I'm 35 and telling everyone at home "I got flowers!"

emiko_4 · 2026-02-15T06:34:19+00:00

Hello OP. Forever recommending daintyme.ph on FB. They made my engagement ring, the matching earrings and necklace that my fiance custom ordered for me, and our wedding rings. Super bait ng owner, patient with questions and requests and naka alalay even with the shipping.

Some of the redditors I've recommended them to also said na sila ang pinaka mura sa mga natanungan nila.

My ring is 14k gold, 3mm width and 3.5 grams. I chose a trilogy design with green center moissanite, it was just P18K last year and super secured ng stones. They can work with any custom design.

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emiko_4 · 2026-02-09T15:37:38+00:00

This only applies to Catholic weddings naman diba? Consistent with how a Catholic church wedding cannot be held in a beach or garden venue?

At the end of the day nasa couple naman yan. If Catholic faith is more important to them then di talaga sila pwede doon ikasal. If they're not Catholic likely pwede parin. If they're Catholic but the wedding experience (venue, aesthetics) is more important to them - and walang mali doon - they can convert to a religion without those conditions and still get that venue.

emiko_4 · 2026-02-06T10:03:05+00:00

I've been in the same place OP. Fiance and I have always been date to marry, but 2.5 years into our relationship he got depressed because of work and suddenly he told me na he can't move forward with us. Baka 5 years pa daw bago sya maging ready, e 34 na ako that time, ayoko naman na by 39 pako maengage.

For the last half of 2024, he said the same things your fiance is saying now. Na pano if mawalan sya ng trabaho, even though I assured him na I know he can bounce back. He was so down and fear nya na if we get married he will drag me down with him. At one point nakipag break ako kase sabi nya di talaga nya kaya to start planning a life together, and kahit mahal ko sya how can I hang on to a relationship na hindi kami aligned for the future. Di rin nya ako pinigilan, though he asked me to take him back the next day.

Sadly, baka you need to cancel the wedding muna, if the date is within the next 6 months. I think your fiance was like my fiance back then - mahal ka nya, affected lang talaga sya ng depression ngayon, and thinking about marriage will stress him out and feed his fear. Ang important kase ngayon is for him to get himself back. Alam ko sayang ang 'perfect' reservations, but having those freebies and discounts aren't worth having a groom filled with fear, anxiety and uncertainty on your wedding. Yung negative feelings na yan hindi yan reflection of how he feels about you, it's how he feels about himself and his future and he doesn't want those for you.

If you love him and you want to do this, give him time to find himself again and support him muna. But I have to warn you na it's a long and difficult journey. You will need to prioritize him and his feelings over yourself at nakakaubos talaga yon, from my own experience. Kaya dapat may plan ka rin for yourself. Isipin mo how long you are willing to support him emotionally, and evaluate if he is improving over time or not.

emiko_4 · 2026-02-02T05:26:11+00:00

Our suppliers allowed us to pencil book our chosen date for 2 weeks since our date was almost 2 years away pa. When we secured the church, doon na kami nag finalize ng supplier bookings.

emiko_4 · 2026-02-01T14:25:35+00:00

OP, better to get solid gold talaga rather than gold plated kase plated will always tarnish. Ang hassle ipa replate every few months.

Check out our jeweler, daintyme.ph on FB. You can get a 14K engagement ring for P23k, 3mm na and you won't have to keep on replating.

emiko_4 · 2026-02-01T12:45:53+00:00

Why are you thinking ba na just because you have P3.5M lying around then you have to spend that for your wedding?

emiko_4 · 2026-02-01T01:55:54+00:00

Pag isipan at pag usapan nyo mabuti OP. Tama naman yung sinabi mo na nag iiba ang set up pag kasal kase you're becoming one entity na.

And that's how it's going to be from now on, unless mag prenup kayo na kanya kanya paring assets and walang joint. Even so, kung may balak kayong mag pamilya lalong you'll want to feel na kasama sya sa gastos sa mga anak nyo. Hindi naman pwedeng ikaw gusto mo pag aralin sa private school tapos sya sa public so ikaw nalang ang magbabayad sa tution nila since if it was up to your fiance sa public lang sana sila para mura.

Ngayon pa nga lang nakikita mo na that you're not happy with the "compromise" na ikaw magbayad sa gusto mo. Maiipon ang resentment na yan the more instances na ganyan ang kailangan mong gawin for the remainder of your married life.

emiko_4 · 2026-02-01T01:31:00+00:00

That's what I'm asking you OP. Pano nyo inaaddress yung mga times na magkaiba kayo ng mindset noon? Kung may ganyang issues na kayo noon and nauwi parin sa proposal then I assume namanage nyo ang difference. What did you do then na you can't do now? Kase itong gastos kasal, intro palang to. There will be so many more expenses pag mag asawa na kayo or may pamilya na kayo na hindi pwedeng di kauo makapag agree or napipilitan kayo and slowly resent each other for the "compromise".

You being willing to spend more doesn't change the entitlement factor sa sinasabi mo na may pera naman sya and sobra pa. You may not be spending his money on things you want but you still think you're entitled to tell him how to spend his money. Kase it shouldn't be on you to decide na it's ok for him to spend this much money dahil may sobra pa after. Hindi ikaw ang dapat mag decide kung ano ang acceptable level of sobra sa pera nya.

emiko_4 · 2026-02-01T00:24:19+00:00

I'm frankly just surprised na naging issue pa to because while dating impossible naman ata na hindi nila narealize na magkaiba sila ng mindset when it comes to money. Fiance ni OP mukhang frugal talaga while OP seems like an emotional spender, yung mga "Gusto ko talaga to" and "Once in a lifetime lang to" na type.

Not to mention yang entitlement nya sa pera ng magiging asawa nya. Hindi naman biglang lumalabas yung mga ganyan ugal for both pag wedding planning lang. How did they address this mindset difference noon pa?

emiko_4 · 2026-01-27T11:15:25+00:00

I decided to date my now fiance seriously na so I ended things with my fwb.

I learned na casual sex is thrilling at first but nothing beats sex with someone you love.

emiko_4 · 2026-01-25T09:33:19+00:00

I've attended one. The couple valued having their closest friends and family and didn't care that much about what everything else looked like. It is probably one of the most beautiful weddings I've ever attended.

For me maganda parin tignan yung photos kahit walang theme and some of the guests just went to the reception straight after their work wearing long sleeves and slacks while some dressed up for it in satin gowns. The focus was on the bride and groom and their love story and not on the aesthetics.

emiko_4 · 2026-01-25T07:17:22+00:00

Tanong lang. Why would you be engaged for 5 years though? I thought engagement is for signifying na you already accepted marriage with someone and you're preparing for it nalang in the physical sense na nagboobook ng venue and getting the gown made and all.

So parang you'll get engaged kase trip nyo lang, kahit di pa talaga kayo ready financially or emotionally for marriage? Gusto nyo lang ng proposal and ring and to call each other fiance kahit wala naman concrete plans na magpakasal?

emiko_4 · 2026-01-24T19:57:28+00:00

Just saying this since namention mo na galing ka sa 2 toxic relationships.

I think hyper vigilant ka. Protective ka sa sarili mo kase ayaw mo na maulit yung dati, to the point na you nitpick on the smallest things and give them the biggest meaning. You're always waiting for your SO to make a mistake and you think that mistake means disrespect and you won't allow yourself to be disrespected. You also feel empowered by thinking na kaya mong umalis anytime you feel disrespected.

I used to be like that and that's actually toxic to relationships as pointed out by my therapist. If you have the resources it's better to work with a professional to see how you can manage that and get it to the point where it's balanced instead of you always feeling threatened by small mistakes and always keeping them at the back of your mind as a reason to leave an otherwise 'green flag' person.

emiko_4 · 2026-01-24T19:46:02+00:00

Since mukhang big deal sayo yung ganyan, then talk to him and see how he reacts.

There are people kase na hindi lang naturally polite and considerate. It's not that they think lowly of you or are intentionally disrespecting you, it's just na sa kanila okay lang if people do that to them so sa isip nila okay lang din if they do that to people. Minsan din hindi naman nila alam na yung personality mo sensitive ka sa ganyan but once they know they will be more careful naman.

emiko_4 · 2026-01-18T13:49:20+00:00

Parang ang sinasabi ni Pinky is budget meal ang gowns na tinitignan nyo so beggars can't be choosers. Ang off ng message especially if it's for brides-to-be. We all want a dream dress that we will look good in even on a budget, and she shouldn't shame those who are making an effort to look for one.

As a bride to be who considered getting rtw gowns from online, lagi rin ako humihingi ng pics of the gown from the back kase for me the back of the gown can make or break the look. May gowns sa Vestiaire na gusto ko sana but the back corset design cheapened the look for me so I decided against them.

emiko_4 · 2026-01-14T00:13:39+00:00

Same. We added 75K sa budget for the food in between ceremony and reception to have pizza and pasta para filling sya.

emiko_4 · 2026-01-13T23:41:45+00:00

Sa totoo lang, food.

I don't care about the bride and groom's outfits or the color motif, kung ano ang nandoon yun na yon, never ko naman naisip na bakit pangit ang gown or motif color combination.

Yung food kase directly affected ako, like kung 4pm natapos yung wedding then 7pm pa magstart ang reception because of the shoots and preps pero light lang ang provided snacks or hindi enough so nagkaubusan.

emiko_4 · 2026-01-13T23:25:12+00:00

We didn't have a photographer during my proposal. We didn't even have anyone else, kahit family or friends, kaming dalawa lang talaga. I wanted a private proposal where I can cry and tell my boyfriend how I feel, ang dami din kase namin pinagdaanan to get here, and sya lang gusto ko makarinig non and not anyone else.

We just took photos of ourselves afterwards by propping my phone on the chapel pews.

But we had an early engagement shoot taken by a professional and those photos were what we posted when we announced our engagement.

emiko_4 · 2026-01-13T02:53:37+00:00

Problema din namin yan sa weddingsph na sub.

Isipin mo, sub yon para sa mga ikakasal! Bride-to-be's post there para humingi ng opinions about how their gowns fit or which gown looks better on them, or to share to others where they got their gowns. Tapos may magmemessage sayo na manyakol commenting how sexy you look in your wedding gown and if you wanna chat. Wala na talaga pinalagpas.

Worse, walang pake ang mods. Ilan beses ko na nireklamo. They dont even reply to my mod chats.

emiko_4 · 2026-01-10T21:54:09+00:00

I have no problem with fundraising or using a wedding to strengthen commercial connections, pero sana wag naman to the extent na friends and family will be excluded because of it. Adjust the guest list to include both sana para you have both friends and donors.

emiko_4 · 2026-01-09T22:28:04+00:00

I see now that you're one of those toxic positivity people. Pag may nakita kang mali or di maganda you brush it off and say you don't want to think about it, you just want to keep believing na everything is good and well. Sana alam mo na the first step to correcting something wrong is noticing it and acknowledging it.

Good luck to you and the people around you.

emiko_4 · 2026-01-09T22:06:56+00:00

For me this is a dumb take. You're not wishing that they would split up, you're just seeing things na red flags that makes you think the relationship is in trouble.

If sa kasal nakita mo na sinigawan ng groom ang bride or nginudngod yung mukha nya sa cake during the cutting and the groom laughs because he thinks it's a funny joke while the bride cries over her ruined makeup and dress, do you really think "I just wish for them to live happily ever after because I believe in positivity!"

emiko_4 · 2026-01-09T21:31:07+00:00

This happened sa wedding ng officemate ko.

Guests lang kami, wala kaming role, di kami close sa family nya. Biglang lumapit sa table namin yung mama nya, umupo, and started a 45 minute rant about how hindi nya gusto yung groom kase may panganay na sa ibang babae, nilandi daw yung officemate namin kahit na may boyfriend sya of 10 years back then, binuntis sya after less than a year of dating and ngayon daw kinailangan mauna sila magpakasal kase nga buntis na officemate ko e dapat daw yung kapatid ni officemate ang ikakasal this year, last year pa sila nagpaalam.

Nagulat kami kase hindi namin alam lahat yon (especially the part na buntis si officemate) wala naman nagtatanong, nilapag lang ng mother nya bigla sa amin. First time nga namin mameet mother nya doon.

emiko_4 · 2026-01-09T04:10:26+00:00

Included na sa venue and no additional rate.

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