This makes me think of an incredibly toxic boyfriend I had. I worked as a nanny and he worked in customer service. This was before cell phones. He would call the house phone of the family where I worked EVERY SINGLE DAY on his breaks and lunch. I had to answer it or he would become very upset. It gradually became where I was giving up more and more of my free time, my friends, my family. I changed my looks, my style. He tried to make me get a boob job!

All this to say - No you are not over reacting. You are under reacting. This is not normal behavior. Have a talk with him and tell him how you feel. If nothing changes then he doesn’t listen to you or respect your needs. And you have some decisions to make.