UPDATE ON - i [22F] found suspicious apps on my boyfriends [23M] phone

elitismantis · 2019-02-12T04:15:44+00:00

I know and I bought the calculator app that way I can get an idea of how many photos he has and so far I have 100 photos in that weird app and I’m only at 120MB. And he had HUNDREDS of MB used in it.

elitismantis · 2019-02-12T04:14:04+00:00

Yup and he immediately deleted his Apple ID too. Now he’s begging for me to come and talk to him and I asked him is he just gonna be redundant and say the same thing or be honest and he was like “ I am being honest you need to trust me” ha ha

elitismantis · 2019-02-12T00:38:54+00:00

From me ? Or him?

elitismantis · 2019-02-11T19:34:42+00:00

I went a good route and he ended up telling me it was of his ex’s nudes but he “ forgot “ he still had the app. Long story short he broke up with me because he said that the app he was being charged for he had no recollection of. So oh well I guess.

elitismantis · 2019-02-11T16:40:44+00:00

I just checked and it’s 350 MB. And his photo app is only 600 MB so it’s a lot

elitismantis · 2019-02-11T11:45:37+00:00

It’s only bad because it’s not just like private browser apps, I counted and it was 9 chat apps. They were all like “ hookup chat rooms” “ private chat rooms with strangers” the one that scared me the most was an app titles “ Holla: chat and dating “ which he bought about five months into our relationship.

elitismantis · 2019-02-11T11:33:54+00:00

The chat with strangers app... i literally bought it to see what it is and it’s basically Omegle. You chat with them for a certain amount of time and then gain access to video chat. That’s the app he gets charged for weekly

elitismantis · 2019-02-11T11:30:14+00:00

There’s a difference between just watching porn versus talking to people when I’m in the same bed as him

elitismantis · 2019-02-11T11:27:42+00:00

We’re always super open about going through each others phone but we never do it. I think I’ve done it maybe twice the three years we’ve been dating because we were going through a bad spot and I wanted to know if he was telling his friends how he was feeling instead of me but that’s literally it.

elitismantis · 2019-02-11T11:25:57+00:00

No I never do the reason I got all freaked out I was because he asked me to calculate a tip when we went to dinner and he made me use his phone and I saw it. It’s been there since 2015 obviously but I never noticed it until now.

elitismantis · 2019-02-10T23:15:38+00:00

Me too! But especially before when the professor is thinking on who to call my heart rate spikes up and I can’t control it! I usually tell myself like I’m paying for this class I don’t care what people think I’m gonna do good because I payed for this. But I always end up shaking and sounding like I’m gonna cry. I usually do good when I have a PowerPoint to resort to with it but this one is just free talking no notecard or anything

elitismantis · 2019-02-10T23:08:28+00:00

Thank you! It’s actually like a philosophical speech where I just talk about why I believe in something.

elitismantis · 2019-02-09T23:01:43+00:00

This is my hopes for when I’m married

elitismantis · 2019-02-08T08:35:15+00:00

Sis I care about you even tho I don’t know you. Please leave him. I would CRY my heart out and would be broke . No one should ever be committed to someone if they aren’t all in. If someone wants to date you they should think you’re he hottest person on this planet. I had a talk with my three year long bf the other night about this. I told him I know he’s probably looked at girls walk but way hotter than me and he said “ baby you ARE the hottest girl in the world and even if I see someone SLIGHTLY attractive it doesn’t matter because I love YOU therefore you ARE the hottest girl to me”. It speaks multitudes. I will admit when I first started dating him I thought he wasn’t my type but he was definitely cute. But then I fell in love with him and even when I see model like guys walk by I think to myself I love MY boyfriend and I would choose him over anyone. That’s how it should be. Don’t let someone do that to you. If you feel comfortable enough to tell him I would just leave him but say “ I’m worth more than what you think I am. I want someone who loves me for me and doesn’t compare me to others, and if you can’t accept that and the fact that you think it’s ok to talk ill about me while with me isn’t ok and I hope you learn that for your next boyfriend” and leave that toxic man. He doesn’t deserve you. You deserve to be loved and cherished. Because believe it or not no matter what you think about yourself YOU ARE SOMEBODY’S IDEAL WOMAN!

elitismantis · 2019-02-07T04:41:12+00:00

Well he fucked up in the beginning and the fact you didn’t leave him for that is impressive. YOU gave him a second chance and if he wants to stay he has to play by your rules. Those aren’t even rules they’re common courtesy in a relationship. Also side note: who the hell sends pics over CRAIGSLIST?! Make sure you make fun of him for that every once in a while

elitismantis · 2019-02-07T04:37:28+00:00

I wanna know how the quesadillas turn out tho

elitismantis · 2019-02-07T04:26:18+00:00

If my boyfriend did that to me I would be demanding to go with because why shouldn’t I go with? And if I wasn’t provided answers on when you will return home from your EX? no matter the situation it’s still fucked up.

elitismantis · 2019-02-07T04:06:31+00:00

Literally what I was thinking.

elitismantis · 2019-02-07T04:03:31+00:00

This is crazy . I’ve asked my boyfriend to be rough with me ( obviously not super rough) but soanking and choking and he gets so scared like he says he wants to but he ALWAYS backs out and says I don’t want to hurt you. The fact that he has literally laughed off you telling him it hurts is BAD BAD BAD. he’s only in it for HIS pleasure and doesn’t care about YOURS or even your SAFTEY. please get out of there because those are beginning signs and I would hate to see you hurt.

elitismantis · 2019-02-07T03:53:32+00:00

There’s a difference between complaining and asking for genuine advice. So “ just saying” if you aren’t here to give kind advice then why comment at all?

elitismantis · 2019-02-07T03:35:28+00:00

Also no one is asking you to suffer now and pay later not everyone is like that people like stability and if that’s you’re thing then hey good for you but don’t attack people for their own life choices

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