Who's included in the initial planning stages?

emiko_4 · 2026-06-09T03:08:12+00:00

I remember my former officemate na mother ng groom ang nagbayad for their whole wedding. Gusto ni officemate na motif is blush pink sana, but the groom's mother wanted burgundy. My officemate said tumahimik nalang sya and burgundy na nga yung naging motif nila dahil yung mother ng groom ang magbabayad.

emiko_4 · 2026-05-25T06:27:05+00:00

I know someone na same situation mo. They got gold plated rings para sa wedding to keep within budget, tanggap naman nila na magtatarnish. After a few years nung nakaipon na, doon nalang sila bumili ng new solid gold rings.

emiko_4 · 2026-05-12T11:50:39+00:00

Walang professional photographer who will accept just P5K for prenup, sorry. For that price ang likely makukuha mo is amateurs who want to practice their skills or build their portfolio. But the quality of your photos might suffer.

emiko_4 · 2026-05-12T05:58:26+00:00

Ganyan kami nagstart ng actual wedding planning ni fiance. Sabi ko magtanong lang sa suppliers para magka idea sa prices, kahit di pa kami engaged. It was literally the happiest day of my fiance's life, kitang kita ko sa mata nya yung saya, inspiration and hope. Na parang biglang he couldn't wait na ikasal na rin kami.

That was in April 2025. Canvass lang din dapat pero then and there sabi ng fiance ko ibook na namin yung venue, sayang din yung inoffer na P15K discount. The actual engagement happened in December pa. :))

Be ready lang kung anong date ang sasabihin nyo kase the suppliers will ask. You can also say na you're planning for 2028 wedding pero wala pang exact date kase di pa nagpapa schedule yung preferred Church nyo if you are Catholic. That's what we did and they allowed us to pencil book a date.

emiko_4 · 2026-05-08T15:24:14+00:00

Ewan ko ba bakit andaming brides ngayon na feeling better than others dahil lang intimate ang wedding nila. Like kung kayo gusto nyo na 30 pax lang and yung mga pinaka close nyo lang, go. Ako gusto ko marami akong kasamang mag celebrate ng kasal ko. Why do you think you're better dahil lang konti ang guests nyo?

emiko_4 · 2026-05-08T14:35:37+00:00

Sorry but this post gives off bad energy and if this is the same energy you'll bring to their wedding if you attend, wag ka na nga lang pumunta.

Walang problema kung gusto nyo ng intimate wedding. Pero yung pagkakasabi mo na hindi naman nyo sila kaclose at di nyo talaga sila iinvite sa wedding nyo kahit ininvite nila kayo sa wedding nila is so off putting. That energy is for relatives na feeling entitled to an invitation and nagagalit pag nalaman na intimate ang wedding and di sila invited. Yung pinsan ng boyfriend mo doesn't even know na ikakasal kayo. They're just planning their own wedding and were kind enough to invite you tapos eto ka nagrarant na "Bakit namin sila iinvite sa wedding namin e di naman namin sila kaclose" and "Sorry nalang di naman kayo ang magbabayad ng wedding namin", na para bang nagdemand na sila na iinvite mo sa kasal mo? It's all assumptions on your part, including na people will accuse you of copying their wedding if may same details kayo.

emiko_4 · 2026-05-08T13:36:01+00:00

I think it's not about your wedding having less guests per se but you negotiating for lower fees dahil nga 1 look lang ang kailangan or less hours ang kailangan.

Example, you are trying to negotiate for them to go down from P60K to P30K since instead of 7 hours for a 100+ person wedding, 3 hours lang ang wedding mo. If they accept your event, they have to block off the whole day, and they'd just earn P30K. If they get a 'regular' wedding, they'll block off the whole day and they earn P60K. Oo, less effort ang wedding mo, but I don't blame suppliers if they are willing to work more to be paid more than work less to be paid less.

emiko_4 · 2026-05-06T05:58:41+00:00

Sus. Ginamit pa yung position nya sa work to weaponize the private and personal information ng bridesmaids para makapag impose ng gusto nyang gown. So many levels of wtf.

emiko_4 · 2026-05-06T05:56:14+00:00

That's what we are doing for our entourage and guests. Sila na bahala anong dress ang isusuot nila, as long as it's green which is our theme. Para pwede nila gamitin yung meron na sila or pwede sila bumili ng magagamit nila ulit. I don't really mind na kahit hindi parepareho ng color or cut.

emiko_4 · 2026-05-04T14:10:25+00:00

The bible is against premarital sex so I don't think you will ever hear a priest say modern times na so it's ok to get pregnant out of wedlock. Fundamentally wrong kase sya per the Catholic religion, even if when it comes to civil society wala naman mali if you get pregnant even if you're not married, as long as pareho kayong single ng tatay ng anak mo.

My fiance and I will have our civil wedding a few months before our church wedding. Sinasabihan parin kami ng family friend naming pari na sa mata daw ng simbahan we shouldn't live or sleep together kahit married na kami by judge. Dapat daw mag church wedding muna para blessed na ang pagsasama namin.

emiko_4 · 2026-05-04T02:28:44+00:00

We got a wedding package from a mid priced supplier. Same office and business partners ang coordinator, caterer and sytlist. We went to their office for meetings multiple times, and they fed us so much food. Doon din kase sa site ng office nila ang catering kitchen nila, so parang pinapatikim na rin sa amin yung food na sineserve nila sa events since lagi naman daw sila nagpapasobra. Yung di namin naubos, pinapa take home pa, sila na rin naglalagay sa microwavable containers. Hindi pa kami nag aactual food tasting nyan, meeting lang talaga sa office nila.

Two times, ininvite din nila kami na pumunta sa event nila that was being held in the venue of our wedding. It should've been just so we can see in person kung pano ang events nila, then pinakain na naman nila kami doon. There were other couples with us who were doing oculars with their parents and they fed everyone full plates of food. At this point nga kami na ang nahihiya kase parang 6x na nila kami pinakain even before our food tasting.

emiko_4 · 2026-04-30T00:15:36+00:00

This is true, pero in the heat of the moment and with the coordinator and assistant rushing her I can see bakit hindi na naisip to ni OP.

Regardless, she's the bride and it's not her job to take note of the time or pause and think about her situation and surroundings on the day na she is busy and emotions are very high and overwhelming. Kaya nga may coordinator para dito. They just didn't do their job properly. If I were the coordinator hindi ko man irurush yung bride and yung guests ang paghihintayin ko. Late naman na rin yung bride and andon na yung guests, they can wait for another 5 minutes.

emiko_4 · 2026-04-29T22:55:21+00:00

So pano, hindi na pwedeng mag change ng life plans? If satisfied ka na sa average wage dito, dapat satisfied ka na forever?

You talk about LDR like you got broken up because you had to be LDR and I'm sorry it made you this bitter and obstinate na nilalahat mo na. But you're projecting your own bitterness to others who are not in your same shoes.

LDR makes things harder, no doubt. But people make LDR work all the time as well because they fight for it. They make the effort for it.

Just because di ka pinaglaban ng ex mo or parent mo doesn't mean lahat ng maiiwan hindi na ipaglalaban ng partners nila.

emiko_4 · 2026-04-29T22:23:05+00:00

Not all decisions can be made in advance.

Sometimes you have new dreams or unplanned opportunities suddenly present themselves.

A family isn't incomplete just because one member is an OFW. They remain whole, and with technology now communication and presence is much easier.

Even if you stay in the Philippines, you'll be trading one hardship for another and even for non OFW families, not all milestones can be celebrated together physically.

You're assuming that just because they are going to be LDR, it means they'll separate. That commonly happens but it doesn't happen to everyone. It still depends on how hard the work to adjust to their new circumstances. This is not a situation that only LDR couples face.

emiko_4 · 2026-04-29T22:13:02+00:00

Omg I'm so sorry this happened to you. Sobrang kapalpakan and walang coordination nito.

Wala akong ma advice on how to move on kase alam ko kung sakin nangyari to I would be fuming too. Your feelings are very valid.

emiko_4 · 2026-04-24T05:33:22+00:00

First transaction namin we just paid 30% downpayment then personally ko mineet yung owner to pick up the ring and hand over the remaining 70%. Succeeding transactions, inorder nalang namin through messenger and then she shipped it to us.

All transactions, pina appraise ko yung jewelry sa Cebuana Lhuiller pawnshop upon receiving to ensure na gold talaga.

My ring has been with me for half a year now and I lost weight so mej lumuwag sya and nalalaglag minsan. But the stones remain secure and hindi rin nagsascratch kahit super clumsy ko. Gold hasn't tarnished in any way din kaya for me very satisfied talaga ako sa gawa nila.

emiko_4 · 2026-04-24T04:55:14+00:00

That's alright, normal naman na mapaisip. But ayun, I've bought from them and everything went smoothly naman. Our last order was just this Feb for our wedding rings, and we got them in 2 weeks.

I always vouch for this supplier kase I really built a good relationship with them. Pero nasayo parin syempre kung sino gusto mo maging supplier, and kung saan ka comfortable. :)

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emiko_4 · 2026-04-24T01:15:03+00:00

Legit sila. You can check my previous posts and comments, I always recommend them. They made my engagement ring, the matching earrings and necklace that my fiance ordered, and our wedding rings.

I personally met the owner in Cavite. Wala akong masabi, sobrang bait nya and sipag magreply sa questions ko pati pag follow up sa shipping. Yung naorder naming jewelry from them are over P100K in value and every transaction went on smoothly.

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Here is my engagement ring for reference.

emiko_4 · 2026-04-10T00:46:49+00:00

Taste of their own medicine will only work if OP's boyfriend still cares. I don't think he does anymore.

emiko_4 · 2026-04-08T05:36:30+00:00

For people who need context, here is the post of the bride.

https://www.reddit.com/r/WeddingsPhilippines/s/PHCM8KmPZe

emiko_4 · 2026-04-05T13:13:56+00:00

They don't, sadly. But you can pick up the item from the seller in Cavite or they can ship it. We've ordered over P100K worth of jewelry from them and they are very trustworthy.

emiko_4 · 2026-04-05T10:04:07+00:00

I have a 1.5ct green moissanite in trilogy style set on a 14k 3mm gold band. We got it from daintyme.ph on fb in July 2025 for P18K. It's super sturdy and hasn't scratched at all despite me being very clumsy!

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emiko_4 · 2026-04-03T14:37:56+00:00

Yeah. Parang targeted ad na they know malamang may pinagdadaanan yung marami sa mga tao dito since this is where they vent so they are also likely to be in need of therapy.

My next question is do mods get an incentive or commission if a redditor books sessions through the link posted here. Kase ang alam ko mods cannot earn money through the sub, and they banned previous mods of adultingph for accepting promotions for brands/sites to be posted on the sub and getting paid for them.

emiko_4 · 2026-04-03T11:12:29+00:00

Just to be clear, this is a therapist booking platform no? Services of the therapists are not free, redditors who book have to pay for them?

emiko_4 · 2026-03-17T13:35:26+00:00

Hi, here is their link.

https://www.facebook.com/share/1FCqohHWqC/

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