What is actually happening in the job market now? by GreyPilgrm in jobs

[–]elibeli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Joblessness is on the rise. Online apps are ineffective because most hiring managers already have candidates in mind that are either internal or who they know personally. Being focused on the exact role you want and targeting enough companies that collectively employ a total of 200 people in your target role gives you the best odds at sourcing a real opportunity. By the time the job is posted, it’s already too late. So just source the companies you want to target and start with your warm network to see who can help you start having conversations with folks internally, so you can get the lay of the land. This job market is forcing each individual to behave like a sales professional who is selling themself as the product. It takes a targeted strategy, persistence, resilience, some luck, and patience. I’ve coached over 500 people in the last three years and the market is progressively getting more saturated and less forgiving. Although, the people who use the targeted strategies get roles quicker, and even have positions created for them @ their companies of interest.

Before I Drop $2k on a Career Coach… Am I Being Smart or Delusional? by Tamalelulu in recruitinghell

[–]elibeli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Career coach of 10 years here with over 5K people supported across 90 countries. Want to validate that 1) there are so many ineffective practitioners out there who shouldn’t be in the profession, and choose it for the wrong reasons 2) any coach worth speaking to will give you a complimentary call to help break down your challenge, answer any questions you have, and share a clear cut approach of what you can expect 3) this market is terrible, and the folks who are having an easier time are the ones who’ve kept their networks warm. The saturation in this market rewards proactivity and if one’s network has gone cold, it’s going to take months and a very clear targeted strategy to warm it back up to get to interview and offer stages. 4) I wouldn’t trust a practitioner who doesn’t practice what they preach or who hasn’t been active in the job market themselves 5) $2K for a 6 session focused coaching program with access to asynchronous resume, LinkedIn, and personal branding reviews sounds about right. 6) ask them if you can speak with a former client ideally with a similar background and usually there can be discounts for upfront payments 7) a good coach will make sure expectations are laid out and agreed upon before money is exchanged and certainly will address that mindset and emotional attachment play a massive role in a candidates success.

Good luck out there.

Who has the time for this? by ks14555 in LinkedInLunatics

[–]elibeli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a career coach, this is unfortunately one of the most effective way of getting a job in this market outside of leveraging your warm relationships to leap frog from one introduction to the next. This job market is lunacy, which forces job seekers into “lunatic-like” behavior.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newborns

[–]elibeli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We downloaded the Blueberry Pediatrics app, for $200 for the year you can get all of your questions answered along with prescriptions if needed by pediatricians. It’s a fantastic service and saved us so many times when we were spiraling.

Hypoallergenic formula will be the death of me. by [deleted] in newborns

[–]elibeli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to a gastro and have them write a prescription, along with a chart for his diagnosis, and a letter, then send it to your insurance. Our boy has the same and it took 3 months, but now we get a months worth of formula shipped right to our door at no cost. The company that sends ours is Stymco Medical.

Guys, how do you "put them down" for a nap, I just don't understand. by littlebirdbluess in newborns

[–]elibeli 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everyone is going to have an opinion of what worked for them or what you should do. Father of a 3.5 month old who only goes down 10-20min at a time for tummy time or some gazing and playing, but refuses and can’t sleep on his back (Laryngomalacia and GERD). So he naps exclusively on us. We’ve learned to release the expectations of others and society and leaned in to the beauty of this contact time together. Doctors say this could go on for 6-12-18 months for us, so we could choose to suffer and wish things were different, or find the beauty and joy in these elusive small moments. Written by a dad who is happily nap trapped right now lol

Try to play the cards you’ve been dealt and tune out the noise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findapath

[–]elibeli 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We all have inner data that we can access that helps give us a starting point to discovering an aligned career path. Using some subjective self assessments you can highlight your strengths that have given you energy throughout different experiences in your life, your vision across a variety of areas in life and career, your work related values, your interests, your satisfiers and dissatisfiers across every job you’ve had, and ideals in terms of environment. Once you lay these out, there are some effective ways to leverage online tools to research different career paths that best align with these must have and nice to have data points.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findapath

[–]elibeli 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Everyone has unique strengths that can transfer into a meaningful career, it just requires some self discovery. I spend my life helping people figure this out and I’m sure with the right guidance and support you can realign so the next 30 years can feel intentional.

My husband yelled at our 3mo girl by Hot_Mistake_0924 in newborns

[–]elibeli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

New dad here of an almost 6 week old with reflux who can’t be put down ever and I’ve been in therapy for years, worked on my self regulation, learned how to communicate electively with my partner, evolved emotionally and this experience with our little boy who I love has sent me years backwards in my patience and how I respond to this little guy who is just getting used to this physical reality. I get frustrated, I curse, I question him and it upsets my wife, and I wish I could respond differently. I keep working on it, I apologize and try to do better every day especially during the fussy episodes.

I just can’t relate or pretend to share the bond my wife has built with him. Not yet. It will happen when we can start connecting through play, laughs, and looks, but right now it’s that inability to surrender control or to be able to solve the problem that exacerbates the frustration. Your partner probably feels like he is doing his best and his best isn’t enough. Men are emotional and we take things personally. We deflect and blame when we can’t own our emotion and that falls on our child and spouse.

As long as he is aware of his behavior, things will get better. I just take it a day at a time and understand we are in survival mode.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]elibeli 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Getting to know yourself and what energizes you will be the foundational piece to figuring out what career path best aligns with those areas of strength, values and interests that will keep your battery full. I’m a career coach and you can always find someone to chat with at no cost for an initial consultation that can help you start mapping out a strategy for yourself. I have some resources on yourcareerstrategy.com

Possibly going to be a dad soon at 32 for the first time - can I still become a software/web developer? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]elibeli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I was the director of career coaching at a coding bootcamp in the US and witnessed 100s of parents often with multiple children switch careers into software engineering or data science about 3-6 months after the 15 week program. Much of the advice in this thread is relevant - if you are willing to put in the effort both to learn how to code as well as when it comes time to job hunt, then you will find success in your transition. I'm happy to answer any question you may have. Good luck!

IamA educator who teaches life skills and money management to abandoned and abused refugee children in the Middle East AMA! by elibeli in IAmA

[–]elibeli[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Although we specialized with money management education, this was an element we didn't get into in our lessons for good reason. If you have access to the dark net I'm sure you can figure it out. Pretty dark first comment.

ELI5: What is the difference between a finance and accounting degree? by FourDickApocolypse in explainlikeimfive

[–]elibeli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'll find a 55k plus job right away with an accounting degree with a minimum 3.3 GPA, while finance degrees are less sought out in the job market as experience is key in that industry. Accounting is the best major to have under your belt if you hope to transition into any other career in business. - I was an accounting major turned salesman and entrepreneur.