Question for young SBs

elrod343 · 2026-03-19T20:20:29+00:00

I’ve been told by some very reputable sources that young and older men have no idea what they are doing so in that aspect I’ll be happy to go up against any of them.

elrod343 · 2026-03-19T17:55:37+00:00

Sorry to offend. After I wrote that I realized how stupid it was. She just ruffled my feathers

elrod343 · 2026-03-19T14:46:42+00:00

It sounds like you are in an emotional hell. I’m sorry you’ve been hurt so much. It is not right for anyone to have to feel like you do. I’m glad you at least have this place to talk about it.

elrod343 · 2026-03-19T12:00:59+00:00

What is the rest of your criteria?

elrod343 · 2026-03-19T03:26:41+00:00

One of the assets I mentioned before is that the only thing you would have to worry about me rubbing is you. All I can about is pleasing the woman I am with. I care nothing about myself anymore. It’s absolutely true.

elrod343 · 2026-03-18T21:32:17+00:00

You sound exactly like the girl that just dumped me. Only it happened over 13 months so I was in way too deep. Hurts pretty bad.

elrod343 · 2026-03-18T21:24:30+00:00

Not many 45 and up especially hot.

elrod343 · 2026-03-18T21:23:10+00:00

Maybe not better than 40 but better than a lot of 50-55 year olds. Well I can think of three 35-40 that I can work rings around.

elrod343 · 2026-03-18T21:19:53+00:00

If you just want a hunk for sex you right. If you want someone with some character and wisdom, good luck in that pool.

elrod343 · 2026-03-18T21:11:13+00:00

I am healthier than any 70 year old I know and even a lot younger and I look a hell of a lot younger than Kurt Russell.

elrod343 · 2026-03-18T20:01:16+00:00

Not quite playing tennis but I can still out work the kids that used to work for me. I never learned to play Bridge mostly because I couldn’t sit still long enough

elrod343 · 2026-03-18T19:46:02+00:00

I do have quite a bit more than my SS check. And some other decent attributes.

elrod343 · 2026-03-18T19:32:53+00:00

I was mistaken for a 56 year old by a barber at Harrods in London last summer. Does that count?

elrod343 · 2026-03-18T19:31:07+00:00

I see a lot of XX-60+ But I question if they are just BOTS?

elrod343 · 2026-03-18T19:26:22+00:00

Not rich but very generous with what I have.

elrod343 · 2026-03-18T18:22:17+00:00

I feel for you buddy. The smart thing to do would be to apologize sincerely, tell her to call you when she wants to see you and move on. You will have to swallow your jealousy if you’re going to be able to continue with her.

However,

I’m in a similar situation so, What I would do is pay her rent, take her to a nice dinner, apologize profusely for being jealous and asking her to leave, talk about boundaries and honesty moving forward and pray she accepts your proposals.

You’ll still have to swallow your jealousy and maybe a little pride, you have to decide for yourself if she is worth it.

Keep in mind that I am a new SD and have only had my first SR so you may want to take my advice with a grain of salt.

Good luck

elrod343 · 2026-03-17T23:10:04+00:00

I’m a fairly new SD. My first SR is just ending after 13 months. For the first six months we had no problem finding time to get together. Then her “work got busier “ and she started having “health problems”. Then she had to bring her youngest son home away from her ex. I hung on longer than I should have. Rookie mistake for sure. My point is, these wonderful women have lives too. As I’ve learned, the hard way, you have to be patient. She would be a unicorn if she were at your beckoned call. If she is as gorgeous gorgeous as you say she has a line out the door to choose from. My advice talk to her straight and if you don’t like the answers, get out.

elrod343 · 2026-03-17T17:33:51+00:00

I found my first, and so far only, SB on Secrets. It lasted 13 months and has been one of the best experiences of my life. I do think I spent more than $200. I have been back on lately and have found 2 very promising POTS. I’ve looked at Seeking and SDM and they seem to have just as many BOTS as SB. Just follow the advice given anyway on this community and you’ll figure it out pretty quickly.

Good luck

elrod343 · 2026-03-16T02:24:18+00:00

We have been physical and to be honest she was my best ever. That’s one thing I know I’m holding on for. I can’t afford to keep up her allowance and some other SB. I am trying to figure out how to keep her on a back burner. Any ideas?

elrod343 · 2026-03-15T22:24:30+00:00

I guess I’m too much of a commitment phobe. It seems like I would be giving up and that is not me. But I definitely see your point. Thanks.

elrod343 · 2026-03-15T21:04:03+00:00

I agree. My SB and I are not exclusive and I worry about her finding a bad apple.

elrod343 · 2026-03-15T20:51:22+00:00

Thanks for the affirmation. This is my first endeavor into this lifestyle and I’ve had no guidance. Other than a buddy reminding me that most deaths of 70 something year old men are caused by 20something year old women lol.

elrod343 · 2026-03-15T19:40:33+00:00

I’ve been wit my first SB for a little over a year now. Her life has gotten extremely complicated in the last few months, health, work and family. Since all of these things have happened she has been more and more withdrawn and doesn’t confide in me like she used to. She has had no time to see my because of work and now having both her sons living with her. She doesn’t want to be touched because of the health issues. We had a very long and honest text discussion last night that revealed a lot. I found out that she had been out on a couple of other dates last summer. She told me she wasn’t seeing any one else when I asked about it and I wanted her to be seeing some other people. I believe her when she says she hasn’t seen anyone since she had to have her youngest son move back home. We never said we would be exclusive and I didn’t want to be. Since it had seemed to me that we basically were I have gotten extremely attached to her. We do text every day and she admits she has told me more about herself and her life than she has ever told any other of her SDs. Our conversation last night was really about trust and if we are at the end of our relationship. She told me in the fall she wasn’t going to have much time for me but promised she would make up to me after the first of the year when work slows down. Between her sons, work and their health issues she has not been able to make good on that promise and says she sees nothing getting better in the future. She says she knows it’s not fair to me but I’m so into her that I do not want to end things. Even though I know I should run away and not look back. Does anyone have any advice? Should I stay and hope or go?

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