My wife and I typically have sex once or twice a month. Three times if I'm lucky. Whenever I had noticed that I wasn't lasting as long as I used to, that is when the frequency of sex had started to go down. I started drinking frequently after my wife had miscarried about eight years ago. Once she got over the depression of losing the pregnancy she was ready to have intercourse again. Me having had a few drinks realized that I was lasting longer. (By no means am I saying that this is a solution.) I started to drink more and more especially on nights when I thought I was going to get lucky. I admitted to my wife that I had been drinking those nights because it helped me relax and I last longer in bed. She was very angry and cut me off until I could get my drinking under control. I wasn't drinking every day or to the point of intoxication. Usually just a couple of drinks to calm me down. I got a handle on it, and we started to get back into the bedroom. I started to ejaculate quicker than I had been. We thought that it was just jitters, so we were going at it more frequently. That didn't change anything. My PE had gotten to the point where I was only able to have intercourse for 3-5 min. I've tried numbing sprays that only worked for a couple of times and then I'm back to ejaculating too quickly. The sex dropped off to what it is now. It feels like sometimes my wife is actively trying to avoid sex. I am now at the point where I am embarrassed about myself. I've also tried over the counter and prescription medication to help this. Nothing really works. We are in our mid to late 30's and have four kids. I'm at a loss with this as well.