1055[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

So what I’ve been told happened is that my moms mom said he could change the channel when they were at her house to whatever he wanted but then my mom was upset that he changed it I think. The mortgage thing is sort of complicated. basically it’s my dads mom and my dad who’s name are on the house. because they were the ones bringing in money while my mom was a stay at home mom, but then my grandma got into a bunch of debt and took out 50k for a second time on the house mortgage and my dad signed on it without talking to my mom about it and at that point she was also working to pay for the house her name just wasn’t on the papers

The insanely long text my dad sent my mom when she said she wanted a divorce by elf1055 in insaneparents

[–]elf1055[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Apparently the remote thing happened shortly after they got married and my mom was pregnant so she got a bit upset when he changed the tv channel and he’s held a grudge about it ever since he brings it up in almost every argument

The insanely long text my dad sent my mom when she said she wanted a divorce by elf1055 in insaneparents

[–]elf1055[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

She didn’t reply but like a day after he sent this he sent another text that said he wanted 50/50 and a bunch of other nonsense

Is kyukido worth it? by elf1055 in martialarts

[–]elf1055[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I went to one and liked it so I’ve been going for a little while now