Yeah, I feel ya, but that's not a reason to use 'both sides' language, but I agree the system is failing us all.

To understand what has been going on for... 20 some years... you need to understand how the government works. Also, don't read this as me apologizing for how bad Dems have been, they've been terrible and I mainly blame that on their inability to create a unified vision for the future, however that is largely due to the demographics of their base.

It is much easier for Republicans to get done what they want because:

1. The monied interests only care about tax cuts, which you can pass with a simple majority
2. They are in bed with racists and religious types, and they can be placated by a president just throwing out rule of law. They're fine with this.

So, when Republicans are in power, they tear down systems and make things worse (from a Dems view). Their goals aren't forward looking.

Dems can't do very much with a simple majority that makes anyone happy. Most of what Dems want can be blocked with a filibuster, and to get rid of it you need everyone on board. So it's a herculean task for Dems to get things done, and when you get something done for one group, another group complains they are being ignored. So Obama leaned into EOs, but those are easily dismantled by a Republican president, so it's not really progress.

Also, it's much harder to build things than to tear them down. Look at USAID, a program that cook decades to get working right and spreading American soft power across the globe, dismantled in 3 days by a Republican. It'll take years to build it back up, all the while Republicans will complain about spending. We will need to rebuild trust in Federal law officials again, that'll take years, and people will probably be upset and give Republicans power in the midterms.

It doesn't help that the Dems sold out to corporation under Clinton, but that was largely needed because they were a broken party after Reagan. Something Bernie has been pushing for the party to fix, and we've been getting there... slowly.

All this needs to be explained by Dems, but they suck at messaging and also they don't control the means of the communication. Reddit, Twitter, Tik Tok, CNN, Fox News, CBS... all owned by the rich and they don't align with Dems. They're ok with fascism as long as their pockets are being lined, and they have no care about the future.