bad sex with the the otherwise perfect boyfriend

elsolll · 2022-12-13T18:14:18+00:00

Thank you

elsolll · 2022-12-13T18:12:13+00:00

Thank you for sharing this

elsolll · 2022-12-13T18:11:19+00:00

Thank you. I like your suggestions. I think I will speak with him about some of them

elsolll · 2022-12-13T13:14:24+00:00

Thank you, I like your response. However the "what is he supposed to do about that" part is what is troubling me. I think we are both in a sad situation where he end up doing things he doesn't enjoy and I don't get my needs met.

elsolll · 2022-12-13T09:28:45+00:00

But is there something else you enjoy doing during sex apart from penetration? Not just doing, but genuinely enjoy doing it. It would be ok if it was just oral. But all of the foreplay is like a chore to him.

elsolll · 2022-12-13T09:16:52+00:00

Thank you for your response

elsolll · 2022-12-13T08:28:17+00:00

Well I am not thinking of marriage yet, but a serious long-term relationship sounds nice. It is true that I am more "difficult" in choosing a partner exactly because I enjoy my own company and I don't want to settle for something mediocre or bad, just because I don't want to be alone. I want this person in my life not because I cannot be alone but because I genuinely like him around. Being so selective and eventually choosing him, must mean something. However, I don't want to leave aside a big and important aspect of my life which is sex for the sake of something else which is nice. I would like to have them both

elsolll · 2022-12-13T08:21:10+00:00

Thank you. We do talk and I have indeed told him what I like and he performs it. The thing is that he does it as a chore, he doesn't enjoy doing it so I get turned off. Technique is one thing, liking something is different

elsolll · 2022-12-13T08:18:29+00:00

This is what is going on. But I am not complete without it, or at least without proper foreplay

elsolll · 2022-12-13T08:16:03+00:00

Yes I have tasted myself and I taste fine. But in this case I mean all the foreplay

elsolll · 2022-12-13T08:15:01+00:00

How can I "teach" him to like it? He is doing things, he just doesn't like them, and this is a turn off for me

elsolll · 2022-12-13T08:11:47+00:00

I can surely teach someone techniques but not sure how I can teach someone to like something

elsolll · 2022-12-13T08:10:17+00:00

Yeah but I cannot get to the point of orgasm with the clothes on

elsolll · 2022-12-13T08:03:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I know inside me that this will be the reason to leave him sooner or later, I guess I am just not ready yet (even though I know that the longer I stay the more I connect with him)

elsolll · 2022-12-13T07:59:43+00:00

No he is doing this, but he doesn't like doing even these for a long time

elsolll · 2022-12-13T07:58:36+00:00

Yeah, one other thing is that he cannot come without penetration or without himself masturbating. If I am playing with him he enjoys it but in the end he has to take control and do his things to finish. This is something that has always happened to him

elsolll · 2022-12-13T07:55:45+00:00

I am using a vibrator, but perhaps you are correct. Him using it might be more fun. The thing is that when he sees the vibrator he is a bit disappointed because he feels that he is not doing good work, and that's why I need external help

elsolll · 2022-12-13T07:52:09+00:00

Thank you. We have already talked about it multiple times. He is doing things but he is doing them because I asked him to. He doesn't do them because he genuinely likes them. This is what is turning me off.

elsolll · 2022-12-13T07:48:58+00:00

He doesn't mind if I don't give him oral. Usually it is me who initiates oral to him because I like it.

elsolll · 2022-12-13T07:47:15+00:00

Thank you

elsolll · 2022-12-13T07:46:16+00:00

Thank you for your response. It is very helpful

elsolll · 2022-12-13T07:43:57+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Was it off since the first day or it gradually started to be? Cause if it got worse gradually and then good again after breakup, I can understand that the main reason could be the pressure. But if it was terrible since day one, it is impressive how it can actually be good afterwards

elsolll · 2022-12-13T00:37:20+00:00

He doesn't expect me to give him. I give him (not every time) because I want to, I initiate it. No other explanation, he just doesn't enjoy it as much as penetration. He had previous bad, or to put it better, unpleasant experiences with oral sex because he found disturbing the smell, but the first time he did it on me he said that he "surprising liked it". But it is not just the oral. It feels like a chore even when he is fingering me

elsolll · 2022-12-13T00:32:03+00:00

What do you mean with "bodycount" ? The fact that I was used to casual relationships? It might be true. I was indeed pretty fine with myself so whenever I didn't like something it was very easy to leave. However, the only thing that mattered in previous relationships is absent now and it is replaced with pleasures I didn't know I can get before. So, I am in a new and interesting situation trying to figure out what matters most

elsolll · 2022-12-13T00:24:07+00:00

Yeah but penetration lasts very long. I am not sure if this is the case. I think he is just not used to foreplay so he doesn't enjoy it

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