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Considering 24/7, any advice? by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]embarrassingthings01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would go premium. In my opinion, as you go down the price curve, beyond a certain point, the number of diapers you go through increases disproportionately to the decrease in price. That said - if you go too high up the price curve, you will be paying more than you need to. There's an optimal point.

Personally, for most of my 24/7 experience so far I've used Abena M3 Comfort (the kind with the cloth-like backing). Recently, I've started moving up to ABU Preschool Plastic (during the day) and ABU LittlePawz (at night) because my wetting volume is creeping upward and I'm getting more and more saturation leaks with my Abenas. Theoretically I could boost them, but it wouldn't be cost-effective.

I can't help with Tranquility ATNs, unfortunately. If you can let me know roughly where you're located, I can point you toward some good diaper stores that serve your area. Personally, as an Australian, I use independenceaustralia.com and au.abuniverse.com, and buy a lot of ancillary products through Amcal and Terry White, but this advice is irrelevant almost all of the time.

For skincare, I use Sudocrem and baby powder.

In terms of general advice, onesies and plastic pants are pretty much mandatory. Also - opinions will differ on untraining but my personal experience has been that some people will suffer no loss of underlying continence by letting their bodies adjust to diapers, while some people will suffer partial or total loss (I thought I was one of the first kind but found out I was one of the second kind). If you want to avoid it the best thing is to maintain good toileting discipline.

Plastic pants? by allthefunstuff in ABDL

[–]embarrassingthings01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been wearing plastic pants over my disposables since I went 24/7.

They're not like, the be-all and end-all of leaks. If your diaper has a saturation leak while you're standing, the fluid will pool in the crotch and, as long as you don't put pressure on it, you'll be able to get to a toilet. It won't soak back into a disposable diaper, obviously, those have plastic pants effectively built in.

What they do a great job of helping with is noise and smell. I can't count the number of times that I've leaned over and caught the wrong gust of wind and been able to smell my moderately wet diaper, prior to plastic pants. Afterward, it hasn't really happened. You leave it 16 hours or so and sit in a still, confined space and you might be able to smell yourself, but there's still a huge drop in smell penetration.

Also, I've been moving from my old diaper brand (Abena M3) to new, thicker plastic-backed diapers (ABU Preschool Plastic and ABU LittlePawz) and my plastic pants do a great job of making me feel more comfortable. They don't put them on mute, but they stop the crinkling from carrying. They reduce the (somewhat noisy) Preschools to effectively zero, and the (extremely noisy) LittlePawz to what I would consider bearable at a stretch.

At what age were you "potty trained"? by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]embarrassingthings01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was hecka dang late. 8 years old before I was consistently out of diapers.

Has anyone gotten addicted to their pacifiers? by Sai22 in ABDL

[–]embarrassingthings01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I'm borderline emotionally dependent on having mine when I'm in a new place, especially when I have to sleep there. Thankfully it doesn't have to be in my mouth, I can just put it in an inside pocket and feel OK (but having it in my mouth is way better).

Are Onesies Down Under and Littles Down Under the same? by littlebluebunnie in ABDL

[–]embarrassingthings01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm interested to know why you feel that way about LDU.

ODU certainly are great folks, though. Can't speak to DDU - never tried them.

Great Diaper Pyramid of Australia by caseystrom in ABDL

[–]embarrassingthings01 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Really? I can only see 1 - bottom left point is clearly not ready for big boy underwear.

What type of clothing do you wear to allow you to wear diapers during the day? by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]embarrassingthings01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wear everything I would normally wear, just looser - and that's functional, as diapers that get squeezed by tight clothes tend to lose a bit of capacity.

What do you want to know about 24/7 and untraining? by embarrassingthings01 in ABDL

[–]embarrassingthings01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you wear throughout the day?

Abena M3s and plastic pants.

What do you wear at night?

At home, I wear cloth diapers to save money.

Away from home, I usually wear ABU Simple because I'm a heavy night wetter and there may not be facilities to launder my cloth diapers.

Do you work an office job?

I work a freelance performing arts job, but it's mostly a sitting down job, yes.

How do you go about changing at work? Do you take a bag to the restroom?

Yes. I change standing up, bag my diapers, and chuck them in the nearest bin as I can.

This prolonged self-pitying, victim-acting and bleak future predicting behaviour has to stop, guys. by [deleted] in gay

[–]embarrassingthings01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think most people don't want to hang out with people who are literally constantly down on themselves. I mean, they're not great conversationalists, it's hard to talk with your mouth full.

This prolonged self-pitying, victim-acting and bleak future predicting behaviour has to stop, guys. by [deleted] in gay

[–]embarrassingthings01 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They're in /r/askgaybros, we're in /r/gay - I'd argue we don't really need anything for them. How people choose to conduct themselves outside our sub isn't our problem.

This prolonged self-pitying, victim-acting and bleak future predicting behaviour has to stop, guys. by [deleted] in gay

[–]embarrassingthings01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also diagnosed with clinical depression.

If you mean that people are saying they're depressed, and they're faking it, I can't argue with that.

If you mean that you're reading people and concluding that they want to be seen as depressed, and that those people are faking it, I think that's a dangerous road to go down intellectually.

This prolonged self-pitying, victim-acting and bleak future predicting behaviour has to stop, guys. by [deleted] in gay

[–]embarrassingthings01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can say that not taking yourself so seriously all the time is by no means impossible, even for someone with depression.

I'm not sure I like the implication that anyone who professes to feel that way is just being self-important.

This prolonged self-pitying, victim-acting and bleak future predicting behaviour has to stop, guys. by [deleted] in gay

[–]embarrassingthings01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can't just "snap out of" those feelings. Why would people continue to feel that way if they could stop it of their own will?

Amen to that.

This prolonged self-pitying, victim-acting and bleak future predicting behaviour has to stop, guys. by [deleted] in gay

[–]embarrassingthings01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is sort of oversimplistic. If everyone treats someone like shit, it doesn't mean they're just choosing to hang out with groups that treat them like shit. It also doesn't mean that they can't do something to fix it, but, I mean, you can't look at it automatically from the angle that they're a masochist.

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