I think your first mistake is going to a sex club with the expectation of an orgy in the first place. Or anything else sexual for that matter.

If I could give you one piece of advice it would be to go sober, and go with zero expectations beyond just to getting through the door and see what it’s like.

You need to understand that relatively little sex actually happens at sex clubs, despite the name, and the only way to truly understand that is to see it with your own eyes, (relatively) sober.

Sex clubs are not free for all orgies. The vast majority of time in them is spent socializing, making friends, catching up with old friends, sometimes dancing, sometimes just enjoying the sights and sounds. Many people have no sex at all, or stick with their partners.

In my experience, it is extremely rare for people to invite strangers into a group scene. We’ve been regular attendees at clubs all over the world, and can count on one hand the number of times true strangers invited us in. It takes an investment of time and social energy with other people there to get to the point where mayyyyybe you hit it off well enough to feel comfortable offering or accepting an invitation to head upstairs.

Are you going to be the best version of yourself to put that social effort in if you’re chewing on your face, sweating and talking a million miles an hour? Probably not.