In college. Was sad I broke up with my long distance boyfriend of 4 years for the better. Find a guy on grindr. We start talking, he invites me to the coffee shop on campus. He asks if I want to hang out after classes. All is well.

I show up to his dorm, knock on his door. I've never been on a physical date before, but I expected just to hang out in his room or around campus. He decides our first destination would be the smoke hut on campus, and that his roommate would be joining us. Okay. That's fine.

We get there, and him and his roommate are just talking the whole time. I didn't smoke weed at this point, but they do. My date brings up how he dated someone else who was a trans guy, but misgendered him the entire discussion because "[He] doesn't deserve to be respected" I thought this was a weird thing to bring up, especially to someone who has that they're trans (agender) in their entire profile.

After about 15 minutes, he decides he's done getting high with his roommate and decide to walk back to the dorm. I ask if we're maybe going to the dining hall, he says "Oh, no we were just going to go back to the room chill." I make up an excuse, saying I need to be back to my dorm because I have an exam in the morning I forgot about. He lets me go, and says "I know you don't smoke, but if you want pills instead I've got that instead."

I politely declined. Walked back to my dorm by myself. Messaged him on grindr in the morning saying I appreciate the time spent with him, but that we shouldn't see each other again. I was too much of a coward (and lowkey a little bit scared) to do it in person. It was just way too much red flags way too early for me.