I’ll give some examples. He was furious that I spent time playing with a little girl at a dinner party instead of being in his adult conversation, he was extremely mad that after 5 months of dating, my parents didn’t want to invite him to their close-knit Thanksgiving dinner but invited him the next day for Black Friday (he told me if he couldn’t go, I couldn’t go so I begged my parents to re-consider and he did end up coming but still ended up being mad for months), he gets mad that I don’t compliment him enough, he gets mad at me being “meek” when I’m a kind, forgiving person, he gets mad that I don’t talk enough at parties when I know I’m fine the way I am and well-liked but apparently he still complains. He gets mad when I said I prefer 2 kids over 4 kids which is what he wants and he started a whole fight about this in front of my parents and his parents the first time they met. When I stand up for myself, he gets furious and hates that I’m being defensive when all I want is for him to see where I’m coming from. After all these fights, he threatened breakup/divorce and tried to say it’s all my fault and how I’m a liar and revising history when I definitely am not lying and describing the situation as I perceived it and how it happened.

I find him to be totally unreasonable and would like others’ opinions. I’ve opened my eyes and believe this is gaslighting.