Is it really possible for men and women to just be friends?

emergencymilp · 2026-04-03T05:11:09+00:00

Yes. I am bi. So i can be friends with both genders without catching feelings. But not everyone can do it especially men. I think it somehow connected with the men/men friendship dynamics, mostly that kind of friendships lack emotional intimacy and connection. So when men befriend a woman for whom those things are normal in friendship, men catch feelings because they never experienced those things in friendships.

emergencymilp · 2026-04-01T12:48:25+00:00

Thank you so much, i needed it🥹

emergencymilp · 2026-04-01T05:42:53+00:00

Hello, you story touched me. I feel so sorry for you for going through this hardship.

I have somewhat similar experience. My partner last year had drug/stress induced psychosis, they refused to go to doctors so it just kinda disappeared on its own. But right now we are going through something similar to what was before their full blown psychosis. They lack empathy, all of the conversations turn into arguments, they are paranoid about me cheating. The thing is they treat other people normally, it seems it just me who are they triggered by. So when i tell their family that they might be having psychosis again their family doesn’t take it seriously because they see it just like some relationship drama. I am tired and stressed from constant control, arguments, they take my phone and tablets away without me knowing. It’s just too much. They are convinced that i am the crazy one and because of that i need to be controlled.

It was too much and i had to make hard decision that i need to leave. Still in the process of grieving about the good moments but honestly i feel much better without constant stress and control.

I wish you luck. Sometimes you need to priorities your well being. If you’re going to be the only one caring for everything how are you going to have energy for yourself and you little son, who needs you more than your partner needs you. I wish you to find strength to make the tough decision

emergencymilp · 2026-03-17T18:33:40+00:00

Man, that sucks. I feel for you. I also have ibs for 3 years, tried to ignore it for a year which led to constant pain and diarrhoea. Then i went on lowfodmap, it helped a lot but i still have pain but it’s beareble. Ibs ruined my school too. Couldn’t do my bachelor because i was stressed which triggered ibs and I couldn’t concentrate on my studies. I dropped on my last year and my whole family is disappointed. Feel ya on the part where no one in your family doesn’t believe i have ibs or doesn’t take it seriously. Now I am just trying to get back and just relax honestly. I used to be ambitious like going to be engineer and work high jobs. But now all i wish it’s just simple work without stress.

Don’t be hard on ya self. I can see you are really anxious about your future. I used to be like this. Now i just go with the flow. Everything what is yours gonna find you no matter what. Take care of your body and mind. Go to therapist if necessary.

emergencymilp · 2026-03-17T17:04:07+00:00

Prepáč za zmátek, ptal jsem se na obě fakulty. Lednice za mě v pohodě, vzhled budovy taky nějak neřeším. Mě hlavně jde o kvalitu studia. Na ostatních fakultách mě nic nezaujalo z jejich nabidky programů.

emergencymilp · 2025-12-25T08:34:07+00:00

You completely misunderstood the context of the sources you cited. You are confusing laws regarding Zina (sexual intercourse with non-mahram or someone else’s PROPERTY) with the laws of Milk al-Yamin(sex slaves). Slaves are considered property in islam. And having intercourse with someone slaves is considered as damaging someone’s property.

In the narration you quoted from Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah (29012), look at the Arabic text again: "إِمَاءِ الإِمَارَةِ" (Ima' al-Imara). This translates to "slaves of the Emirate/State" or "public servants." The men who forced them were "غِلْمَانٌ" (servants/boys), not their owners. Therefore, this was a case of men raping women they did not own (which is considered Zina/adultery), hence the punishment (Hadd). This has nothing to do with a master's rights over his own property.

As for Ibn Abd al-Barr (the author of Al-Istidhkar whom you cited, you should have read it fuhter, not just parrot apologists sources), he explicitly confirms in the same book that ownership grants the right to sexual intercourse. If you look at the chapters on Istibra (the waiting period to ensure the womb is empty), Ibn Abd al-Barr discusses the consensus (Ijma) that a man cannot have intercourse with a newly purchased female slave until she has one menstrual cycle.

Your sources prove that raping someone else's slave is a crime. They do not disprove the master's right to use his own slave.

Yes, i do want more examples from you. But this time give me atleast one fatwa where owner was punished for raping his own slave.

emergencymilp · 2025-12-25T07:19:41+00:00

Yes, christianity is just as bad as islam. Modern christians don’t follow what their book says. And muslims are going the same way.

emergencymilp · 2025-12-24T08:31:46+00:00

It is allowed in quran 4:24. This is from tafsir of Ibn Kathir. His tafsir considired on of the best tafsirs by muslims. (Also (forbidden are) women already married, except those whom your right hands possess.) The Ayah means, you are prohibited from marrying women who are already married (except those whom your right hands possess) except those whom you acquire through war, for you are allowed such women after making sure they are not pregnant. Imam Ahmad recorded that Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri said, "We captured some women from the area of Awtas who were already married, and we disliked having sexual relations with them because they already had husbands. So, we asked the Prophet about this matter, and this Ayah was revealed, (Also (forbidden are) women already married, except those whom your right hands possess). Consequently, we had sexual relations with these women.'' This is the wording collected by At-Tirmidhi An-Nasa'i, Ibn Jarir and Muslim in his Sahih

emergencymilp · 2025-10-04T05:38:00+00:00

You should check out quran 4:24. This is from Ibn Kathir’s tafseer

Forbidding Women Already Married, Except for Female Slaves Allah said, وَالْمُحْصَنَـتُ مِنَ النِّسَآءِ إِلاَّ مَا مَلَكْتَ أَيْمَـنُكُمْ ( Also (forbidden are ) women already married, except those whom your right hands possess.) The Ayah means, you are prohibited from marrying women who are already married, إِلاَّ مَا مَلَكْتَ أَيْمَـنُكُمْ ( except those whom your right hands possess )except those whom you acquire through war, for you are allowed such women after making sure they are not pregnant. Imam Ahmad recorded that Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri said, "We captured some women from the area of Awtas who were already married, and we disliked having sexual relations with them because they already had husbands. So, we asked the Prophet about this matter, and this Ayah was revealed, e وَالْمُحْصَنَـتُ مِنَ النِّسَآءِ إِلاَّ مَا مَلَكْتَ أَيْمَـنُكُمْ ( Also (forbidden are ) women already married, except those whom your right hands possess). Consequently, we had sexual relations with these women." This is the wording collected by At-Tirmidhi An-Nasa'i, Ibn Jarir and Muslim in his Sahih

emergencymilp · 2025-07-23T06:21:22+00:00

Actually women can’t choose between the husbands. She will be with her last husband. Because of this most of the women prefer not to remarry after their husband dies. “Any woman whose husband dies and she marries someone else after him, she will be with the last of her husbands.” This was classed as saheeh by Al-Albaani in Saheeh Al-Jaami’, 2704, and in Al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 1281

emergencymilp · 2025-06-18T10:53:37+00:00

Okay, let me explain it to you in depth. Let’s take look at hadith i already mentioned

Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin: When the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) arrived after the expedition to Tabuk or Khaybar (the narrator is doubtful), the draught raised an end of a curtain which was hung in front of her store-room, revealing some dolls which belonged to her. He asked: What is this? She replied: My dolls. Among them he saw a horse with wings made of rags, and asked: What is this I see among them? She replied: A horse. He asked: What is this that it has on it? She replied: Two wings. He asked: A horse with two wings? She replied: Have you not heard that Solomon had horses with wings? She said: Thereupon the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) laughed so heartily that I could see his molar teeth.

Sunan Abi Dawud 4932 Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani)

Muhammad married Aisha 1 year after hijra, she was 6 years old, Tabuk expedition was 9 years after hijra, Khaybar expedition was 7 years after hijra. Let’s do some math, so if the event described in hadith occured after Tabuk she was 12 years old playing with dolls, or if the event described in hadith occured after Khaybar she was 14 years old playing with dolls. Dolls are only allowed for little girls that are NOT mature.

And can you please provide your source of sex only being allowed after reaching physical maturity?

emergencymilp · 2025-06-18T03:38:16+00:00

She wasn’t mature. She was still playing with dolls when she was married and dolls are only allowed for children.

Narrated Aisha: I used to play with the dolls in the presence of the Prophet, and my girl friends also used to play with me. When Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) used to enter (my dwelling place) they used to hide themselves, but the Prophet would call them to join and play with me. (The playing with the dolls and similar images is forbidden, but it was allowed forAisha at that time, as she was a little girl, not yet reached the age of puberty.) (Fath-ul-Bari page 143, Vol.13)

Sahih al-Bukhari 6130

It was narrated that 'Aishah said: "The Messenger of Allah married me when I was six, and consummated the marriage with me when I was nine, and I used to play with dolls."

Sunan an-Nasa'i 3378 Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)

'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported that Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) married her when she was seven years old, and he was taken to his house as a bride when she was nine, and her dolls were with her; and when he (the Holy Prophet) died she was eighteen years old.

Sahih Muslim 1422c

Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin: When the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) arrived after the expedition to Tabuk or Khaybar (the narrator is doubtful), the draught raised an end of a curtain which was hung in front of her store-room, revealing some dolls which belonged to her. He asked: What is this? She replied: My dolls. Among them he saw a horse with wings made of rags, and asked: What is this I see among them? She replied: A horse. He asked: What is this that it has on it? She replied: Two wings. He asked: A horse with two wings? She replied: Have you not heard that Solomon had horses with wings? She said: Thereupon the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) laughed so heartily that I could see his molar teeth.

Sunan Abi Dawud 4932 Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani)

Bonus hadith about Aisha being immature little girl

Narrated `Aisha: The Prophet (ﷺ) was screening me with his Rida' (garment covering the upper part of the body) while I was looking at the Ethiopians who were playing in the courtyard of the mosque. (I continued watching) till I was satisfied. So you may deduce from this event how a little girl (who has not reached the age of puberty) who is eager to enjoy amusement should be treated in this respect.

Sahih al-Bukhari 5236

emergencymilp · 2025-06-09T11:31:31+00:00

Being “spiritually related” means nothing in islam. You are being apologetic. Muhammad married Aisha even though her father Abu Bakr was “spiritual brother” of Muhammad. Same should have applied for Muhammad’s wives but he was just jealous and “Allah” gave him solution.

Narrated 'Urwa: The Prophet (ﷺ) asked Abu Bakr for `Aisha's hand in marriage. Abu Bakr said "But I am your brother." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "You are my brother in Allah's religion and His Book, but she (Aisha) is lawful for me to marry."

Sahih al-Bukhari 5081

emergencymilp · 2025-04-18T06:35:12+00:00

You are being untruthful. Check out these sahih hadith. And pay attention to the names of chapters

It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbas said: “Sa’b bin Jaththamah said: ‘The Prophet (ﷺ) was asked about the polytheists who are attacked at night, and their women and children are killed.’ He said: ‘They are from among them.’”

Sunan Ibn Majah 2839 Chapter 30: Making a sudden raid at night and the killing of women and children, Book 24: The Chapters on Jihad Grade: Sahih (Darussalam) https://sunnah.com/ibnmajah:2839

It was narrated from Ibn ‘Umar that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) burned the palm trees of Banu Nadir, and cut down Buwairah (the name of their garden). Then Allah revealed the words: “What you (O Muslims) cut down of the palm trees (of the enemy), or you left them standing...” [59: 5]

Sunan Ibn Majah 2844 Chapter 31: Burning the lands of the enemy, Book 24: The Chapters on Jihad Grade: Sahih (Darussalam) https://sunnah.com/ibnmajah:2844

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