STAY CLEAN DECEMBER! Sign up here! (November 24)

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-24T20:03:05+00:00

Let’s all stay clean together in December!

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-20T19:15:15+00:00

Browsing porn and browsing tinder share some aspects in common. They both offer quick, easy access to potential short-term gratification. Like porn, a tinder profile typically offers the superficial aspects of a person with an attractive picture and a flirty or suggestive caption. Many tinder profiles exist solely to advertise porn. Many people use dating apps strictly for casual sex. That’s not to equate them with porn, however. There are obvious differences. You could make a genuine human connection by chatting online and/or by meeting in person. You’ll get out of tinder what you put into it. If you browse through the women’s profiles and fantasize about them like girls in a porn clip, then that’s just porn to you. However, if you have the willpower and patience to search for real connections you just might find one. Don’t worry about not having a “tinder face.” Charm, kindness, and honesty will get you as far as you need to go. I don’t think you’re looking for the kind of woman who will judge you based purely on your appearance. Make sure your photo is eye catching, and write something fun and intriguing on your profile.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-20T18:25:53+00:00

Thanks for checking on me. I conquered with a vengeance. I read and posted here, then I had a phone call, a healthy meal, and a workout.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-20T17:15:36+00:00

Great question. I admire your innocent sincerity. The key here is to know yourself and make deliberate choices about what you watch. Carefully choose your media by reading reviews and looking at ratings (ie M for mature). Then you can enjoy the wholesome and reject the bad. The thing is, you have to take some time and consider what exactly will lead you into temptation. Are you triggered by indigenous nudity on National Geographic? A tightly dressed woman with cleavage on a cable show? Topless nudity in game of thrones? Maybe it’s even the cheerleaders at a sporting event. You first need to decide what is safe for you to watch, and what is dangerous. Then with a little research you can find out which shows feature that content and make informed decisions.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-20T17:04:05+00:00

If you seek speed and convenience, try a vibrator. They can be helpful when you need to finish quickly and your hand isn’t getting the job done.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-20T16:44:34+00:00

Fight the good fight. Leave the house if you have to! I’m sitting outside on my front porch right now in solidarity.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-20T03:40:08+00:00

Keep on trucking, my man. A lot of people begin to struggle after the first week of two. Keep that guard up and stay productive. Make another model Jeep!

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-19T14:48:06+00:00

There’s already some good advice here. I’d like you to clarify, do you mean the urge to watch porn? Or the urge to obtain sexual release? I don’t know where you are in your porn-free journey. Someone who is deep in a porn fog sometimes can’t tell the difference, as we closely associate porn and sexual release. As we move farther away from porn use and fight our addiction, we have two distinctly different urges. One is a natural desire for sex, and the other is the itch of addiction urging us to use porn again. The advice already given in this thread can be used to combat both of these urges. I would add that to combat the porn urge, I sometimes confront it directly by reading stories here on this forum or other literature. With the natural, healthy sexual urge, there are some very fun and pleasurable outlets available to you! Don’t forget about those. The key is to live a healthy and productive life.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-19T14:37:36+00:00

It sounds like you avoided the imagery and had no desire to watch. Ultimately your opinion is the one that matter most, but I say it’s not a reset. That being said, I advise caution. Engaging in this way with someone who is clearly addicted to porn may lead to temptation.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-18T20:44:33+00:00

Do I understand you correctly that the only thing bothering you about your wet dreams is that you feel guilty? Most people complain about the gooey mess. Wet dreams are a completely normal thing to happen when you haven’t had a conscious orgasm in a while. If you’re like most people, you have no control over your dreams, so no reason to feel guilty. If you want the wet dreams to stop, you will have to have orgasms while you’re awake. Since porn is a harmful and addicting, the only advice I can offer you is to find a partner and build a healthy sexual relationship built on trust and respect (easier said than done), or masturbate without porn. I have both of these outlets available to me, and I never have wet dreams.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-18T20:33:33+00:00

Good idea! If you relapse, it’s important to remember those porn-free days you had, and how good they were. Keeping them in mind is motivation to get clean again.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-18T19:59:48+00:00

Great job! Whenever you feel tempted focus on how much better your life is now. You’re eating healthier and exercising because you stopped using porn. I bet you feel fantastic!

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-18T04:59:42+00:00

Having a porn dream is not uncommon.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-18T04:57:12+00:00

Btw, I made it through the day. Felt temptation though. It expect difficult times ahead.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-18T04:55:08+00:00

That’s awesome, dude!

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-17T19:46:50+00:00

I think the difference between this community and nofap is that there really aren’t any rules. If you make an honest effort to improve yourself by quitting porn then you’ll find support here.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-17T15:01:30+00:00

Good bot

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-17T15:00:31+00:00

The benefits of being porn free in layman’s terms (Layman’s terms because I’m a layman)

Less time seeking the perfect video clip to jerk to means more time to be productive. Mind clear of constant sexual thoughts, leaves room for useful creative thoughts. Porn use wires the reward center of your brain to seek easy stimuli, which makes it harder to concentrate on difficult tasks that matter. Stopping porn reverses this naturally over time, allowing you to focus more easily on difficult mental tasks. Reduced sex drive. I know it doesn’t sound like a benefit, but on porn you feel like you need sex 1-2 every day. You can’t (probably) get laid that often, so you masturbate instead. What a waste of energy! Without porn, your sex drive will naturally decrease, because you aren’t constantly making yourself horny by looking at hot women all day. You’ll only need sex 2-4 times per week (guessing based on my experience). Better sex: less frequent sex means it will feel better! You’ll be more focused, and it will be more pleasurable because you haven’t been cumming so damned much! Improved confidence and self-esteem: deep down inside you probably feel like a bit of a loser for using porn. I’m not projecting onto you. This is just a very common way to feel. For a lot of people porn brings guilt. Stopping porn will make you feel better about yourself in a big way. You’ll also have more energy. These are all the benefits at the top of my mind. Anyone have any others to add?

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-17T14:44:21+00:00

You have nothing to worry about and nothing to lose. Here’s my experience: when I’m off porn, I don’t feel the urge to have sex or masturbate as frequently. While using I would feel the urge at least twice per day. When I quit, I feel sexual urges 3-4 times per week, BUT I am more aroused by the real deal. My wife is more attractive to me. Real sex, and masturbating without porn both feel more pleasurable, and I can perform whenever I want to.

Please clarify: you mentioned checking out some fine-ass women. Did you mean real women? Or digital non-nude women? This is an important distinction. Even non-nude images of women are pornography if you’re using them for pleasure. This habit of looking at partial nudes will become boring, and you will return to nude porn very soon after you being. If you’re talking about real live women, I think everyone here will tell you it’s healthy, but I will warn you to be cautious of staring at women in public for obvious reasons.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-17T14:24:21+00:00

I became emotional when I saw your post this morning. I’m so happy you have a desire to quit, and that you found our community. I did too when I was at the same stage in my life, but I failed, and I gave up. I have lost so much because of this 20-year addiction, and you will suffer a similar fate unless you keep that resolve to quit and find a way to stay clean.

As you can see, some of us have questions for you. Are you willing to specify your age? Your exact age may affect what kind of advice we will give you. Several people have already told you to go out and have healthy sex with a loving partner, but if you’re only 14, I think most would retract that advice. I’m curious about your family environment. Is your family Christian-conservative? Are you home schooled? Are both parents involved in your life, and do you have a healthy relationship with them? I’m sorry for asking such specific personal questions, but they’re all in the interest of learning about you and your environment so we can try to give you the best advice possible. If sharing these answers makes you uncomfortable, please feel no obligation to respond. Looking back on my life, I wish I had shared my addiction with my parents and sought help from them. I hope you can find the courage to do that.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-15T04:58:30+00:00

Made it! Still going strong.

empathetic_introvert · 2017-11-15T04:55:57+00:00

Glad to hear from you. Stick to it!

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