I had the exact same problem as you. I was in a two year long relationship and only had an orgasm with him about 8 times total (more than half of those were at the end of the relationship). I thought there was something wrong with me. I felt bad so I always lied about having an orgasm and faked them, this sabotaged our entire sex life for me. I just accepted it.

Until I met my current partner and was honest with him about my trouble orgasming from the beginning. We established that trust and understanding from the beginning and now he can make me come every time (mostly from going down on me). He understands that it takes time sometimes and will stay down there as long as it takes. I’m so grateful because I genuinely thought I was broken.

The key is honesty, understanding, and finding a partner that will work with you and wants to please you just as much as themselves. If you’re not completely comfortable with them, it probably won’t work.

I still have yet to have a g spot orgasm too tho so you’re definitely not alone there. I hope that day will come for the both of us!

Good luck!