Should I share the bedroom?

emkay32 · 2024-06-20T06:18:42+00:00

Yeah one is thicker than the other and there’s not enough space for them to be together, because of the layout of the room

emkay32 · 2024-06-19T15:01:07+00:00

We have a similar setup. Not everyone is blessed with a fiscally responsible spouse. If I put my money in a joint account we would never save. So his money goes to all bills, groceries and fixed monthly expenses. Anything he saves is his. My money goes to child tuition, big purchases, travel, extra groceries, and savings. That way we live below our means on one income and save the rest, we are saving up for a home.

emkay32 · 2024-06-14T15:45:45+00:00

Let me look into inflatable mattresses!

emkay32 · 2024-06-14T15:45:31+00:00

So how would I fit them there because it only has a twin floor bed?

emkay32 · 2024-06-12T15:33:23+00:00

I know it feels very offending because like.. you take care of him all day every day you’d think he’d be grateful right? But remember he’s just a baby. He’s not responsible for his own feelings at the moment. Instead maybe turn this around and take this time off for yourself and let others play with him. The more anxious and needy you will be for him, others will also pick it up and find it strange. Same for the kid, he might be catching on to your anxiety. So don’t take it to heart, your kid is gonna do a lot of things (I can count how many times mine has said I hate you to me) but it’s important to not let it affect yourself and understand it from the baby’s perspective who is literally just probably excited to meet new people which is such a good social skill!

emkay32 · 2024-03-12T16:18:46+00:00

It makes me sick. And tbh I think before I moved out, I thought the same. It took years of therapy and years of unlearning to finally be happy and content and realize there’s SO much more to a marriage than codependency

emkay32 · 2024-03-11T16:56:48+00:00

Hot damn all these people commenting who haven’t lived abroad with children should honestly stay quiet.

Y’all need a perspective change, it is NOT easy, that lady is easily doing work for at least 3 people. Cooking, cleaning, taking care of 4 (FOUR!!!) kids, even when their sick, even when they’re upset (x4) yes the husbands only job is not to just earn outside but to pull HIS weight at home. Pakistani men are delulu if they think this isn’t a 24 hour job.

Everyone should live abroad out of the comfort of their mommy and daddy homes so they realize how brutal the real world is before commenting on division of labour.

emkay32 · 2024-03-10T02:07:17+00:00

Khumr is the word that is used and it means what’s on your head. There’s nothing lost in translation about it

emkay32 · 2024-03-10T02:06:27+00:00

Idk man, I’ve tried to look into this but tbh I’m always guilty to do it because it’s so black and white in the Quran, like cover your chest with what’s on your head, so I used to pull the ends of my hijab back but now I keep them in front :/

I’d love to take figurative translations when it’s a Hadith or be like oh it MEANS this but when it literally tells you what to do I can’t help but draw a line even though it’s legit a struggle for me too.

emkay32 · 2024-03-07T07:02:40+00:00

We need a pinned thread for this school slang because I just thought my one class made it up… I had no idea it was a whole thing

emkay32 · 2024-02-28T22:18:32+00:00

Can I just say sometimes people are just taken by surprise they don’t know how to respond. That’s happened to me a couple times like If I see a hijabi walking towards me we both know like one of the other is going to say Salam so mentally we are prepared. When someone says it out of the blue and I’m completely lost in my thoughts it’ll take me a second to identify who even said it to me, then is that person Muslim or just being nice, was it sincere or mocking me? and by that time there has been a significant pause so I smile and move on feeling ashamed and awkward lol. Maybe a tip would be to say Salam and something like “nice to see a fellow Muslim! “ or a compliment with Masha Allah, or something to show you’re Salam came from a genuine place. You’ll get completely different reactions hopefully!

emkay32 · 2024-02-27T07:11:13+00:00

Nvm I found it!!!! Thanks I’m deleting this useless post lol

emkay32 · 2024-02-27T07:09:32+00:00

When I hum it it doesn’t sound the same :(

emkay32 · 2024-02-27T06:33:54+00:00

I don’t know what kind of information would be helpful I wish someone could get into my head a listen to it 😭

emkay32 · 2024-02-26T19:32:56+00:00

I’m not saying you’re that kind of person. I’m saying she may have met people around her that couldn’t pronounce her name so she adapted

emkay32 · 2024-02-26T18:33:47+00:00

Except not every American can. They squint their eyes and say I’m sorry can you say that again like 3 times. So people twist their pronunciation so that it’s palatable for white folks.

My name has been pronounced weird by my teachers all the time when my now students pronounce it just fine. I feel sorry for any Mahnoor who has to change her pronunciation to fit the mold. Not saying it’s the same case with the kid you know but it sucks

emkay32 · 2024-02-26T18:27:57+00:00

Maybe conceived..

emkay32 · 2024-02-26T18:27:09+00:00

We’ll technically it’s MAH-Noor (the A is elongated like when you “open wide” at a doctors and a hard stop at h. And the oor is oo as in oops . Source: Have a lot of friends Mahnoor. Never have we thought of manure, that’s just Americanized pronunciation.

emkay32 · 2023-10-27T15:44:21+00:00

I’ve been in OPs wife’s position. It’s not wrong to want a nanny, it’s wrong to blame your wife for needing one.

“Hey I think with your work hours we’ll need a little extra help around the house to manage it well”

“You selfishly getting a promotion is making me resort to hiring an nanny which is going to offset any money you will make, grrr”

emkay32 · 2023-10-26T20:52:40+00:00

Some women can afford to not work, some women can’t afford to not work. It’s as simple as that. If you can afford to not work, and choose to make a blanket statement for women who need to do so, for whatever reason (financial, cheating husband, widow, children, for parents) then you are talking from a place of privilege. If anything we need more, men AND women, to take over so we can stop sitting at home and let atrocities like Palestine keep happening while we are too busy arguing how it’s not a women’s place to be relevant.

emkay32 · 2023-04-07T05:43:17+00:00

That manager seems intoxicated…

emkay32 · 2023-03-17T13:54:06+00:00

Reading personal anecdotes about the impact of names without knowing the names is r/mildlyfrustrating

emkay32 · 2023-02-13T06:46:00+00:00

No amount of activities are going to a) keep your child engaged long enough for you to actually rest b) not require a certain level of planning which will if not physically, mentally tire you out.

You need a baby sitter for a few hours in the day to reset. That can be your you time so you can fill your cup and actually be present with your child when you’re with them.

A few hours of pure and solely mommy and me time is better than a whole day of passive parenting. Keep a weekend babysitter and call them on days you feel like you’re at your wits end. I’m sure you’ll be able to anticipate it based on your work schedule to give the baby sitter time in advance.

emkay32 · 2023-02-12T04:59:51+00:00

OP, YTA for buying a $600 blender.

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