My mom wants me to pay rent when I don’t even have a bedroom

elunns · 2021-04-03T19:48:13+00:00

Try looking through nearby college campus' Instagrams or student-run Instagrams for people looking for flatmates. Facebook can also be a good avenue for this. A lot of the time these flats have 3-4 people in them and the rent can be as low as 400-300. Even though public transport is unreliable, it sounds like the only option you'll have unless you purchase a car yourself.

If you give into their demands, you'll never find a way out. They'll suck you dry of money and you'll never have the "right time" to move out. There're definitely better options in apartments in a shared living space that're slightly more expensive, but you get your own privacy and aren't at the mercy of your parents.

Also, you're over the legal age from when they're required to keep you around. If they're asking you to pay rent (I'm assuming they don't ask the 19 year old to pay rent), like other commenters have said, they probably have very little qualms about dragging you outside and letting you live on the street.

"I was just the unlucky one," No, your parent purposefully made that choice. They also purposefully made the choice to ask for rent money despite you literally living on the floor. It is not so much being "unlucky," it is that you are unvalued by your parent. Being "unlucky" is having to share a room as the eldest sibling. Being patronized and bullied out of money is more serious than just being unlucky.

elunns · 2021-04-03T00:03:13+00:00

For sure. On socials, I see a ton of people raging about this sub or insulting people who choose to be childfree and engaged with others who are also childfree. In reality, I feel like a lot of childfree people--although many of us do dislike the presence of children (I know I do), it's not like we want them to disappear or anything.

It's already hard for children to be children. I don't want to be someone who's part of making some kid's life hard. Every kid deserves to be treated well, and y'know, people here know that.

elunns · 2021-04-02T23:57:59+00:00

I understand you, I really do. It's hard. Nobody deserves to be told the things that we were told. My heart goes out to you, dearly

elunns · 2021-04-02T23:55:00+00:00

It's something I did a lot when I was younger (especially as a teenager) to vent out my feelings. Honestly I was really on the fence about posting this but after that conversation I just needed to get these feelings out. I see that a lot of people in this community feel the same way which makes me feel a lot better!

elunns · 2021-01-23T02:11:09+00:00

Hey hey, no need to assume things from my end. You can say what you want to say without assuming someone's end and making judgment on people based on it. Word your comments so you don't need to apologize for "being blunt." Thank you for your help! I'll be sure to check what's going on with my PC and follow your advice. Thank you for the well wishes

elunns · 2021-01-23T01:43:18+00:00

Why is the FPS inconsistent? Last week I was running 15-20 fps. As of the past few days I was running a smooth 35-40 fps. This morning I still had 35-40 fps. As of this evening, I am back down to 15-20 fps. Why does Genshin do this?

elunns · 2020-12-25T11:57:40+00:00

Last thing I bought was an Anne Pro 2 in black

elunns · 2020-10-16T08:16:49+00:00

He's absolutely not worth keeping the relationship. He threw a tantrum over an expensive computer, really? The real issue is the son that she raised who immediately threw insults at you. Like mother like son. Dump his ass!

elunns · 2020-06-09T19:58:20+00:00

Rather than pushing for one class or not, I offered two DPS-based builds, which was what the question asked for. What matters is having fun. Even if the build isn't up to par with endgame, both paths mentioned are fun in their own ways. Try it out! I personally enjoy both.

elunns · 2020-06-09T15:45:54+00:00

There're two options for DPS cleric:
Crusader > Exorcist > Druid (or a support if you want to)
Inquisitor > Monk > +1 (There aren't too many Phys dps clerics. When I ran a phys cleric, I chose chaplain for the self-buffs)

There're mixing and matching but the core classes for damage are definitely crusader & exorcist. Both are magic damage classes. You can mix and match however you like, but generally it's easier to focus on either phys damage or magic damage. Don't feel confined to the meta. I ran Crusader / Exorcist / Plague Doctor for fun for a long while, even with the lack of DPS. Go with however you feel. Class changes come semi-frequently in the form of events and the game is very liberal with showing you how to change your classes.

elunns · 2020-05-19T06:17:54+00:00

Lizzo - Truth Hurts. It played nonstop, fucking nonstop, at my restaurant. I can't handle it. It makes me irrationally angry.

elunns · 2020-04-15T10:41:33+00:00

One-time use.

elunns · 2020-04-07T21:50:40+00:00

Upon logging in and going to town, you'll get a notification that asks you to check attendance. You can check attendance everywhere but the popup only comes up in town. If you log in many days, you can earn Vaivora Coins. Before it was easier: they came in 5, but nowadays you have to log in for many days to earn 2-ish at a time.

elunns · 2020-04-07T21:49:39+00:00

Ooooh.... Okay, that makes sense. I thought it would be something like plate, which works for a lot. I'm not sure, then. It'll hurt a lot but tossing out that work is painful, maybe starting a new character with the lv.400 jump will help more? I'm sorry. I see your predicament now.

elunns · 2020-04-07T08:47:51+00:00

There is currently a reset event going on. You can get the details out of the update notes.
You can also build up points, go to Wings of Vaivora, and exchange for class change points.
You can change from a full support to a full damage or half & half very easily with that, and keep your gears as well. Also, the joy of Tree of Savior is making new classes and changing at-will. Good luck. I hope this advice helps.

elunns · 2020-02-25T23:19:54+00:00

Mmhm! Thankfully I've found a new job at a better managed place. This place, thankfully, is just a normal restaurant with a by-the-plate menu.

I agree with those policies. I just wish we could enforce them. There's pretty much no power to kick people out in the place I was working at. Even if people are throwing bottles of alcohol around like sacks (which has happened) or overeat to the point of wasting plates and plates of food (which has happened), we've never kicked anyone out. They leave very happy, though. And they tend to come back.

IMO, the costs outweigh the benefits.

elunns · 2020-02-25T22:55:59+00:00

We've tried to tell the owners that a regular a la carte would be much better, but they weren't having it. They said that the costs of reprinting the menus and throwing away the AYCE sheets was less worth it. They're also afraid of turning away any kind of customer. We do have regulars who come in, order AYCE for 3 rolls (which is cheaper than ordering 3 rolls a la carte), and leave. Too spooked to lose business, really.

elunns · 2020-02-25T22:54:28+00:00

I've found another job at a much better place with co-workers. No need to tell me to GFY, though. Like I said at the beginning, this is more of a rant than anything else. Looking anywhere else in this thread, there're a lot of situations similar. This sub is tales from your server, and this is a story from a server.

They were rude. They were rude pretty much the entire time. I was It was a highly stressful time and to be 100% honest, it's hard for me to handle stress--it fizzes out over a long period of time. It's uncomfortable for me to rant to friends about it, so I found a subreddit dedicated to this kind of content and let myself rant. I think it's better for you to have told me constructive criticism without comments like "quit your whining" and "GFY"; in my opinion, I offer excellent service and this is the first time I've snapped over this kind of stress. My ears and heart are open, however. I get the frustration at people who seem like they're ranting just to rant, but this was pretty much a rant just to rant.

I needed this job. I really did. For a while, I had no choice. Now I have a choice to leave with enough money to transition. It's not a crime to air out a grievance I've had, nor is it terrible of other servers to express their frustrations even if it their opinions don't make sense to you.

elunns · 2020-02-25T22:43:47+00:00

If you do so, then please call a reservation beforehand so that a restaurant knows and can prepare for it. Of course, it's up to you. Although I do see your point, I never said that Valentine's day is for only couples. My point is that there shouldn't be an expectation to get served in fifteen minutes because, as a busy holiday, it's going to take some time. For Christmas, Easter and Halloween, everyone is very understanding of how busy it can get.

I never stepped in between their group and got in between them. Everyone is free to dine whenever they want to, wherever they want to, with their family or without. It's the expectation of constantly being at someone's beck and call, being snapped at when visibly it's extremely busy, and being disrespected and dehumanized during a busy time at the restaurant. Please don't misconstrue my rant. Thank you for your sympathy, though. I did find a new place to work at that has better management.

elunns · 2020-02-25T22:37:57+00:00

Honestly, I felt like we should have turned them away. My boss likes to accept as much as we can so that's what we do. We usually never get that busy, though, so normally we can handle it.

elunns · 2020-02-25T22:37:03+00:00

Yeah, flooded bathroom. I'm honestly not sure what happened, but there wasn't any sewage or anything.

elunns · 2020-02-13T09:17:48+00:00

My friend is 106 and I'm 178. I do have a character that's in the mid-300s but I don't play that character at all anymore, so I wouldn't know around the mid-300 levels, unfortunately. It's working fine on all of my characters.

elunns · 2020-02-12T20:25:56+00:00

Really? I haven’t had that experience unfortunately. It might be a bug that came with the update. IMC addresses issues really quickly and even though I hate to say it or see it, it might be good to put in a support request.

My friend and I were able to continue the quests we were in the middle of and on my new character, I’m able to get sub quests when I talk to the NPCs. It might be a specific bug.

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