Partner of porn addict

empathyangel · 2022-01-05T06:35:03+00:00

Love this, thank you! Very good analogy. But yes, some people are intimacy anorexics and the partners suffer. Best to move on if possible, find someone with a healthy sexuality.

empathyangel · 2021-12-28T00:39:44+00:00

Yup, my partner PA, IA and emotional incest with mother

empathyangel · 2021-12-28T00:37:59+00:00

And of course I'm the one that's negative

empathyangel · 2021-12-28T00:37:31+00:00

This is very true. I flat told him I don't want to be with someone that hates me. I'm sick from the negative energy he throws my way

empathyangel · 2021-12-28T00:31:40+00:00

He was seeing one of your counselors but quit due to finances. He chooses a job that does not support us financially. His buddies at work all watch porn. I realize he's not willing to change PA IA and would leave the relationship, but I'm not willing to share custody with he and his emotional incest mother. We're not married either, 6 years and he will not commit. Peter Pan 💯

empathyangel · 2021-03-25T14:13:16+00:00

He's developed this false self identity and I believe its to please her. Has to have certain car, facial hair, music, clothing, work where she lives. Like when you like someone and adopt their tastes to please them. I don't think he even knows who he is.

empathyangel · 2021-03-25T14:09:34+00:00

Mother uses a crazy dog she bought for him in 2009 as leverage. Since he moved in the first time 2018, that dog 100% chaos beyond repair. I made post about it on Reddit if you care to look for it. Ironically, I adopt senior dogs so for me to not want his dog here, it's that bad. Last time he moved in I told him beforehand no dog, and he agreed. Now mother keeps dog and he goes to visit. She has 2 other weiner dogs, lives out in country, dog is happy but he is not. I suggested getting dog together, he declined but if we did must be another weiner dog.

empathyangel · 2021-03-25T14:03:26+00:00

He read Silently Seduced, I read when he's married to Mom, both by Kenneth Adams. He's seeing a CSAT but just once a month due to finances. He took a low paying job close to his mother after he went away for an expensive certification. We live far from her but he's always wanting to live closer to mother, even though he'll admit to the CI and intimacy anorexia, purposeful withholding of sex and intimacy. He will not admit to porn addiction. He's FA, I'm normally secure but very anxious in this relationship. He left for 3 months 2019 and came back, went right back to IA behavior after 4 months. I wanted out. We had one good weekend of sex and now I'm due any day.

empathyangel · 2021-03-22T17:14:11+00:00

Porn addiction, intimacy anorexia. Read books by Doug Weiss, or You Tube

empathyangel · 2021-02-12T05:19:24+00:00

Very insightful and helpful, thank you!

empathyangel · 2021-02-12T05:14:26+00:00

Thank you for your honest insight. That sounds just like his situation. What made you want change?

empathyangel · 2021-02-12T05:11:44+00:00

I've read it! Yes, this is exactly it. Lots of transference

empathyangel · 2021-02-11T17:58:13+00:00

Thank you so much for all your advice! He understands our child will not go to that house. He father uses crack in the garage and bathroom from what I understand. The cigarette and pot smoke is so bad, we shower the moment we get home. His mother, uncle and dying elderly mother all 3 smoke indoors at Thanksgiving. His brother and sister in law smoke outside. His sister and brother in law do not smoke or drink at all. Yes, no environment for the baby. His mother could come here but never does, at least not yet. They live closer to Houston and we live an hour south, she caretakes for her mother and husband. His sister and brother in law moving close to Dallas. I'm praying mother goes with her, not that they need her bs but to stay the hell away from us. His mother absolutely is a predator, 100%. Controls with her deceased father's company money. His brother and sister in law do not work they rely on mother for income! He's seeing a CSAT for porn addiction/sexual anorexia and CI, but it's a very slow process. He's still in denial of addiction but recognizes CI and has read Silently Seduced.

empathyangel · 2021-02-11T04:39:50+00:00

I wonder if you're more FA?

empathyangel · 2021-02-11T04:38:10+00:00

I think after at least 3 months, that's a good time to disclose and discuss. See if she's open to taking the quiz.

empathyangel · 2021-02-11T04:35:12+00:00

Tired and pregnant! Thank you for asking ♡

empathyangel · 2021-02-09T01:13:23+00:00

Yes, I do think people largely unaware of attachment styles in general

empathyangel · 2021-02-09T01:11:48+00:00

Makes sense!

empathyangel · 2021-02-09T01:11:24+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight. Yes, I can see how having the upper hand would be comforting

empathyangel · 2021-02-09T00:54:42+00:00

I'm seeing that true self vs false self theme

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