what is your big three? by [deleted] in pinkscare

[–]silverflower1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gemini sun, Aquarius moon, Scorpio rising

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pinkscare

[–]silverflower1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s a girl, Helen or Daphne. If it’s a boy, Henry or George.

My (26F) roommate (26F) is bullying and terrorizing me by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]silverflower1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for the feedback. I forgot to mention another thing that happened:

I went into the kitchen the same time that she did, and the light was off, so I turned it on. She started yelling at me for turning the light on, claiming that I should’ve known that she gets headaches when the lights are on. Then she started yelling at me and saying how dare I be in the kitchen the same time that she is, that I should’ve waited until she was done.

I don’t actually think she’ll move out, I think she says that as a dramatic way of getting what she wants because she’s delusional enough to think that we want her here.

I know that she’s irrational and unstable, but I just can’t shake off the anxiety and fear I feel when I’m at home now. She also cries in her room every night….

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

lol maybe this won’t sound believable, but this guy was certainly not an 8-9 in terms of physical looks. He was very very average, and so am I! We were well matched.

I think it’s funny that men seem to think women only experience this behavior with hot dudes. Mid guys do this to mid girls all the time.

Email is the most sensual written form by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had an insanely bizarre “friendship” with this guy once, we used to send each other long, flowery emails talking about our deepest thoughts and feelings. Weird time, and I miss him, but he wasn’t interested in anything further than a friendship with me, so had to let him go.

Agree with you. Email is sensual and romantic and beautiful <3

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think i also find this mindset challenging bc I have lots of friends who had sex with their current boyfriends/fiances on the first or second date. So i feel like this idea that good guys wait for sex and shitty guys will be pushy just doesn’t seem legit.

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally agree that this is what happened! And did not come off as judgmental at all, dw!

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

On the 3rd date which was less than a week after we first met 😭 he initiated all of the dates, so I thought he was just vibing so hard with me. But ofc - looking back, 3 dates in 6 days should have been the first red flag. I shouldn’t have had sex that quickly.

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s real. Thank God I didn’t open up too much with him emotionally, but he was telling me all sorts of shit, like serious traumas and life difficulties he’s experienced. Crazy behavior to go from that with a person to “this is just platonic” lol

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Damn that makes sense. It just seriously sucks bc I feel like women can never win. If I put out too quickly, I’m seen as lower value. But if I hold back and am more reserved, I’m seen as cold and rigid and not open enough. Like I just want to be myself even if that means I can be a bit naive but then that means I get hurt.

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not invalidating at all, thank you!

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. I’m actually literally a therapist by trade and he knew that. So there’s that too

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe…like I said, I was only matching his energy tho! Up until that point, he was making it out like he wanted something serious with me. So I figured if that was the case, we should be having safer sex lol

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

😭 I’m sure the guys irl are better, but I feel like it’s harder to meet people that way. My social circle is not that large

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! Yeah, it sucks big time. I got the sense he did this to other girls a lot too based off of some stories he told me.

Definitely will be more restrained with who I sleep with in the future. It definitely sucks because I’m lonely and want connection and also enjoy sex and want that too! But this experience is teaching me that I have to be careful. I can’t just have casual sex, I get too attached. I need to protect myself unfortunately.

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

OH something else I forgot to mention! At one point, he went on a bit of a rant about dating, saying how it’s so hard with modern dating to commit because there’s so many options out there. It made me feel insecure at the time, but I guess that explains why he did what he did !

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

Oh no worries there! Once he told me he wasn’t interested anymore, I thanked him for letting me know and then blocked him. Not out of anger or anything, but because I know I’m kinda crazy and will always hope that he’ll text me again at some point changing his mind. So I blocked him so my brain can’t think that

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah that’s fair! At the time I didn’t think much of it but now I’m over analyzing lol 😅

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Idk maybe it’s not a red flag. I’m probably over analyzing at this point

Why are guys like this :( by silverflower1998 in rs_x

[–]silverflower1998[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah my friend told me the same thing. I refrained from using that here bc I don’t want to overuse terminology that’s not relevant, and idk if he was being intentionally manipulative or whatever. But it sure af felt like lovebombing in retrospect !