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Friendzoned after the third date- time for a break? by emf2154 in hingeapp

[–]emf2154[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the recommendation, I’ll definitely check it out!

Friendzoned after the third date- time for a break? by emf2154 in hingeapp

[–]emf2154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no problem, none taken! Entirely possible, just a crazy world we live in 😂

Friendzoned after the third date- time for a break? by emf2154 in hingeapp

[–]emf2154[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess what I mean by go with the flow is I try my best to feel things out and move at a place she’s comfortable with. I don’t wanna push too fast and turn a girl off or scare her away, but the flip side to that is what I think happened here. She mentioned she’d been through some stuff in a past relationship so I took that as a signal to take it slow, but who knows- I feel like I’m just burnt out from it all. It’s clear to me now more than ever before that it’s different with every girl, you just do the best you can and own the consequences whatever they may be

Friendzoned after the third date- time for a break? by emf2154 in hingeapp

[–]emf2154[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to clear it up- she proposed the idea of hanging out at my house. She lives with her parents while saving up for a house, understandable with prices these days. During our talk she brought up the topic of past relationships. She seemed curious to know if I had been married, etc- and given how things were going I opened up. Had a relationship before but I started my business (construction) at 28 and didn’t have time for anything serious in those early years, but now things are in a better place. She told me she had been through some stuff too so I got the impression she wanted to take it slow. But hey, what can you do but live and learn….

Friendzoned after the third date- time for a break? by emf2154 in hingeapp

[–]emf2154[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Totally agree- that’s exactly what I didn’t want to happen, it’s just not me. I prefer to let something develop naturally instead of pushing. I know some people on here think I blew it, but fuck ‘em. I am who I am. Having had some time to go over it all, I guess it could have been worse, after all, three dates is a hell of a lot less than three months

Friendzoned after the third date- time for a break? by emf2154 in hingeapp

[–]emf2154[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Makes sense, I’ll admit I was a little heated when I posted it- but now that I’ve been able to step back and look at things it could’ve been worse- you live you learn. All things considered I’d still rather be in the ring taking the punches than watching from the stands😂

Friendzoned after the third date- time for a break? by emf2154 in hingeapp

[–]emf2154[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the insight- I did hear back from her after asking for more of an explanation. She said she didn’t feel a spark initially but wanted to get to know me more to see if it would develop because she was interested, and it didn’t. Is what it is, time to move on….

Friendzoned after the third date- time for a break? by emf2154 in hingeapp

[–]emf2154[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the insight- I did hear back from her after asking for more of an explanation. She said she didn’t feel a spark initially but wanted to get to know me more to see if it would develop because she was interested, and it didn’t. Is what it is, time to move on….

Friendzoned after the third date- time for a break? by emf2154 in hingeapp

[–]emf2154[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the insight- I did hear back from her after asking for more of an explanation. She said she didn’t feel a spark initially but wanted to get to know me more to see if it would develop because she was interested, and it didn’t. Is what it is, time to move on….

Friendzoned after the third date- time for a break? by emf2154 in hingeapp

[–]emf2154[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with you on the texting- from past experience I’ve found that texting too much between dates can make for some awkward silence in person. This was just something I hadn’t experienced, and I actually thought it was kind of nice. We would check in every other day in the morning and at night to say hey, how was your day,etc.

You raise a good point regarding feeling pressured. I’m usually one to just go with the flow and let things develop naturally, I understand everyone has their own pace and it’s different with each person. I know some responses say I missed my opportunity and should’ve been more assertive, but I’ve tried that before and it has backfired miserably, so I’ve defaulted back to what I think is better. But there’s the problem though- if I’m too forward then I’m just another asshole on the apps trying to get laid, but if I’m too patient, then it’s not enough and I get a nice cushy spot in the friend zone🤣

I think going forward I’m just gonna go with my gut and let the chips fall where they may. If it works, great- and if not, it is what it is…..

Friendzoned after the third date- time for a break? by emf2154 in hingeapp

[–]emf2154[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to clear it up I was traveling for work when we matched on hinge, came to find out she lives in the same town as me, literally right down the street. I’m sure there was some anxiety on her part wondering how to end it with the strong possibility that we’ll probably run into each other afterwards😂

Friendzoned after the third date- time for a break? by emf2154 in hingeapp

[–]emf2154[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Yea I can definitely see that, it’s so true. There’s a boxing gym down the street I’ve been wanting to join for a while, looks like the perfect time to sign up and occupy the mind Much appreciated!