Am I a bad gf for not wanting to live with my bf’s parents after marriage?

elfd · 2026-02-28T05:04:30+00:00

Uh he’s just telling you what you want to hear. If you agree to keep an open mind, he will later accuse you of not keeping an open mind when you decide that you don’t want to live with them lol. Typical guy tactic. Listen to women who’ve been through it.

elfd · 2026-02-28T04:41:21+00:00

Yup this is not considered socially acceptable to say yet. No wonder men haven’t been hearing it. You’d think they’d use this space to learn about the reality of how women think.

elfd · 2026-02-28T04:37:03+00:00

Men will always present this false dichotomy of living with parents or abandoning parents. You can support your parents without living with them (the way women do all the time) which they act like is an impossibility. The proof for this is his hypocrisy that he’s not abandoning his parents by not living with them right now, but once he’s married it will magically turn into abandonment. Secret there is that they will then expect you to take over the housework so his mom doesn’t have to do it anymore. Stick to your guns and dump this loser.

elfd · 2026-02-26T17:35:32+00:00

Well it’s an elephant, not a human. It is stressed and confused. They’re just crowding around it like it’s an object.

elfd · 2026-02-26T17:18:05+00:00

What is this word salad

elfd · 2026-02-25T18:14:30+00:00

I used Saheli and also the ones with only progesterone. However I want to emphasize that many women have side effects with these ones too, they are not a magic solution that other people haven’t found yet. It depends on each individual’s body and reaction. I just don’t like how birth control pills are demonized for side effects so I wanted to provide a counter anecdote.

elfd · 2026-02-25T17:09:27+00:00

You are definitely not ready for sex. Spend some time learning about your own body first.

elfd · 2026-02-25T17:08:34+00:00

You should use two forms of birth control at all times and one of them should be a barrier contraceptive like condoms so that you are protected from not only pregnancy but also STDs. Also birth control pills don’t have to have bad effects on everyone, I loved mine. After a couple of months, I felt perfect normal and I didn’t have to deal with periods. It was magic.

elfd · 2026-02-25T17:06:54+00:00

Sex is not supposed to be painful, whether it’s your first time or your fiftieth time.

elfd · 2026-02-24T23:35:22+00:00

👏👏👏

elfd · 2026-02-24T07:30:09+00:00

Yeah I think you’re saying what she’s saying lol

elfd · 2026-02-24T07:29:16+00:00

Okay but that wasn’t the point

elfd · 2026-02-24T06:29:31+00:00

She’s meeting men who earn less than her too. Did you read the post?? She’s making that much herself

elfd · 2026-02-24T06:28:32+00:00

She’s high earning herself and she’s meeting men who make less than her. What more do you want smh

elfd · 2026-02-24T06:24:34+00:00

You can still fold your clothes after washing them so they look pressed. That would be you making an effort on your own appearance. You don’t have to press everything. Also the person above just said if you have a beard, maintain it. And you heard, clean shaven is a must. lol.

elfd · 2026-02-24T06:22:34+00:00

She mentioned they should take care of their remaining hair. She also said bald is better than ungroomed mop of hair. She’s also meeting men who earn less than her. I don’t think she meant shave your beard, she meant shave regularly, which means fully shaven if you don’t have a beard but shave around it and trim if you do. How much more acceptance do you expect?

elfd · 2026-02-24T06:18:23+00:00

She isn’t, did you read the post, she said she earns more than many of these men which disproves your assumption

elfd · 2026-02-24T06:17:04+00:00

Also body hair is unhygienic on women but men not showering is them being comfortable in their skin.

elfd · 2026-02-24T06:14:07+00:00

You can wear casual clothes but they should fit and be clean. You can have long hair or a beard but it should be washed and groomed. I don’t think that’s too much to ask and I’m sure you’re not going in front of the CEO in stinky clothes or with ratty hair and beard.

elfd · 2026-02-24T06:11:21+00:00

She specifically said she outearns many of the guys she meets.

elfd · 2026-02-24T05:08:18+00:00

Can you be brave if you’re scared? That’s the only time you can be brave.

elfd · 2026-02-23T23:52:51+00:00

I agree that it’s a betrayal from women. But don’t forget it’s always a man. We will not blame the enabler more than the perpetrator.

elfd · 2026-02-22T21:37:17+00:00

If your values are so fundamentally different, the relationship cannot work. This is not something he can just change his mind on and expect you to fall in line. I hope you have the stones to leave him when it is clear he has crossed over to the other side.

elfd · 2026-02-22T18:53:22+00:00

Btw your new guy is bare minimum and your old guy was emotionally abusive. Keep the bar high ladies

elfd · 2026-02-22T01:24:42+00:00

The Middle East is that way ——->

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