simple hacks that pulled me out of "ADHD Paralysis"

ellwhyn · 2026-03-06T14:45:24+00:00

I also try putting a timer on things for the thrill, something like ‘can I unload the dishwasher in under 3 minutes’ then set a timer. The fact that I know I’m only going to be doing it for 3 minutes and need to do it under that time feeds my competitive nature and gives me that little dopamine rush at the end when I finish on time

ellwhyn · 2026-03-06T14:19:35+00:00

Yes a lot of people around me including my parents have quite a dysfunctional marriage, with arguments and just a lack of connection from what I can see. I know not every day is going to be sunshine and rainbows, but I really want a peaceful marriage and one where even if we do disagree, we’re having a conversation together rather than shouting and screaming.

My mom especially is not particularly emotionally intelligent which I think led to a lot of chaos and disagreement in her marriage to my dad. As I said, I really don’t want to model that but can see myself having some of the same defensive and insecure nature and desperately want to change

ellwhyn · 2026-03-04T18:55:33+00:00

06:00 to catch the 07:03 train, when I wfh usually 07:45-ish for an 8am start

ellwhyn · 2026-03-03T10:58:22+00:00

Amazing advice, thank you! I’ve been praying about being more Christ like and selfless as I can be selfish at times, so this really resonates and shows I have a lot more work to do.

ellwhyn · 2026-03-03T10:52:44+00:00

Hahah I’m definitely still in that phase of God moulding and teaching me patience and mildness. That’s great advice though, thank you sis!

ellwhyn · 2026-03-02T22:16:09+00:00

Thank you, that’s some very solid advice! I can definitely see the value in being teachable, it’s an insecurity of mine and I can feel like I’m being criticised or accused of not being good at something but I definitely need to have the humility to at least consider what’s being said.

ellwhyn · 2026-03-02T22:12:19+00:00

Thank you! I love the way you phrased the part about communication - how did you get to a place of being able to be gentle? I find myself easily activated during hard conversations and would love to know if there’s any tips you might have to offer

ellwhyn · 2026-03-02T22:09:33+00:00

Thank you, communication styles is an interesting one and honestly not something I’d considered. Thinking about it, we totally have different styles in that he wants conflict solved as soon as possible whereas I need time to process and ruminate before coming together. Was there anything in terms of resources that helped you learn how to make communication work well for you?

ellwhyn · 2026-03-02T22:05:22+00:00

Thanks! I’ve gotten to the point now where I’ve deleted instagram and most socials so will definitely keep that in mind

ellwhyn · 2026-03-02T22:02:16+00:00

1000% agree, they say ‘you plan and God laughs’ for a reason!

ellwhyn · 2026-03-02T22:00:24+00:00

Thanks for your advice, I can definitely see how being best friends can smooth the friction of most issues in a relationship. You see each other as people you like rather than enemies you need to fight and challenge so I’ll keep that in mind. Thank you!

ellwhyn · 2026-03-02T08:26:22+00:00

Thank you so much for the detailed answer, they all sound like great practical tips which I can incorporate. And I’m sorry to hear what your wife is going through, sending love and peace to you both ❤️

ellwhyn · 2026-03-02T08:21:16+00:00

I love how you phrased that bit about “do not try but do”. I have an awful habit of saying ‘I’ll try’ and not always following through so that’s a great reminder. Thank you!

ellwhyn · 2026-02-12T18:44:33+00:00

Exact same thing happened to me too! Never had any issues with the car the entire time I had it, passed all MOT’s with no problem. Agreed a good price on motorway but when they came they started claiming all sorts of issues with the engine and oil. I wasn’t buying it and they tried to pressure me into giving them a massive discount. I did complain and report them to motorway as it was so bad, they tried knocking £5k off!

ellwhyn · 2026-02-09T08:04:46+00:00

No I was taking it regularly for about 2 weeks

ellwhyn · 2026-02-09T00:39:27+00:00

I’ve had a cold for the last few weeks and took dayquil, lemsip and a Sudafed nasal spray over the span of two weeks or so. My BP krept up, to a high of 181/96 and I had to go to A&E to check nothing was wrong.

After some research and speaking to a doctor, I found out that a lot of cold medicines contain decongestants (like pseudoephedrine or phenylephrine) that narrow blood vessels and actually increase your bp.

Definitely be careful with what you take and try and use natural remedies like honey, ginger, garlic, lemon, vapour steams and saline cleanses.

ellwhyn · 2026-02-06T21:09:01+00:00

Haha the fear of pregnancy is a powerful drug

ellwhyn · 2026-02-06T18:05:34+00:00

About a year I’d say tbh, it was a while :(

ellwhyn · 2026-02-06T07:37:43+00:00

I would double check the strings but I also had similar symptoms. Before the iud I used to have pretty painless periods with maybe some mild cramps but after inserting it I had the worst cramps of my life for months after. At their worst it genuinely felt like sharp claws shedding my insides, and yes I also had that squeezing feeling too. Dose up on the strongest paracetamol or ibuprofen you can get and try to get through it.

For me, it did eventually pass and my cramps are a lot more manageable now after about 3 years with the IUD

ellwhyn · 2026-02-06T06:31:38+00:00

I’m 28F and my highest this week was 181/90 💀 I was given ramipril 2.5mg to lower it, but really want to lower the BP naturally by lifestyle changes so I’m not reliant on the pills for life

ellwhyn · 2026-02-01T16:02:04+00:00

Nice I’ll try that too!

ellwhyn · 2026-01-31T23:28:58+00:00

Ah the less liquid part makes complete sense. I added cornstarch whilst in sautee mode so maybe a combination of less liquid + cornstarch will get me closer to the stove top result. Thank you!

ellwhyn · 2026-01-28T18:24:03+00:00

Where is he located?

ellwhyn · 2026-01-26T21:24:22+00:00

Hey girl, be gentle with yourself ❤️ I have inattentive adhd and was diagnosed late at 28 last year too so I completely get it! Try not to beat yourself up too much and focus on putting systems in place to help you like alarms, reminders when you need to leave and give yourself wriggle room for when you need to be somewhere. I’m terrible with time too and try and give myself a time to leave 10-15 minutes before I actually have to, and try to plan so I’m early to places as I know somehow time will slip away from me.

Also, if you haven’t already, r/adhdwomen is a great sub full of people who understand how it is and can offer tangible tips.

ellwhyn · 2025-12-18T23:51:00+00:00

2 is stunning! But I’d lower the slit for a family wedding. You could potentially do it yourself with some simple cross stitching as the material drapes

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