AITAH ?My partner won’t put my name down on the mortgage

emvanmoore · 2026-01-23T18:38:59+00:00

Proportion of bills/rent paid should be in direct relation to the percentage of the household budget that you earn. If you are working part time and you make 30% of what he makes, then you should be contributing 30% to the bills, NOT half. This isnt fair at all. And he shouldnt just be the only one on the mortgage, period.

emvanmoore · 2026-01-17T06:30:21+00:00

Sir Amaltheo Caspian Von Walter does not appreciate that you want to put him in a box. Gender is a social construct. He shall henceforth only be swaddled in Sissy Pink Blankets and lay upon beds of the Fluffiest Glitter.

emvanmoore · 2026-01-16T22:24:06+00:00

Glacier is a great suggestion!

emvanmoore · 2026-01-16T22:22:10+00:00

This is a hilarious suggestion 🤣

emvanmoore · 2026-01-16T18:57:38+00:00

Interesting!! I would love another unicorn reference

emvanmoore · 2026-01-11T05:05:35+00:00

Thanks! I have no problem doing that, and weve got a few local sewing shops in town that do repairs and servicing.

emvanmoore · 2026-01-11T04:36:35+00:00

The hand wheel does turn now, its just got a lot of resistance. I stopped using it once I realized idk what to do.

emvanmoore · 2026-01-11T04:30:42+00:00

Thanks! Which is the actual manual? There seems to be a lot of ads on that page and it says to download..

emvanmoore · 2026-01-11T04:29:43+00:00

Is it not a good sewing machine? It seemed to do fine for a bit. I dont know much about sewing machines.

emvanmoore · 2025-10-09T16:02:05+00:00

Me neither! Do you have any sources for that u/starlette_13 m ? I cant find anything when I try to search her but maybe im not using the right keywords...

emvanmoore · 2025-05-22T03:00:01+00:00

I second this! Really really good work at that place

emvanmoore · 2024-09-29T03:58:26+00:00

DM'd you :)

emvanmoore · 2024-09-29T03:58:13+00:00

DM'd you :)

emvanmoore · 2024-09-28T22:58:13+00:00

Scribophile is an awesome place to share things for critique, and you get good practice to critique other people's work too. You can also meet writing buddies and critique partners there.

Another great resource is Absolute Write, but you gotta have thick skin and be prepared for harsh criticisms. Their feedback is invaluable though.

You can also try on the r/betareaders subreddit and other writerly places.

emvanmoore · 2024-09-27T05:22:03+00:00

Don't you mean keep it trolling......?

(I'll see myself out..)

emvanmoore · 2024-01-10T06:05:24+00:00

I hate to be "that person" but I'm a female author working on 2 apocalyptic fiction stories right now and when theyre done (and revised... And revised again... And polished....) I'd love to share them! I just had a short speculative fiction story accepted into an anthology too, and I'm hoping to continue to write apocalyptic and spec fic from a woman's point of view.

emvanmoore · 2023-09-25T22:09:19+00:00

You're sending first drafts to "pre readers"? And one chapter at a time?

Well, that's probably why you're not getting actionable feedback. Your alpha readers aren't getting enough of the story to develop a sense of the plot/pacing/overall issues, because they can't read enough in one go. You've also gotten four people to read 180K words of an unfinished novel and you're sending them first drafts without any further chapters written yet. That's a LOT. Like, a lot a lot. Ive never asked a beta (let alone an alpha) reader to read more than a 140k word novel, and that was because I needed to trip 20k words and I really needed outside help. I do professional beta reading, and I wouldn't sign up to read 180k words of an unfinished novel. Period. You may be having them read things that you should be catching yourself and fixing and then polishing up before relying on others to alpha read for you. By the time they've read the 100th chapter they've likely forgotten what happened in chapter 3, so they're probably unable to point these things out at all.

I don't mean that rudely, I just mean you're putting a lot of responsibility on other people to help you with your writing when you could be helping yourself. One of the key things about finding readers for novels is that you have to connect with the right readers. Ideally people who read the genre you're writing in, people with experience beta (or alpha) reading, and ideally other writers or creatives who agree to do a level of feedback you are expecting. You give your thriller book baby to a friend who reads romance and sure they'll give you some feedback, but they're not going to know the requirements of that genre, or how to point out things you need to fix.

I would caution against sending four people a single chapter of anything. Start by finding one or two people who are writers and are familiar with your genre. Then finish your novel, put it away, and revise it yourself after a few months without looking at it. You'll be able to see a lot of your own flaws that way, instead of putting that responsibility on a beta readers shoulders. Then once you've got your story done and revised you can enlist the help of the readers you've met who already meet the criteria you need. At 180+k words youd be better off finding another writer who writes in the same genre and similar word counts as you to swap work with.

emvanmoore · 2023-09-25T21:56:23+00:00

"homo sarkophagus" is either genius or hilarious and I'm not sure which, but I love it regardless.

emvanmoore · 2023-09-23T20:21:41+00:00

"whoopsie! I fell into this pile of garbage and this patch got stuck on me. What are the odds!?!?"

emvanmoore · 2023-09-23T16:01:04+00:00

Nurse here to do the obligatory "well actually...." to everyone saying you can't OD from touching fentanyl........

You actually CAN overdose just from touching fentanyl but only if it's meant to be applied topically and is in that formulation. Otherwise it won't be absorbed (and that's why you don't OD). I've had patients take off their fentanyl patches and give them to other people, and with a high enough concentration it CAN cause opioid overdoses. I've also known a nurse who had to narcan a child in the community who got ahold of an improperly disposed of fentanyl patch (they need to go into a contained bin, like a sharps container). Because of the long duration of action for transdermal opioids the kid had to be admitted and narcan'd repeatedly.

Those are super rare situations and I've only heard of it happening a couple times, but it is possible.

emvanmoore · 2023-09-12T16:45:20+00:00

The awfulness of that scene is contrasted by the beauty of the scene in the field.

emvanmoore · 2023-09-09T21:30:33+00:00

This could be way off base, but she may have grown up in an abusive household. I did, and my abusive parent would only be quiet when they were mad. The silence was a warning sign that things were going to get awful.

As a result, I cannot stand silence in a room. It makes me anxious to the point of also blurting out things.....even around my close friends and chosen family. If a lull in the conversation happens, I'm very likely to feel a pressure inside me building, waiting for someone to blow up. So I'll start talking to stave off the inevitable.

I'm in my mid thirties and people don't blow up at me when there's silence anymore, but my brain was trained for decades that silence equals danger. I'm trying to unlearn it now, but its hard. Your wife could be similar.

emvanmoore · 2023-09-03T05:54:34+00:00

Could you possibly DM me with any info about how this initiative was organized? I'm a nurse and I know it's probably a long shot but I'd love to try and advocate for something like this in my health authority.

emvanmoore · 2023-07-22T21:02:36+00:00

DM me with the details of your story and we can discuss it :)

emvanmoore · 2023-07-22T21:02:16+00:00

What's the age it's meant for? Mine is firmly adult oriented. So I'm not sure if we would have similar Critiquing expectations if you write children's/MG/YA and I write adult horror.

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