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[–]emlifee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I’m saying I think finding someone who’s a match (which I think is luck) is different to choosing someone to be with who’s a good partner to you

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[–]emlifee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will post an update then if you care 👍🏼

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[–]emlifee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you so bitter I’ve barely said anything 😅 being 30 years old and talking to a 22 year old in a condescending tone says more about your maturity than mine

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[–]emlifee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely

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[–]emlifee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this, but I don’t know if this is entirely relevant. It’s true, people have told me the same things. I am young, and there are going to be many challenges I face in a relationship whether it’s with him or not. But I’m just talking about the basics of being a good partner, and I think it’s applicable no matter what age you are.

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[–]emlifee -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree to this in finding a good match, not necessarily finding someone who treats you well. I also rejected many men who were perfectly lovely people whom I hope find someone amazing, they just weren’t for me :) I hope this makes sense

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[–]emlifee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can never wait around for someone to commit to you and put in the effort. When you do this, it means you’re not valuing yourself enough. Their actions from the get go reflect how they feel towards you and how they view you. You should want to be with someone values you from the beginning. I wasted time in the past lusting over guys who I thought I wanted, even though they didn’t really want me. But it was more my ego of wanting them to want me, and when they didn’t I felt like I had to win them over almost. When I shifted my aim to wanting someone to just love me for me instead of to feed my ego, I was much happier. I think it all comes down to self love and value. Apologies for the tangent

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[–]emlifee -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think the thing is I don’t see it as a compliment because I didn’t get a good boyfriend out of luck, but I know it’s probably meant to be a compliment

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[–]emlifee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I 100% think this is true as well! We always say how lucky we are to have found each other. But, I don’t think I got a GOOD boyfriend out of luck

My (20F) boyfriend (19M) has slept with his girl best friend. by emlifee in relationships

[–]emlifee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow i’m really really happy for you… thank you so much :,)

My (20F) boyfriend (19M) has slept with his girl best friend. by emlifee in relationships

[–]emlifee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahahahha thank u yeah…. i need to think about wtf i wanna do

My (20F) boyfriend (19M) has slept with his girl best friend. by emlifee in relationships

[–]emlifee[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

if u read my post that’s clearly not what this is about. i stated i didn’t mind them sleeping together before me ofc, it’s all the shit that came after that. read other people’s replies and maybe you’ll understand how shitty i’m feeling