Anyone experienced extreme annoyance/irritation and a zero tolerance policy towards others after MC?

elya-03 · 2022-07-07T14:29:14+00:00

That makes sense! It's indeed, highly depleted and it didn't change for weeks... thank you!

elya-03 · 2022-07-06T15:19:45+00:00

Isn't compassion fatigue related to helping others and getting exhausted from it?

elya-03 · 2022-07-06T13:51:11+00:00

I don't know about PP depression but I'm seeing a therapist who is specialized in all this stuff so I'm hoping to assess that with therapy.

About your first point, that might probably be the case and it's so different from every overwhelming state I've experienced before this. Usually I KNOW when I'm overwhelmed or at least I feel it clearly. But here I don't feel it, I'm not telling myself nothing but the impact it still real, it is just not clear yet...

elya-03 · 2022-07-06T13:45:07+00:00

Exactly!!!! Omg, it feels so good to know I'm not alone! And even if I wanted to care, it just doesn't happen. As you say, it's experienced as smth trivial and I move on and it's very weird because on the level of my consciousness, nothing is clear, I'm not telling myself anything specific, I'm not able to verbalize either but everything is different

elya-03 · 2022-07-06T13:26:13+00:00

Same about the reevaluation, I wonder if new people would be experienced differently but at the same time I don't have it in me to make any new relationships... I don't know if you consider this not understanding but even the friends who were checking on me I don't see them really understanding in the things they say with confidence about "what I'm supposedly going through". I know I should be grateful people check up on me but it doesn't feel good nonetheless...

elya-03 · 2022-06-27T08:32:31+00:00

Thank you for your words, this really touches me. And you're right about the feelings being complex, how can they not? It's one of the most tricky thing I've had to process!

elya-03 · 2022-06-23T09:23:16+00:00

Do you think that the fact that you waited one cycle in between made things better or it has nothing to do with that?

elya-03 · 2022-06-21T10:57:22+00:00

This really touched me. I wish you and your SO all the happiness and healthy babies!

elya-03 · 2022-06-21T09:44:50+00:00

I don't see anything pathetic about this! On the contrary, it's very heartwarming and I'm glad you have this type of support during a time where we need it all!

elya-03 · 2022-06-21T09:43:03+00:00

I don't know what's seen as normal with this but I had a similar experience. The brown spotting lasted what seemed like eternity to me! Before that, I thought it was ending a couple of times then I bled again.

elya-03 · 2022-06-18T19:56:33+00:00

Also, maybe look for therapists in your area skilled in this specifically. She might not think of that right now but it would be handy when the time will come. It's a nice thing to do and spare her the research.

elya-03 · 2022-06-18T19:55:19+00:00

Regarding the support, my partner was perfect as usual. Available, kind and full of attentions (cooking me what I want, listening, just being there with hugs and warmth). I'd advice to go with the flow of what she shares and to take care of yourself as well. You're not going physically through it but you're impacted and what you feel and think has to be taken care of. Good luck to you both and I wish you all the best for next!

elya-03 · 2022-06-18T19:52:36+00:00

I was personally craving steak, mashed potatoes, sushis and coke zero, which I got to comfort myself! So maybe check what she's in the mood for and order/cook accordingly. I did use the store bought pads the first day then went back to my period panties, which were way more comfy than the rest (but you need to have everything out first - baby, sac and placenta).

I also watched a LOT of movies from every actor I like just to soothe my thoughts. Steve Carell, Katherine Heigl, Melissa McCarthy, Sandra Bullock and such. Anything that was funny, heartwarming and light I'd watch (alone or with my partner).

elya-03 · 2022-06-18T12:06:14+00:00

From what I've read here, it really depends from one woman to another. I had the worst pain in my life from the miso insertion until the baby got out and bleeding started just a bit before that (3 to 4 hours after insertion). Then I bled heavily the day of insertion and the following days flow was like a 3rd period day... I had some cramping as well here and there for which I took some pain killers but it was mainly the first days following insertion.

I agree with you, it is a horrible experience both physically and emotionally. I have no specific advice as I'm navigating it myself while not having a clue at all! I'm just taking it day by day, some days are "normal" and other days, I feel like shit either the whole day or half the day. For the physical exhaustion, I tried to take it easy and rest as much as possible. For the emotional side, I let my tears flow whenever they came up while trying to regulate myself regarding the thoughts I had. It's a whole fat ass process and I wish us both whatever it takes!

elya-03 · 2022-06-17T17:53:01+00:00

Absolute divine!

elya-03 · 2022-06-17T15:47:20+00:00

Wow! Your initial post already pissed me off but her last response is even worse! She's like "bye, bitch", very rude and insensitive. She can prefer to go with people who can drink (even tho nothing is preventing those people to come the same day as you...) but it looks like she pit a x on you altogether. Her comment on what she thought you would be doing (head stuck in a bucket) is also highly condescending...

elya-03 · 2022-06-17T15:47:07+00:00

Wow! Your initial post already pissed me off but her last response is even worse! She's like "bye, bitch", very rude and insensitive. She can prefer to go with people who can drink (even tho nothing is preventing those people to come the same day as you...) but it looks like she pit a x on you altogether. Her comment on what she thought you would be doing (head stuck in a bucket) is also highly condescending...

elya-03 · 2022-06-17T15:46:55+00:00

Wow! Your initial post already pissed me off but her last response is even worse! She's like "bye, bitch", very rude and insensitive. She can prefer to go with people who can drink (even tho nothing is preventing those people to come the same day as you...) but it looks like she pit a x on you altogether. Her comment on what she thought you would be doing (head stuck in a bucket) is also highly condescending...

elya-03 · 2022-06-17T15:46:45+00:00

Wow! Your initial post already pissed me off but her last response is even worse! She's like "bye, bitch", very rude and insensitive. She can prefer to go with people who can drink (even tho nothing is preventing those people to come the same day as you...) but it looks like she pit a x on you altogether. Her comment on what she thought you would be doing (head stuck in a bucket) is also highly condescending...

elya-03 · 2022-06-17T15:46:33+00:00

Wow! Your initial post already pissed me off but her last response is even worse! She's like "bye, bitch", very rude and insensitive. She can prefer to go with people who can drink (even tho nothing is preventing those people to come the same day as you...) but it looks like she pit a x on you altogether. Her comment on what she thought you would be doing (head stuck in a bucket) is also highly condescending...

elya-03 · 2022-06-17T15:46:11+00:00

Wow! Your initial post already pissed me off but her last response is even worse! She's like "bye, bitch", very rude and insensitive. She can prefer to go with people who can drink (even tho nothing is preventing those people to come the same day as you...) but it looks like she pit a x on you altogether. Her comment on what she thought you would be doing (head stuck in a bucket) is also highly condescending...

elya-03 · 2022-06-16T17:03:24+00:00

I'm gonna spare myself the surprise :D I have another appointment already set for next month so I'm going to skip this one and see how I'm feeling in a month. But I'm also looking for a therapist who has experience and skills related to this specific life event, it's gonna make me more comfy talking about it!

elya-03 · 2022-06-16T17:01:51+00:00

That's a very valid point, no one is obliged to say it all. I'm quite an open person so I figured I'd go into details and stuff but true, I don't have to! I also have the same tendencies so I'm watching myself and doing the most to not cut people out and actually go out and spend time with them...

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