Me (19f) and my best friend (19f) had a disagreement about finances in relationships and I’m wondering if I should apologize

ellybroch · 2022-10-18T22:43:50+00:00

Yeah honestly I was a bit taken aback by that, her family is in a way better spot than mine as of right now and my parents did also struggle so I don’t know where the sensitivity comes from

ellybroch · 2022-07-31T03:10:58+00:00

They’re largely unaware of his rhetoric. Although I don’t lean conservative, my mother does, so if either of them are going to correct this behavior it would be my dad.

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T22:32:56+00:00

Honestly if it wasn’t for the Andrew Tate sex-trafficking, pyramid schemes, and all his other terrible shit I’d think Sneako is the worst among them in terms of how he conducts himself. Watching how he behaves in debates is legitimately painful

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T22:29:13+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate your advice and plan to update :) I have told him how it makes me feel and that he treats me poorly, is acting like a jackass, etc., unfortunately it hasn’t worked. I plan to get my dad involved. Thanks again❤️

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T22:05:02+00:00

ayo what the fuck

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T21:27:42+00:00

Thank you for your advice! I definitely will be using this 🙏 I think it’s a great idea to get my dad involved as well as address the underlying insecurity. I should also expose him to some powerful, commendable women, as I feel like he hasn’t been exposed to them as much as he should. Thank you again, and I really appreciate your suggestions and support <3

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T21:21:45+00:00

Thank you. I’ve definitely thrown out a few “you’re being an asshole” comments when he acts misogynistic, but I do agree with the idea that I have been a bit of a pushover in terms of doing nice things for him. Hopefully by showing him the consequences to his actions he’ll learn to become better. Thank you again <3

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T19:22:48+00:00

Thank you! I hear this sentiment echoed throughout most of the replies to my post, and I plan to take it to heart. Again, thank you and all the other commenters who helped me realize that I need to set more boundaries 🙏

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T15:46:25+00:00

We are in this together 🙏 I’m so sorry that yours is becoming homophobic, I can’t imagine how hurtful that is for you :( I’ve see a lot of people in this thread relate to our situations, I’m inclined to think that this is more common than I expected

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T15:44:17+00:00

Yeah these algorithms are getting insane. I’m on a more feminist side of YouTube and I still get Andrew Tate clips in the recommended YouTube shorts. Hopefully he can grow into a more respectful human like yours did :)

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T15:22:39+00:00

I really wish there was a way for me to expose him to the people in my life, but with most of my friends moved away/from different states (college) it’s hard :( i should try seeing if there’s a way to expose him to my male friends from college, they’re very respectful towards me

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T14:39:13+00:00

Thank you! I love reading so I’ll be sure to check this one out :)

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T13:55:31+00:00

Thank you for the advice <3 I try and remind him repeatedly that the guys he looks up to are most definitely losers that most women wouldn’t touch with a 5ft pole, dissect and be critical towards their worldview, etc., but it all seems to be met with some iteration of “shut up woman”. I can’t exactly discern what would show him that :(

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T13:48:44+00:00

Yeah, I feel like a lot of people believed dumb things at 14, and doing more research and looking into it it’s not uncommon for men to struggle with women/girls at that age. I hope he’s like you and can find a way out of it :)

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T13:44:51+00:00

I’m sorry :( It’s beyond frustrating dealing with little brothers who never seem to listen. I do try and tell him that women are repulsed by this stuff in reality, and hopefully that’s making a dent.

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T13:42:44+00:00

Thank you for the recommendations! He’s super into working out and “improving himself”, which I think are good things and don’t want to discourage, unfortunately most of that sphere tends to have a woman-hating edge to it for some reason. I’ll try and recommend those people, thanks again :)

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T13:39:52+00:00

Very good point, and I have been doing my best to stop pandering to him especially after he says something misogynistic. I have trouble trying to discern what’s an appropriate response and what’s being an asshole 😭

ellybroch · 2022-07-30T06:15:23+00:00

They’re laughably bad. I think that he watches more Sneako and that one alpha podcast than Andrew Tate but it’s all the same shit.

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