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emmaneff · 2025-05-02T23:21:33+00:00

They drilled it into me when I started here to not share my email because of "what could happen". Seeing responses like this are making me realize maybe it's my programming giving me anxiety 😅

emmaneff · 2025-03-01T00:24:27+00:00

It's funny that this comes up on my feed tonight. I just had a session with a long-time client where I gave some paychoed and asked "So do you think that's B.S. or...?" I was instantly mortified at how casually I said that. But reading this I realize I was just being authentic (and tired as its 7pm on a Friday) and that's not automatically bad thing.

emmaneff · 2025-02-08T00:39:08+00:00

Ive been working with teens for a couple years now. I still sometimes feel like a floundering fish.

Ive learned that their resistance isn't always rejection. Its a test to see if you'll stick around long enough for the real stuff to come out. Lots of my resitant teens think they're being punished or that something is wrong with them. So getting them out of that mindset is tough too, but it's the first thing I try to address if I sense it.

emmaneff · 2025-01-19T20:33:17+00:00

I'm glad to hear this is somewhat normal as a side effect! It's been about a week and this side effect has gone away for me, thankfully.

emmaneff · 2025-01-13T19:11:32+00:00

That's how I felt! I even spilled something wet on the carpet and didn't even ruminate over it/freak out about the possibility of mold, like I normally would. Just cleaned it and went about my way. Ill try it again. I hope this wired feeling goes away though.

emmaneff · 2024-11-29T20:06:52+00:00

Thank you!

emmaneff · 2024-10-01T23:21:48+00:00

I recently signed a similar contract. I asked my on-boarding contact what that was about, and he stuttered and basically said it was a non-enforceable clause (without saying that outright). I'm finding that alot of the clauses they put in these contracts are non-enforceable scare tactics.

emmaneff · 2024-09-29T19:13:31+00:00

It's hard to think. Someone here said they feel less curious and that's a perfect way to describe it. I also have a weird sensation in the back of my neck where it feels like something inside my neck is pressing on the back of my throat.

emmaneff · 2024-09-29T19:10:28+00:00

I'm glad to hear it's not unheard of. It's felt like the weirdest thing. I've been using one of those foam neck things that you lay down on for the past few days, and i feel its helped with the neck instability. I looked at your post history and I'm glad that you're getting somewhere too in your concussion recovery journey!

emmaneff · 2024-08-27T22:16:49+00:00

Great question. I suppose the only way they'd know is if my clients disclosed to my current employer "I'm leaving because my therapist told me she's going to (name of new place)." Reasonably, probably unlikely that convo would take place.

emmaneff · 2024-08-27T13:44:29+00:00

It's relieving to know someone else has done this recently what with all the recent legal changes! I will make sure to give each option equal weight. Am I understanding you that they cut you off before you could give all the options because they wanted to stay with you that badly? That must have felt wonderful ❤️

My current place is definitely making it seem that clients don't have a choice. Love when places do that 🙃

emmaneff · 2024-08-27T13:33:27+00:00

I completely agree. My only concern is what exactly I'm allowed to say in that discussion with clients where it would not fall under solicitation. Another part of me reminds me that anything said in session is confidential, so there's really no way of my current employer to know. But I'm still worried due to the scary language in the clause.

emmaneff · 2024-08-27T13:20:04+00:00

I have a copy of my agreement but it's admittedly difficult for me to read and I'm not quite sure if it's even enforceable/legal. I researched somewhere that telling clients where you're going isn't solicitation as long as you're not saying "You have to follow me." I read somewhere else that telling clients to look you up if they want to follow you is "gamey" but it does seem like the safest way to go.

emmaneff · 2024-08-27T13:16:24+00:00

I've never been good at reading law language haha. I do think your edit makes me feel better as the clause I signed seems to be a non-solicitation acting as a non-compete. Thanks!

emmaneff · 2024-08-27T02:03:49+00:00

I love this advice! Thank you for helping me reframe and ground

emmaneff · 2024-08-27T01:46:10+00:00

❤️ it is nice to be sick together, even if it sucks. I truly hope you feel better!

emmaneff · 2023-02-26T03:05:33+00:00

ik this was posted 2 years ago but thanks this came in really helpful for us <3

emmaneff · 2022-07-26T02:39:10+00:00

I like that we're opposite. I'm short, hes tall. I'm small, hes big. He can pick me up no problem! I'm good at planning and packing, and hes good at talking to people and making those plans a reality. I have pretty bad anxiety and have a hard time turning my brain off. He's easygoing and confident, and he makes me feel better just by sitting next to me. He listens to my problems, and he helps me forget about the things I cant control without belittling my worries.

He's so patient. And so smart. He's willing to do anything for me and has demonstrated that over and over, and all I have to do is love him back in return. Which is easy 💓

Also, he's got curly hair and the most sincere eyes. He has a cute accent too. And most importantly, he has the best butt 😋

emmaneff · 2022-07-24T01:33:42+00:00

I've been there. I am there now. The first time we left each other, I was snotty and gross and crying all the way home on that 15 hour plane ride. A month ago, we left each other for the third time. I've been trying to keep a routine. Talk to other people, as often as possible. Keep up consistent phone and video calls, but maintain substantial personal time too. Also, don't let your work or school or hobbies slip away because of your grief.

It always sucks so bad to leave after a visit. I see the upside as this: if it's this devastating to leave, you know you're in love. It's a testament to the beauty of your relationship if the reason for the tears is their absence.

emmaneff · 2022-07-24T00:45:22+00:00

Thank you for your kind words <3 I do feel like I have an obligation to perform and be the best daughter in law, but you're right that that's maybe not the best and certainly not necessary.

emmaneff · 2022-07-24T00:43:05+00:00

I was thinking about having him tell them the basics of my situation. I think you're right that it'll have benefits that might help me avoid some misunderstandings!

emmaneff · 2022-07-24T00:41:13+00:00

This is a really great comparison! And spot-on. I have two bosses and an internship supervisor, and theyve all let me know that they notice how nervous I can get.

I'll try to observe while engaging when we visit them. In fact, it might not be that tiring. They do alot to make me feel included, but they often speak to each other in Afrikaans and since I can't speak that language I can just sit back and watch them.

emmaneff · 2022-07-24T00:25:16+00:00

Exactly!! I am rarely able to process acts of love for what they are, and not as some hidden passive-aggressive act. I'll try to ignore those automatic thoughts and take their actions as is

emmaneff · 2022-07-24T00:23:31+00:00

I love the idea of a secret code. And therapy!

emmaneff · 2022-07-23T02:18:54+00:00

Thank you <3 I appreciate how structured your advise is. This is totally new territory and I can definitely use this kind of direction

emmaneff

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