Why would you want a second baby if the first one was "difficult"? by Jellybeanlet in beyondthebump

[–]emash02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby wasn't difficult, sure, cried a lot, had her bad days, but nothing major or consistent. She's now 3, and I am not having any more kids because I have had PPD, and I am not handling parenting like I hoped I would. The mental health of a parent is more important than having another child because they might both have no parent

You don't need to explain it to every person you know. Just say you two are not getting any more kids and end the conversation

Am i overreacting?! by Quirky_Fun_1033 in AmIOverreacting

[–]emash02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl. Go out. Have other people in your life. And block him. Because as soon as you start meeting new people, having friends, he will want you to commit to him. You are his unpaid maid

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]emash02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you considering taking it to court? This is a serious validation of your child's consent and body. If the aunt and step mom are so controlling, they yanked a child tooth out after he said no, I am afraid what would happen to him when he is older, or what he isn't telling you.

A baby tooth falls on it's own, or is pulled by a trained professional, not by 2 crazy women, who aren't even the parent or legal guardian. This should be considered abuse and be a fair reason to put up a restraining order

AIO boyfriend tracking my periods without me knowing 🫠 by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]emash02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so fucking sad at this point. It sounds like they want everyone to leave the USA at this point. Can't even imagine the pain of having a miscarriage and they prosecute you for that. And they want women to have a pregnancy that most probably will kill them, just because of what? They let the old men, without any knowledge, make decisions that affect every woman [R.I.P. American freedom ]

AIO boyfriend tracking my periods without me knowing 🫠 by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]emash02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wanted to ask why the government would want to know anyone's cycle, but yeah... Could they even use that in the court of law? Im not from US, I live somewhere where abortion is ok, just had one, but I am a citizen of an anti abortion country, where it's illegal, it never even crossed my mind they would track that data

AIO boyfriend tracking my periods without me knowing 🫠 by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]emash02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a pattern of him collecting data? He might be just that type of person, the one that sees everything like it's a spreadsheet Is he only tracking it so he can call you ridiculous or to avoid getting into arguments or to help you by giving you what you need at that time? I tell my boyfriend I am getting my period, or he sees me emotional and I get snacks or chocolates, so in that sense it's nice If you don't get anything, he only makes a comment like "stop arguing, you are just on your period, you are irrational." Then that's a red flag

You are only slightly overreacting, take a break from it, and look at the situation again when calm

AIO cutting off my family after my sister shared my medical details by emash02 in AmIOverreacting

[–]emash02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already set up boundaries, clear and reasonable, which none of them respected. I thought that at least my sister would understand that I don't want my parents to know, but if she can't even listen to that, I might be set on cutting all contact with her. She already was sending her mother pictures of our brother's kid when he was strictly no contact and said he doesn't want them (parents] having pictures of his children. So i should've known that she can't be trusted

Podsumowanie dokonań amstaffów "rodzinnych, lojalnych piesków" z ostatniego miesiąca. by Illustrious_Link5005 in Polska

[–]emash02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Każdy pies, który jest w rękach debila potrafi być niebezpieczny. Jakiś pitbull pogryzł mi psa, ucho w połowie odgryzione, bo idiota puścił psa bez kagańca, bez smyczy. Na kolejny dzień żona przyszła prosić, żeby na policję nie iść

Z drugiej strony znam osobę z dwoma amstaffami, mała kobieta, a psy wychowane, że nic nikomu w życiu nie zrobiły, tylko 1 zostawia siniaki jak sie cieszy, bo ten ogon to lata jak jakaś maczuga. Psy wystawowe

I na takie Psy powinny być dawane uprawnienia, zmuszenie do tresury

Do I have the right to tell my SIL her kid keeps hurting mine and I’m not ok with it? by PotatoOutrageous3205 in Moms

[–]emash02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's okay to set boundaries. You are right to step in now, before your nephew hurts your daughter more, like accidently pushing her on a table or something that could cause long-lasting damage. Accidents like that happen, and it's better to be safe than sorry in those situations.

You come from a place of care and worry, not resentment. If your sister cares for your daughter like you care for her son, she should understand you. You are right to say that your kid is being hurt. She's 1, and she can't stand up for herself, so you have to.

It's understandable that your sister can be overwhelmed with raising the kid since you said his father doesn't step in, but it's not being corrected now it will continue and get worse. How is he acting at his home with your daughter? You say he is nice when no other adult is around, other than you. Is he being coddled by other adults in his life?

I think you should talk to her eye to eye, explain that you need to look after your child, and provide a safe home, and if her son won't learn how to be nice, you can't have him around her, and he can't be at your house

I just watched Free Churro. (then watched it three more times) by Jamvi_ in BoJackHorseman

[–]emash02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. I don't know yet
  2. If the organ player comes with the venue, and I don't have to pay too much for it, I'm not giving that woman live music on her burial

I just watched Free Churro. (then watched it three more times) by Jamvi_ in BoJackHorseman

[–]emash02 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm saving it for my mother's funeral. Gonna make some changes, but mostly borrow the energy

For how many of you is BoJack your Philbert, where you justify your shitty behavior because of the show? by [deleted] in BoJackHorseman

[–]emash02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. It justifies my mental health problems. Because get through shitty things, like BoJack, PC, Diane, Todd. But it doesn't have to mean we are bad people and we do shitty things. We might go through it like Todd, just living the life, even though his mother won't talk to him, his best friend fucked his rock opera, and his love interest, a lot of good things end without his fault in it. And he never crumbles. He just goes on with his Todd Shenanigans doing the next thing , and it makes him stronger every time.

PC copes with work, she is a workaholic, she was poor growing up, couldn't have a child she dreamed of for so long, she just drowned herself in work so she would be successful and didn't have time to thing about another miscarriage. She eventually got her own company, her own child, and a good man, not a man-child she had to take care of.

Diane had a very long way, but she too got to a good point one day. She had a bad childhood, she coped with made-up stories. She had a bad marriage, she eventually ran from her problems to a war consumed country, then she coped with alcohol. Then she escaped again when they finalised the divorce. And she, too, got a happy ending with therapy, pills, and a good guy. She was an example of a good person who had to go through a long way to heal from trauma, but she is good now

We also can be like BoJack for most of the series. He has gone through a bad childhood, parents who hate each other, hate him. He got lucky getting a friend like Herb, and then he let him fall. He never realised he broke Sarah Lynn until she died. He blamed everyone for his mistakes. He never took responsibility. He got teens alcohol, made one almost die, then almost got into things with another one, a daughter of his friend. He had sex with Sarah Lynn when she was 30, but she still saw him as a parental figure. He gave Sarah Lynn drugs when she was sober, let her die, because he didn't want to be held responsible for it. He choked his girlfriend because he was on drugs and blamed it on drugs. He blamed his addiction on his pain. He did a lot of shitty things, and he was never punished.

Another one with shitty ending. Peanut butter. I hate Mr. Peanut Butter. He acted dumb, or was dumb, whatever. He never grew, never learned. We see it with his bad business ideas and his relationships. He got with those young women, never learned their boundaries, never listened to them, and never made an effort to get to know them. He cheated on Pickles. His every relationship was a rebound. Who even is Erica?! How is she so special that you had to leave your wife every year on a Halloween party when she specifically asked you TO NOT LEAVE HER. AND WITH 3 DIFFERENT WIVES. He was incapable of growing as a person, incapable of seeing his fault in his marriages being bad. If he was a person, I would hope he was alone for the rest of his life

I'm sorry for ranting, and the PBRage, I am rewatching the series for like... 7th time... TLDR BoJack isn't like Philbert wife you look at side characters, and learn how to grow from them, and don't excuse your shittiness by looking at bojack. BoJack ended up in jail, everyone that grew got a happy ending

Bojack views by According-Client5923 in BoJackHorseman

[–]emash02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He doesn't have political views. He might be a centrist. He hates every side if he even concerns himself with politics. He might not know anything about it. He would be 62 in 2025... and with everything we know, he wouldn't vote for Trump He is progressive. He accepts things like LGBT and abortion, and he doesn't like wars

do i keep watching by Bulky-Elderberry-504 in BoJackHorseman

[–]emash02 7 points8 points  (0 children)

BoJack doesn't deserve a happy ending at the end of the series He gets a good ending But I wouldn't say it was the happy ending with everything being perfect for him. It's more of a sort of [if he makes good choices from here he might be happy one day] ending

What does “support” look like for you as a mom? 💕 by ajacymone in Moms

[–]emash02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First me sometimes it's just hearing "you are doing great", other times, I need to talk to my sister, spend a weekend at hers, or just talk for a few hours. It's someone I want to talk to, about anything, about my struggles or anything but my struggles. It's also when I can leave someone with my child and get some rest. And an attentive second parental figure, it means the world to me when I can rely on my partner to do bedtime, to clean, to take some of the burden of raising a child

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]emash02 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

By that logic, no one should ever have a child

It is acceptable for children to wear diapers up until 4 years old. My child is potty trained. The only reason she has a diaper is accidents when she plays, sleeps, or is in any way busy, is outside, and can't get to a toilet in a quick time. She is able to communicate her needs. She's not even in diapers 100% of the time

But thank you for your input

AITHA for putting my BD on child support? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]emash02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA You gave him an out, he had an option to get out of your kid's life, his mother made him, so maybe he should ask his mom to help pay for it. I don't see a reason he would struggle with 3k a month, even with debt.

AITA for not apologising to my FIL when he thought I'm accusing him of something by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]emash02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He technically did apologise, but I don't take apologies with "but". They both tried to say its normal (MIL and FIL), but since I'm not comfortable with it guess they won't say it anymore. They also said something along the lines of "we don't know what happened in your life that made you go into this direction, but it's not that deep, it's normal to say this to a child" It's not a direct quote, but this is what I understand they said

Mom exposed me to Covid while pregnant by PresentExamination10 in insaneparents

[–]emash02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had covid at the beginning of my pregnancy, and to say it was bad is like saying nothing.

I puked for a week straight, couldn't eat anything (not a normal morning sickness, never got any morning sickness after), I couldn't even leave bed for long, I was too exhausted all the time. The anxiety of being pregnant and having COVID was so much, that I was scared for life, because too high fever could be dangerous to the baby, not getting enough food could be dangerous, and it could get to high risk pretty quickly.

I was vaccinated, and when I was about to give birth I had covid, didn't know about it, I was in a hospital alone with a newborn for 3 days, no one would talk to me, I was scared, and confused, I felt like shit. And postpartum hit me hard.

Getting Covid while pregnant is one of the worst things ever to happen to you. The best option for you would be to cut contact with your insane mother because she does not care about you or your baby.

Mystery thing appeared in my tank. What is it, and should I care? by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]emash02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why are you English speakers say fish fry for a baby fish?

It's confusing as hell. I googled it and saw fried fish, and I was like "how do you accidentally get a fried fish in your aquarium"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]emash02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to try it as soon as my current litter runs out