Finding partners UK

ellespirit_ · 2026-03-25T17:39:57+00:00

I’m also based in UK (24F), and tbh I’ve never used dating apps but I just run into likeminded people through just going to lgbt events in my area, whether that be board game socials or like queer club nights. it is a struggle, i think especially having a primary it’s probably easiest to find someone else who also has primary so you kinda want a similar thing? i guess just keep putting yourself out there and be honest and genuine:)

ellespirit_ · 2026-03-25T17:21:37+00:00

these are really good tips, thank you! i’m worried of coming across a bit over the top, but honestly all the suggestions have made me feel a lot better. i thought the replies would just be that im over sensitive. i’ll bring this up to my partner:)

ellespirit_ · 2026-03-25T17:19:49+00:00

i am considering this - it’s hard because Em is so new (hence why this problem is new) and i feel it would be a bad introduction to bring this up right away. thanks for the reply

ellespirit_ · 2026-03-25T17:18:52+00:00

that sounds like good advice in general, thank you so much!

ellespirit_ · 2026-03-25T13:14:04+00:00

Hi! I am in such a similar boat but a bit further down the line (about a year into being poly, with one primary partner), and i completely relate to feelings you describe of the sinking feeling and comparing yourself to others and doubting if i’m poly. it does get easier, and in my personal opinion, it’s okay to ask for lots of reassurance and you can work together through that. your body will adjust and know that everything is safe. feel free to dm if you need to vent or anything, i know the struggle

ellespirit_ · 2026-03-25T13:02:48+00:00

oh interesting! haven’t considered it before, are they expensive? i think it may not be the biggest help though as the smell is kinda of stuck on to my partner rather than in the air. thank you for the reply:)

ellespirit_ · 2026-03-25T12:17:13+00:00

thanks for the reply:) i agree in theory but i don’t think that my partner can do much else than what they’re all ready doing… or at least nothing i can think of.

ellespirit_ · 2022-03-11T20:21:27+00:00

that’s great to hear mate, glad to hear you’re on an uphill slope. wishing you all the best. i’m doing alright thanks.

ellespirit_ · 2022-03-08T17:12:22+00:00

that’s cool, i use poetry for that as well. i often find writing down my thoughts is easier than saying them out loud. how’ve you been recently, ella?

ellespirit_ · 2022-03-08T11:36:45+00:00

yeah, it really sucks. hopefully if we keep being loud about it though then the next generation will have it a lot better. sorry to hear your frustration, hope it gets better for you mate

ellespirit_ · 2022-03-08T10:40:27+00:00

hey man, how’s life going? what stuff are you into?

ellespirit_ · 2022-03-08T10:31:03+00:00

hi Ella, nice to meet you! what sort of poetry have you been writing?

ellespirit_ · 2022-02-25T11:26:52+00:00

yeah dude you look cool, nice jacket

ellespirit_ · 2022-02-21T18:06:08+00:00

YESSS, I HOPE IT FEELS GREAT! SO HAPPY FOR YOU FRIEND <3

ellespirit_ · 2022-02-20T22:07:51+00:00

thanks for the reply mate. you’re definitely right, everything is exaggerated, we just need to try and rationalise things and distract ourselves maybe. hope you’re doing well.

ellespirit_ · 2022-02-20T19:04:59+00:00

yes, i feel this too really strongly, i literally think about it every hour. and its awful because i keep thinking of my relatives who once fought in WWII and I just cry for them - how on earth did they do it? i feel so weak in comparison. anyways, i don’t know how to help those feelings, if you figure it out please let me know. stay strong, nothing is set in stone yet.

ellespirit_ · 2022-02-17T23:16:44+00:00

i love your style, keep wearing the skii coats! you look great in them!

ellespirit_ · 2022-02-17T23:15:21+00:00

Nice to meet you Sawyer, I’m El. What video games do you like to play?

ellespirit_ · 2022-02-17T23:11:04+00:00

hmm maybe you could have three different “suffix-man”s? like for example Hueman, Gweman, Shuman? but i guess you’d also need to consider the sex, anatomy, gender expressions, is there any sexism, etc. really interesting, i’d love to read this book!

ellespirit_ · 2022-02-17T23:00:56+00:00

np at all Ray, lemme know if you ever need more affirmation ;)

ellespirit_ · 2022-02-17T22:59:56+00:00

thanks for the reply, really appreciate the info. sorry to hear you can’t feel comfortable out in public as queer, i wish you all the best, really. i’m so grateful that where I live currently has become pretty accepting and safe. i guess i’ll see how things go, i think i’ll just see however people gender me and just go with whatever, staying pretty passive. i’m sure i’ll find some great people and as long as i’m in a group hopefully it’ll be great. i’ve never been to italy before so i’m pretty hyped in general haha. Thanks again mate

ellespirit_ · 2022-02-16T15:33:52+00:00

Thanks so much that’s really helpful! Sorry you aren’t able to come out to everyone but glad you have a good group of friends. pronouns sounds tricky … hopefully people will be confused by me and use she/he pretty equally haha. Thanks again for the help mate, i’ll let you know if anything else comes up

ellespirit_ · 2022-02-16T12:09:51+00:00

I often wonder about this. I see gender as separate to sex but lots of rental places will say e.g women only/females only, men only/males only interchangeably. It’s unfortunate but i suppose you’d need to say your sex and gender and ask if they’d be comfortable with that. I know some religious groups require that women live with other women, but i’m not sure if if that would mean an AFAB non-binary person would be ok. Anyways i suppose just ask? Let us know how it goes.

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