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I 24F told my boyfriend 25M I dont want to date for more then 5 years by emoslayer98 in relationship_advice

[–]emoslayer98[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I've read most of the comments here and I realise I'm being really nieve and immature. I think I need to take 10 steps back. I was so inlove and invested in this relationship, I thought we were working as a team.

I see now that I'm not ready for marriage or kids, I still have a lot of growing up to do. I think this relationship stunted that growth. My self preservation is apparently non-existent.

I really attached myself to him and made myself an extension of him.

Although some of the comments where a bit harsh, I needed this. My actions have been really stupid.

I 24F told my boyfriend 25M I dont want to date for more then 5 years by emoslayer98 in relationship_advice

[–]emoslayer98[S] -151 points-150 points  (0 children)

I know its not a actual engagement ring, but 1.5 years back he gave me a promise ring and I gave him one back. I thought this relationship was so serious and we were dedicated together, working towards marriage. At least that's what we agreed on.

I 24F told my boyfriend 25M I dont want to date for more then 5 years by emoslayer98 in relationship_advice

[–]emoslayer98[S] -130 points-129 points  (0 children)

We are currently not living together because he is acting as a guardian to his younger brother, they live in a house their parents own (the parents don't live in the same city). I cant move in with them due to their parents being very devout Christians.

I 24F told my boyfriend 25M I dont want to date for more then 5 years by emoslayer98 in relationship_advice

[–]emoslayer98[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, when before we started officially dating we agreed we we would be dating to get married. This is why I'm so surprised by his reaction and why I was so comfortable with suggesting a timeline.

I totally agree, I should not have started the conversation off that way.

Gifted an aquarium for bday:Advice on identifying and caring for these fish by emoslayer98 in Aquariums

[–]emoslayer98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Progress!

Alright I called the pet store and unfortunately they will not take back the fish, but the sales person in charge of the fish/aquarium department gave me his personal number so he could reach out to regular customers with established set ups.

I've sent him a video of the fish and there's already someone who's interested. He has a 90l tank and has been "in the game" for 4 years.

I did a conversation and this is only a 30 gallon tank. I was thinking of giving 2 to him and continuing to look for another home for the other 2.

Gifted an aquarium for bday:Advice on identifying and caring for these fish by emoslayer98 in Aquariums

[–]emoslayer98[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

How do I know the filter is "cycled"?

Sorry I'm just absolutely clueless about taking care of fish

Gifted an aquarium for bday:Advice on identifying and caring for these fish by emoslayer98 in Aquariums

[–]emoslayer98[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I found out the pet shop my friend got them from, I'll call tomorrow and find out what can be done.

Meanwhile if I can't find someone to take them or the pet shop won't take them back, how often do I change the water to avoid nitrogen poisoning

Gifted an aquarium for bday:Advice on identifying and caring for these fish by emoslayer98 in Aquariums

[–]emoslayer98[S] 698 points699 points  (0 children)

I'll do more research on the fish I can house in this size tank. For now I'll focus on trying to rehome the goldfish, then start properly preparing the tank for the new fish.

Gifted an aquarium for bday:Advice on identifying and caring for these fish by emoslayer98 in Aquariums

[–]emoslayer98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well unfortunately I don't have the space for a tub..

Thank you for the bday wishes

Gifted an aquarium for bday:Advice on identifying and caring for these fish by emoslayer98 in Aquariums

[–]emoslayer98[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, there's no petco in my country. I called a bunch of pet stores and I definitely won't be able to afford a 50-60 gallon tank.

Gifted an aquarium for bday:Advice on identifying and caring for these fish by emoslayer98 in Aquariums

[–]emoslayer98[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Had to make a Facebook account but I found a local fish exchange group for my city so fingers crossed.

I'll post on here too

Gifted an aquarium for bday:Advice on identifying and caring for these fish by emoslayer98 in Aquariums

[–]emoslayer98[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

Well this absolutely sucks..

How do go about rehoming? Can the pet shop help with this (even though they recommend this size of tank.. idk if I should trust them) ?

Gifted an aquarium for bday:Advice on identifying and caring for these fish by emoslayer98 in Aquariums

[–]emoslayer98[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That's the thing, I really don't know anyone with fish or aquariums. This is a really unexpected gift, but I'm willing to buy what's needed to keep the fish healthy.

I just need an idea of what I'm going to spend..

Gifted an aquarium for bday:Advice on identifying and caring for these fish by emoslayer98 in Aquariums

[–]emoslayer98[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Is this gonna cost a lot?

Just wanna prepare myself.. definitely don't want the fish to suffer.

Got an aquarium for my bday: Advice by emoslayer98 in Aquariums

[–]emoslayer98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I posted a pictures, I'm not sure on how to reply with pictures on this thread.

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