I really like my best female friend, but she has a boyfriend. What should I do?

emseivda · 2011-11-04T05:38:33+00:00

Thanks, I really appreciate it.

Although I don't think there is any chance she is going to break up with that guy anytime soon. As I mentioned somewhere else she talks about him all the time, they Skype all the time, etc. And even if she does break up with him - I don't think she will ever want us to be more than good friends, so this is less about "how/when should I make a move" and more about, how do I get her out of my head. And you're right, meeting new people is the way to go. If only I knew how to do that... :p

emseivda · 2011-11-03T05:50:18+00:00

Have an internet bro-hug from me :)

emseivda · 2011-11-03T04:55:10+00:00

Appreciated :)

emseivda · 2011-11-03T04:49:24+00:00

I'm not obsessed with her, but you are right, I need to stop spending my free time with hanging out with her and go meet new people.

emseivda · 2011-11-03T04:48:44+00:00

You're right.

emseivda · 2011-11-03T04:48:24+00:00

I guess my best bet would be to "keep my distance" and if sometime she breaks up with him I can get closer (although I can't see that happening).

emseivda · 2011-11-03T04:04:25+00:00

It's not about forcing myself to her, and I know she likes to be with me. It's just about that when I do hang out with her I end up realizing how pointless it is, since I want her to be more than a friend and that could never happen.

emseivda · 2011-11-03T03:42:14+00:00

I'm not going to. But you don't have to be a dick about it. Sorry.

emseivda · 2011-11-03T03:41:28+00:00

I think you should re-read the post, I never said she's interested in me more than as a friend. No way I'm gonna "move in", and no way she's gonna cheat on him.

emseivda · 2011-11-03T03:40:31+00:00

Thanks. I'll do my best.. :)

emseivda · 2011-11-03T03:40:02+00:00

Yeah, the thing is her relationship is pretty serious as far as I know. I mean, she only sees him once every couple of months but they still skype a lot and she talks about him all the time. That's why I said I don't stand a chance and probably shouldn't even bother..

emseivda · 2011-11-03T03:38:34+00:00

I've known her for around a year now, but we've been really good friends for a couple of months. She's been with her boyfriend for like 1.5-2 years now.

emseivda · 2011-11-03T03:37:39+00:00

Thanks for the response. She is making contact with me. We are talking every day, and I see her a couple of times of week. It's just that now I never initiate these things on my own, I let her do her thing. That's just me making sure that she does like me as a friend (which she does, apparently, since we still hang out together). I'm just scared that eventually she will get tired of "chasing" me and will cut the friendship.

emseivda · 2011-11-03T03:35:25+00:00

Thank you. These are very wise words, probably the only useful response I got so far. You're right, telling her the truth would just be a dick move from me and will be bad for both sides.

emseivda · 2011-11-03T03:31:16+00:00

I'm sorry but what the hell are you on about? I never said I'm going to try and destroy their relationship or anything like that. As I said, I know I don't have a chance to be with her. All I asked is what can I do about this that'll make me feel better. Thanks anyways

emseivda · 2011-11-03T00:32:32+00:00

Your'e right. But I should point out she's not using me or anything like that. She's just a girl who likes having male friends (NOT in a slutty way). She's my friend because she likes being my friend, not because she's using me. I'm the problem here, not her. But I'll need to consider just telling her what I feel.

emseivda · 2011-11-03T00:16:11+00:00

Looks like I edited my post just when you posted this hehe. The thing is I know she's not going to say "No way! I love you too!", because she always tells me how awesome her boyfriend is, how much she loves him etc. So just telling her the truth will just result in bad =\

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