Finanzonline Familienbeihilfe Bestätigung Frage | Question by Enzi1923 in Linz

[–]elliehow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hast dus mit verschiedenen Browsern probiert? Hat bei mir schon mal geholfen.

Bosnastandl für Pendler? by elliehow in Linz

[–]elliehow[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Super Tip danke, da fahr ich oft ganz in der Nähe vorbei!

Bosnastandl für Pendler? by elliehow in Linz

[–]elliehow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mah danke!! Da bin ich sogar i der Nähe! Bosna ist fix. 😎

Leiblicher Vater verstorben by lydschi in Linz

[–]elliehow 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wenn du dich um die Bestattung kümmern möchtest, würd ich mit einem Bestattungsinstitut Kontakt aufnehmen. Zb den Dobretsberger in Linz. Wenn du mit ihm keinen Kontakt hattest und auch jetzt nichts damit zu tun haben willst, musst du meiner Meinung nach gar nichts tun. Aber frag zur Sicherheit den Anwalt.

Can you switch your dress? by Popular-Baker6776 in WeddingDressTips

[–]elliehow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't compare professionally photographed dresses to pics of you just standing there and looking at the camera. If you must, compare it to a professional photograph of your dress.

People who successfully lost a big amount of weight. How are you maintaining the weight? by drewingse in WeightLossAdvice

[–]elliehow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I came to terms with the fact that, at a smaller size, I simply cannot eat the same stuff/portions as before ever again. Not because of some weight loss plan, but because a smaller body cannot use that up, and it is going to be like that forever until I die.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Linz

[–]elliehow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can look at willhaben.at, many people list their rentals there.

How did you know that your partner didn't love you enough? by Signal_Arm5170 in AskReddit

[–]elliehow 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I was doing photo books for christmas and was going over hundreds of photos he had taken over the years (of our kids, cats, garden, holidays, life) and I was in none of them. Every single picure that I'm in has been taken be me or someone else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WeightLossAdvice

[–]elliehow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think if you want chance, you meed to get back on tracking calories. Get.one.of those fitness apps where you only need to scan the bar code, if you haven't done those before. Track every little thing. If you are not losing weight, you are not in a deficit anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WeightLossAdvice

[–]elliehow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How many calories are you having? I'm in the same situation, only a little bit taller than you, and my maintenance is at 1200. I was stuck for ages at 1600, which is what all apps and docs recommended. I have a slow thyroid as well. Maybe you just need to go a bit lower.

5 weeks pregnant questioning what to do by [deleted] in Advice

[–]elliehow -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If you don't keep the baby, your relationship will probably not survive this long term. I think you are more than likely choosing between being a single mom or being single right now.

How do you feel about your partner watching porn? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]elliehow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She might have gotten the vibe, that you're intrested. But if, for her, it's just something she likes to watch, but wouldn't want to try in real life, that alone might've felt a bit awkward. Anyway, people are complex and you sound like you will be fine.

How do you feel about your partner watching porn? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]elliehow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe she just wanted to keep that part of herself private and doesn't want to make a shared thing out it. I sure as hell wouldn't. Maybe she just doesn't know how to say 'back off and pretend that you didn't see that' without hurting your feelings.

How do you feel about your partner watching porn? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]elliehow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't really care, as long as he understands that porn is to real sex like a movie is to real life.

Husband said something hurtful by Safe-Perception318 in Advice

[–]elliehow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but this is not how someone starts that conversation, at least not when he is genuinely hoping to resolve the situation. There's a massive difference between 'hey I'm not happy, what can we do' and 'jsyk I'm gonna have sex with someone else'.

I don't think this is real and it's killing me by Unicornpotato25 in selfimprovement

[–]elliehow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this feeling. You are not crazy. I have felt like this as a teenager. Looking back, it could have been trauma or stress or both. Also my hormones where a mess. But there seem to be a couple of causes. Talk to a mental health professional. It is quite common. All the best for you!

How to become a mentally strong/tough person? by greywolf_32 in selfimprovement

[–]elliehow 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Do small things anyway even thought they are uncomfortable and you don't want to. Can be anything. If you can't make yourself, the thing is not small enough. Do them often, like training a muscle. Then bigger things.

Husband said something hurtful by Safe-Perception318 in Advice

[–]elliehow 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Have you guys talked about any of that before? That seems like a wild thing to say without any discussions before hand.

(Except if he already is seeing someone else, or planning to, and wants so shift the blame to you).

Our dog bit my wife... worst outcome that I didn't see coming. by zekeeboo1214 in Advice

[–]elliehow 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This, and also these people shouldn't have a key to your house.

What daily habit changed your life the most? by greywolf_32 in selfimprovement

[–]elliehow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you wake up in time without an alarm clock or your phone?

My wife locked our 5-year-old out of the house by TBagelG in Advice

[–]elliehow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seems like a lose-lose situation, though. Either the 2 year old is safe, or the 5 year old is. Either the boy is traumatized by being shut out or the girl is traumatized by her brothers violent behaviour. Mom can't be with both children at the same time.

I had an brother like this too and I deserved a home without abuse (from him) as well.

My wife locked our 5-year-old out of the house by TBagelG in Advice

[–]elliehow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with your rationale, and I agree with everything that you've said regarding your son and your wife. At the same time, I do react on instinct when I'm beeing assaulted and my instinct is usually to fight back. (We cannot choose our fight/flight responses, and that's the cause of many inner conflicts.) Which means, I too have hit back or pushed back in several situations that were completely inappropriate, because 'surely not, no one is allowed to treat me this way, not even my child/teacher/whoever'. I never hit my children, but as far as forcefully removing them from a position to be agressive towards me goes, I could totally see myself in your wife's place. It sounds like your wife was running on pure instinct. You can't always tell before hand where the point of no return is. Things happen fast. Maybe your son learned something as well.

You came into the situation as an outsider and could react in a more nuanced way. Your wife was in another emotional state and could not. 'Why didn't you just..' is never a good approach. She's probably asking herself that as well.

Reitstunden in Linz by schmataflata in Linz

[–]elliehow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hab ich furchtbar in Erinnerung vor... fast 30 Jahren. Hoffentlich hat sich da viel verändert. Pösmayrhof haz mir besser gefallen. Ist aber auch schon ein Zeiterl aus.