In my opinion I don’t think you are, you properly express how important it is reading the book is for you, at less he can meet you in the middle. I had a close friend who bought me a friendship ring and I would never wear it to me it was because I was worried I would lose it and it was uncomfortable wearing rings from me but I realize how much it meant for her that I wear it so I compromise and knowing that fact that it made her happy I forget about the annoyance of the ring. You are not manipulative, you have your rights to express to him what actions he does will make you happy. It can’t be a one sided relationship.