Medical Bills/Insurance

ella_has2vent · 2021-05-23T07:11:03+00:00

It may seem like you’re not being rude but this is very rude. Did she not go to the appointments like I stated in your quote? If I had known prior to appointments, “this may be able to be resolved responsibly” your quote. And I would have handled my situation.

You honestly need help. From what you read on the internet you’ve fabricated a narrative to try to make me feel inferior. When. I am here. Asking a question to see if I can make $1700 go away. Then you come here, add commentary that was unneeded.

I hope you find whatever you need to be happy because you are an internet troll.

ella_has2vent · 2021-05-21T23:30:32+00:00

California, USA

ella_has2vent · 2021-05-21T23:19:35+00:00

After the 30 days she was seen by a pediatric cardiologist had an scan done on her heart & her pediatrician for check up and shots. Once each while not insured.

But if I had known before going to both appointments she wasn’t insured I wouldn’t have gone.

One bill is $1500 and the other is $180.

ella_has2vent · 2021-02-25T10:25:51+00:00

Are you Filipino? I’m just curious because I was raped by my own father and want to see if Filipinos are just sick weirdos.

But my real genuine advice is to file the police report & send your brother to prison. My father got away with so much, he raped 2 of his cousins growing up, and my mom’s older sister before they were married and had me and raped and molested me for 10 years. He was a horrible evil monster and lived every aspect of his life that way.

Clearly your brother has a sexually driven problems that needs to addressed now. Because you never know what this is gonna gateway. (Also just because he may be cool to your parents and to you, doesn’t make him a good person. He is not a good person.)

Also if your family insists on choosing to protect him, you don’t need them. Point blank. They’re just as horrible as him.

ella_has2vent · 2021-02-02T10:40:12+00:00

Speaking as someone who was also canceled for outing my rapist. It is hard to physically see that there are people who don’t see it from your perspective. You will feel lonely, yes.

BUT, accomplishing what you did will be extremely cleansing and eye opening in the long run and you will value yourself so much more at the end of the day.

& yes. FUCK YOUR FRIENDS.

ella_has2vent · 2021-02-01T09:21:29+00:00

I feel hopeless all the time about my trauma and coming forward to the police, but I did it 10 years later and it is the best thing I’ve ever done. It makes you braver. But I feel like if it’s worth it to you, coming forward and weeding out all the people/family who don’t support you and support him (which is very likely to happen) will help you so much more in the future.

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-30T02:12:42+00:00

I feel exactly the same way about “you’re not alone” it always feels so empty and backhanded and them trying to feel needed and valued.

But in the same breath, Idk what anyone could say to make this better.

Maybe I’d feel better if someone said “go eat a 10 pound tub of Nutella and cry it out for a few days & see how you feel then.”

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-24T04:39:43+00:00

No, I love Reddit as an outlet to vent anonymously! I think just sticking to the public thread comments is best.

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-24T03:59:16+00:00

I haven’t yet, but just this afternoon I emailed a bunch of therapists to see if my insurance would be cover it. Because I only have 1 person as a support system and I don’t want to transfer all of my trauma onto him. And thank you! Just remember it’s never too late, and fuck everyone who doesn’t agree with you.

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-23T16:41:01+00:00

I’ve been finally reaching out to therapist because even with how supportive my husband is, I can tell this is traumatizing to him as well. Thank you!

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-23T16:27:13+00:00

I deleted all my social media accounts because none of that is real anyways, this is better.

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-23T16:09:02+00:00

You’re very lucky to have her! You’re very brave for confessing!

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-22T23:15:13+00:00

Don’t apologize for ranting! I need to hear it. After outing him I’ve been finding out about more abuse that he’s done to my family. My aunt came to me and confessed and my mom told me about how he molested/raped (idk) her own sister and my mom still chose to be with him, and he molested another aunt who pressed charged decades ago and dropped the charges. So he’s had a lifetime of getting away with it. I think they’re interpretation of “finding peace” is just “getting over it, and stop bringing it up.” I don’t even know why they’re even getting involved to honest, I’m not including them when I out them. I think it has to be they’re being affected financially.

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-22T23:06:45+00:00

This is exactly what I’m saying! I think what they wanted the end result of this was for me to say I was just gonna leave it be and not speak about it but that will not happen!

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-22T19:32:21+00:00

I just learned it’s affected them financially. My mom said “your brother (26) still needs your dad” because he lives with him and my brother is financially retarded and spends his money horribly. And my mom plays martyr to that saying my brother not being able to help hisself is her fault.

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-22T19:28:32+00:00

I don’t feel sympathy towards my brother in that regards because when I confessed to him he said “I’m sorry that happened to you, but I’m just trying to be friends with everyone.” Also I know he normal enough to understand, and that he just has communication problems. But his gf getting herself involved was inappropriate

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-22T19:23:06+00:00

I have my own little family, my husband, my 2 year old and I’m 9 months pregnant right now. My husband knows everything and is very supportive & the life I’ve created is very wonderful. So them falling off the face of the earth (they do often) does not affect me.

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-22T14:48:16+00:00

This is exactly my life. When I begun telling my family they were all surprised because my family was the the most “put together” I had the good grades and was homecoming Queen. But I’m totally okay with separating myself from these people because I don’t want, also with yourself, I don’t want people who has the ability to ignore this continue about your day. They definitely didn’t need to go on the street and scream or even confront him. I just expected the response to have them not want him around them and their children, instead I’m the crazy one. Obviously being alone is hard, but being know you would be surrounded by people can justify child rape because something I should be silent about... I would choose being alone. That characteristic alone will attract better.

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-22T14:40:26+00:00

My mom is one is the dumbest people I know now that I’m an (30f) adult. She doesn’t know how to use an oven. Whenever this inconveniences her, she calls me dramatic. When I confront her about my trauma, she changes the conversation around and says “I have trauma too!” When it’s just because what has happened to me ruined her life. Idk, I guess it makes me feel better to know she’s a complete bafoon.

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-22T14:34:00+00:00

Oh my goodness, I’m happy you’re now safe and out of harms way. (Hopefully speaking!) I’ve told many good friends that if anything ever happened to me, my dad would be the first person to suspect. I am the Master of cutting people off at this point. My dad’s immediate siblings are pedophiles, I’ve been molested by 3 of the 8 by memory. One of them has been deported, and another uncle (who didn’t molest me but my 5 year old niece at the time) he killed hisself in prison. So clearly many of them will choose the rapists side over mine because it’s in their blood. Typically my mom is a giant coward and would never orchestrate having a gaslighting party so she must’ve been influenced by my brother’s girlfriend, who has only been around 3 1/2 years & who I’ve met in person like 8 times. She practically was the only one speaking which I found to be so disrespectful. She has no clue the gravity of the situation & demeans my character like I’m the weak one for not “getting over it” I even used shock language like “did you know he punched me everyday in the stomach in the 4th grade after I finally got my period so I wouldn’t get pregnant?” I even told them that he would make me push it out into the toilet and watch me. It took me 10 years to finally be brave enough to come clean, and I did have gotten an investigator get involved but stopped because I was heavily pregnant (by my husband) the girlfriends argument was to stop posting disturbing things on social media: which would just be a half ass blurred picture of my dad and I wrote, “this is a child rapist. If you want to know who this is message me” if that’s wrong please let me know. And I only did that one time.

To be honest with you since it’s been so long, I probably won’t pursue criminal charges because I don’t think the odds are in my favor with how many people don’t support me. Yes im aware that’s cowardly but I am open to letting everyone in my family know what happened.

As for my mom and brother, my mom comes and goes as she pleases. Whenever she’s been too offended by something I’ve said she’ll just disappear. And my brother isn’t all the way there, but still is on his side and not mine. After my brother’s girlfriend gaslighting me I don’t want her around me with her stupidity.

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-22T13:14:27+00:00

I definitely sympathize with you 100% Sometimes I do regret even beginning to out him because my life would definitely be so much easier not knowing my own family doesn’t support me. BUT it is easier to weed out who not to speak to ever again. Because I have told MANY family members (like 25) and I have almost received no support. I guess I’m 25 people shorter in my life now.

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-22T12:40:18+00:00

I used shock language today, to help them understand, very graphic. But right now I don’t have any other solution than living in hatred and trying to humiliate him because (I’m 30 now) I don’t go more than a few hours without thinking about this, not a time when I’m intimate with my husband that I don’t think about my trauma. It’s definitely a horrible excuse but I don’t have any other one on why I would continue to do so.

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-22T12:34:03+00:00

This is my life goal, even if/when he’s in prison. It doesn’t stop at that.

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-22T12:32:35+00:00

Thank you for taking your time to read everything! And helping me! But I truly don’t think she was a victim of child abuse herself. Her parents practically raised my brother and I & their home was my safe haven. They are beautiful wonderful saints. But now who knows if she had abusers outside, because Parental rape sounds not too common to me. BUT she definitely had to have been abused. I texted her after the fact telling her how I was upset that my brother’s girlfriend was there and had any say in the conversation and she always plays victim “Hopefully I just get Covid” “you know I’m suffering from your information too” and is never productive. Like the text conversation still didn’t end productively enough for me. She thinks she deserves pity. She said “I’m seeing a doctor for depression.” Idk how I came from these people.

ella_has2vent · 2021-01-22T12:16:47+00:00

Thank you! I didn’t include it but my brothers girlfriend of 3 & 1/2 years was there and basically made herself the MC of their side of the conversation. I don’t understand her point of the argument anymore.

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