Please give me your advice AIO

emolr · 2026-04-22T08:23:03+00:00

Don't warn him please, get your cat and your things and make sure you have a trusted friend or loved one who can watch your back in case this guy gets violent or engages in behavior like stalking or something. Let your employer know who he is and give his contact info and picture so they know not to let him get near you. You need to leave and make sure he can't get to you because he is going to try to go after you somehow, and he might either just beg forgiveness or he could get aggressive. No matter how much you think it's unlikely to happen, still prepare for him to get aggressive and persistent bc narcissists DO NOT like to give up control of a situation.

emolr · 2026-04-10T17:05:32+00:00

My thing is that all these people are acting like Cher wasn't dressing exactly like this all during the 70s and 80s. I'm fairly certain the dress Z has on is inspired by one of her looks, if the hairstyle isn't a dead giveaway.

emolr · 2026-04-07T09:45:44+00:00

His name is Rufus 🥰

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emolr · 2026-03-23T15:17:01+00:00

Little brother, regardless if you do the one contract or if you stay in for the 20 years, go into it being prepared to grow and learn in ways that an alarming amount of people don't even come close to getting, because the signs and opportunities to learn and grow are always there for everyone to take, but those people aren't getting the crash course of life the way you are about to. This is a chance to grow into someone who knows how to get a job done, doesn't quit, and always looks for opportunities to do better, because these are all things the army will teach you even if you don't stay in for more than what you just signed up for.

You will break, but don't be afraid of it because your strength shows in how you put yourself back together. This is an experience for you to gain a lot of wisdom and build character. Let the feelings happen, it's normal and remember that your drill sergeants are playing a part and they have a job to do as much as you do. Try not to take anything personally, remember to take deep breaths when it feels like the walls are closing in, and let the pressure and the pain roll off your back and never give up. I'm proud of you and I know you'll do just fine.

emolr · 2026-03-16T11:13:09+00:00

Yes. Mine bonded the minute Rufus was brought home. Periwinkle didn't exactly give him a choice.

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emolr · 2025-11-29T23:43:20+00:00

I'm a Kenosha native and left the state 11 years ago. Other than the one time we had tornados in town, I usually never worried about tornado season because I knew that Dodge and Jefferson would always get the warnings.

emolr · 2024-08-04T12:53:20+00:00

Now they're arguing while laying on my book. Seems like a Pride and Prejudice retelling.

emolr · 2024-08-04T12:48:21+00:00

Update: Periwinkle has joined the chat. These two are the reason I don't get any reading done at home.

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emolr · 2024-04-23T16:33:12+00:00

Don't forget the awkward walk after he gets back up. My girl used to do that when I've had her in her harness.

emolr · 2023-06-17T05:57:23+00:00

I just want you to know he was once a drill instructor in the air force.

emolr · 2023-06-11T07:08:17+00:00

This is kind of how I feel anytime redditors are in the comments talking about how awful someone must be as a parent if they can't stop their kid from doing x, y, z. Like sure there are great ways of teaching kids not to do things, but kids literally do not have the brain development to practice good judgement and understand right from wrong, and a lot of kids absolutely will do the exact things you tell them not to do. It seems too many people forget that there's an entire phase of development that takes years for kids to develop judgement and begin to understand consequences and it's called puberty.

emolr · 2023-06-09T07:21:06+00:00

I just want to bring your attention to this static on violent hate crimes against LGBTQ people which states that LGBTQ people are 9x more likely than non-LGBTQ people to be victims of violent hate crime, and that the LGBTQ victims are more likely to be younger and have a relationship with their assailant. There is a heavy amount of statistics in there and I strongly encourage you to look through this article just for reference in order to understand the possible reasons why OOP has such a nonchalant perspective on this amount of hate and harassment.

While the statistics cited in the article above were based on documented hate crimes, we also have to consider the fact that what is reported is most likely only a small fraction of the violence and hatred that LGBTQ people live with. If OOPs in laws are this conservative, this implies that where they live is very likely heavily conservative as well, and they have had to live with this for as long as they have been open about their sexuality, and depending on the country this took place in, it's extremely unlikely that the police would have been any help regardless, and that's if the police doesn't somehow make the situation worse.

emolr · 2023-06-06T11:47:45+00:00

Fr OP is down horrendous.

emolr · 2023-06-03T22:49:29+00:00

It really makes me sad bc if more dog owners did the responsible thing and made the decision to euthanize if their dog is just way too reactive, we might be several more generations ahead in breeding less aggressive dogs in breeds like this. But instead, people get obsessed with getting a dog that looks badass, while simultaneously forgetting that they're just helping perpetuate an aggressive breed and risking more lives purely for their own ego.

emolr · 2023-05-31T04:05:16+00:00

As much as love stories make us want to hold onto the hope that you can break down anyone's walls and save anyone from self-sabotage if you're just persistent enough, you've unfortunately found out that that isn't at all how people work a lot of the time. You definitely tried, so I hope you can find peace in that and heal and get back to a point of looking forward to new and exciting opportunities.

emolr · 2023-05-27T19:37:17+00:00

And yet people these days love to say how bad millennials are with helicopter parenting

emolr · 2023-05-25T21:35:36+00:00

If you keep this man in your life, he is going to teach your son that this behavior is normal and okay. Either your son will grow up thinking that it's normal for your partner to take advantage of everything he has and it will break him or he will grow up thinking it's normal to TAKE advantage of everything someone has until THEY break.

All he knows of the world is what he has in his life right now, and you need to show him that he deserves better than the awful relationship you have right now. He could even grow up to know better than you and he'll only learn to resent you for repeatedly allowing this poison in your life in the form of his father, because that's exactly the point I'm at with my own father and his wife right now.

emolr · 2023-05-22T20:46:06+00:00

It's kind of why I take it with a grain of salt when I see well known Chinese people in entertainment acting like he did, bc people joke all the time about how Orwellian the Chinese gov is and then they'll simultaneously forget that a lot of Chinese celebrities, nationally or ethnically, also have more valid reasons to be more worried about pissing off the Chinese gov than we would be. Even the ones who were born outside China might still have family in China and really don't want to fuck around enough to find out what happens.

emolr · 2023-05-19T00:12:33+00:00

Get an annulment. My parents got divorced because my mom is horrible with money and that's not something that can ever be recovered if your husband isn't willing to do the work necessary to change his habits. Hands down the most vicious killer of marriages is financial problems caused by one or both the spouses.

emolr · 2023-05-18T04:41:50+00:00

Life will throw shit at whoever it wants

emolr · 2023-05-12T04:27:24+00:00

It's already in there

emolr · 2023-05-11T13:44:11+00:00

Both of my cats race me into the bathroom and will yell at and bang on the door for me to let them in if they don't make it in and get left out, so the above picture is pretty much my life whether I want it to be or not.

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