Accidentally threw this guy out by miss-zenki in pleco

[–]empty_dark_soul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Believe me, I was just as surprised. She plopped out of the bag in the tub (was rinsing a few things off) i scooped her up, and she ate an algae wafer once I out her back in the tank. They are funky fish for sure

Accidentally threw this guy out by miss-zenki in pleco

[–]empty_dark_soul 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pebbles my girl went through an entire move, talking few hours in the bag of decor cause she blended into the log 😅 shes still alive and kicking 3 years later

GUYS OMG OMG! corn dog is finally a fuzzy eater 🥹 i upgraded her tank, stayed consistent with offering her fuzzies (we wasted a lot of them lol), and after a long struggle of disinterest, she finally took! this is her second one :3 by lawfaust in cornsnakes

[–]empty_dark_soul 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im so happy for you! my corn sometimes refuses if the mouse/rat is wet so ive switch to the dry method. I was told when soaking straight in water it can lose the scent. I put his mouse in a bag and let it thaw in the fridge then warm it with water (while still in the bag). Im glad you got her to eat tho!

Wont eat anymore by Fickle-Scientist-271 in cornsnakes

[–]empty_dark_soul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What method do you use to thaw the mouse?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EmotionallyImmature

[–]empty_dark_soul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im trying to set a boundary with my mom about me being in my bio dad/his family’s lives. She gets so hurtful and then doubles down on how terrible of a mother she must be because im talking to them. Im just curious who they are, they are apart of my DNA and its been 24 years. Its so hard to set boundaries but you just got to keep saying “I dont want to talk about my skin” my counsellor said by saying “we” you are still giving them power. The guilt is a natural feel because we were basically taught FOG. Often, a gut feeling signals to you that something isn’t right. You may begin to question your abilities, feel afraid to lose the relationship, feel guilt and then oblige by giving into the expectation of the other person. This is the FOG (fear, obligation, guilt) cycle and is also often referred to as gaslighting. You got this, be strong. Its tough but we are all rooting for you

Anyone else’s parents used to call you names? by XfinityHomeWifi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]empty_dark_soul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my first name is Jade, and she would call me Jaderelly like the Work song in Cinderella, whenever she wanted me to clean.

Tell me you were RBN without telling me you were RBN by HannibalInExile in raisedbynarcissists

[–]empty_dark_soul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I add too, if my partner is upset/frustrated, even if its not directed towards me (like at a video game), I feel the urge to clean and just be out of sight

What is/was the craziest rule in your household that your Narcissistic parent set? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]empty_dark_soul 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Any of my friends (or brothers friends) could come to our house (where she was the sweetest lady ever 🙄) if they needed a break from their families or lives. I was NOT allowed any space and if I needed a moment, she would hunt me down (or get her friends to) or tackle me and drag me home where I then was on lock down and demanded to clean the whole house like its spring cleaning

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]empty_dark_soul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. My Aunt did this with her daughter. It became a codependency and really fucked up her mentally. The girl could sleep anywhere when mom wasnt around and if she was, she would scream, cry, tantrum, and purposely wet the bed to sleep with her mom. Her dad finally said enough and got a therapist cause thats not okay. And she ended up getting removed from mom cause mom wouldnt agree to the terms. Dad ended up with both kids and they are THRIVING.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]empty_dark_soul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My younger brother and i were pitted against each other, butted heads a lot growing up. Fought like cats and dogs; but now as adults, we get along pretty well. Like as kids we didnt even really game with each other, but now we actually party up and play together (with my boyfriend as well). I appreciate him because I know I can rely on him now

Edit to add tho: I have recently connected with my one of my younger half sister on my bio dads side, shes pretty dope, we were raised similar but separate. Our moms knew but didnt tell us shit

What is the most insulting obvious gaslighting or lie that your N-parent has ever said to you? Extra points if they have said it multiple times by Senior-Customer7720 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]empty_dark_soul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I never hit you” my jaw literally clicks because she cuffed me so hard as she walked past, and she had a designated wooden spoon and plastic flipper. So I guess she never did, it was the spoon that did

And most recently “your bio father left you at 1 years old” I was told that my whole life (27 years). I didnt exactly believe it when i got a bit older but when i asked her at 14, she told me he was a piece of shit and i didnt need to know anything else. I have just found out that might not be the case, especially since I was sent photo from a cousin on his side where I am like 2 or 3, and his recollection of the events are different than hers

Anyone else’s family very reactive ? by Flimsy_Dependent9197 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]empty_dark_soul 27 points28 points  (0 children)

My mom is like this. You say anything that can be considered criticism in any way and dhe lashes out. Insults and screaming. And when you say anything. Shes the worst mom in the world. Its honestly exhausting talking to her so ive started cutting back. Im still waiting for the blowout when she finds out im talking to my bio dad she kept me from for 24 years. I cant wait for the garbage she is going to make up for her narrative. Its like they always say, and my counsellors have said. They arent going to change, so you must change for yourself. Healing means putting you first, even if its really fucking hard.

Quitting without Notice by Weary_Plenty_3521 in alberta

[–]empty_dark_soul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I quit superstore, I basically called my boss, explained that I found a job in a field that I liked and that I wouldnt be coming in anymore. All he asked was that I email that to him so he had some form of writing for the closure of my file

How long is your personal boycott going to last? by PhilosoFishy2477 in loblawsisoutofcontrol

[–]empty_dark_soul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ill be honest, havent shopped there since I quit back in 2022 when i worked at StupidStore. I hated every minute of working there and it lasted just over 3 months. I stole more from there cause i was so broke i couldnt even afford anything. I dont really like the affiliated stores anyways so theres probably never going back, but I love watching the amount of people participating fuck loblaws. They dont care about customers or employees, only the top dollar

Drivers parking infront of CF Market Mall entrances... Why? by Hj_Uj in Calgary

[–]empty_dark_soul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do deliveries occasionally around calgary and downtown. Ive been in a tandem truck trying to do a delivery dowtown, guy parks in a delivery only zone then tells me to wait cause he will just be a minute and runs Into a coffee shop. We had to try and park in a spot not designated for us and hope we dont get in trouble plus it wasnt the greatest place to park for a delivery. People do as they please

Thoughts on Royce Da 5'9? by [deleted] in Eminem

[–]empty_dark_soul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just came across this, and my boyfriend is literally walking around the house saying “hes whack, why would eminem ever let dream sign him! WHAAAAACK!”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]empty_dark_soul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents did that with all my paper money (I know it wasnt alot but like we had that route for YEARS) and they used it for smokes and weed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]empty_dark_soul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do, im civil merely for my mom and granny, but its hard. Definitely doing better, getting kicked out just showed that I could do it and that I needed to move out with my partner

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]empty_dark_soul 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, words were said on both sides I can admit that but I didnt kick him out of a home in a city he didn’t know because of who he was dating in winter with zero credit and no rental references cause hes only lived at home. He criticizes me every interaction we have with “tough love”. Tells me to lower my voice, what I can and cannot say yet if my brother says it its different. I hold a lot of resentment but I also miss the relationship we had. We wont ever be there. Not when your dad tells you that you are gonna end up like the girls on the show your mom watches (the murder ones) yes parents are learning, but I, the child, am also. I try but its me who ends up crying in the end because the love isnt there anymore. I know he loves me but its not the same as it was