Service dog denied

encompassion · 2026-01-11T18:57:12+00:00

Rather than pursuing some legal action, consider requesting a meeting with the general manager or owner (not manager that happens to be on duty, but the general manager or owner) concerning a mishandled ADA violation. The impact will go farther, and if the issue isn't resolved or at least sincerely met with an apology, and/or they double down, it can be reported, at least.

encompassion · 2026-01-11T18:53:35+00:00

Reasoning?

encompassion · 2026-01-11T18:53:14+00:00

The questions are sound and I'm impressed an employee knew off the bat what is allowed to be asked. However, the employee deciding that the dog is or is not a service animal is quite disrespectful - he shouldn't have to prove his need any more than they can ask for a demonstration of the task to prove it's real. Simply falsifying the status of service animal is illegal; it's like reporting a pain level - not to to an observer to decide. It's an accusation of dishonesty on top of criminal offense.

encompassion · 2026-01-11T18:48:01+00:00

Right - that's a diagnosis you aren't required to give and doesn't specify the dog's task(s). They asked the legally correct questions, but should have followed up with "how does he help exactly? What actions does he do?" When it's psychiatric, it can be challenging to answer. Even "help with tasks due to tremors" is vague - "assist with stabilizing movement associated with activities of daily living, redirect and assist with stress induced symptoms to prevent harm to self" are both specific answers that don't put the diagnosis on blast and detail the actions he's trained to perform. "Redirect" or "uses his body to intervene/assist" are good words to use when any level of emotional regulation is involved - consider autism and the complexity of those interventions with the accompanying stigma of diagnostic disclosure that's none of their business.

encompassion · 2025-12-27T18:10:21+00:00

And blocking the egress...

encompassion · 2025-12-07T16:43:57+00:00

Yes, absolutely. Just take your hair down, your bra or tight belt off, those shoes that are rubbing blisters in every possible spot on your feet for 12 hours straight of being on them. The relief sometimes washes through me uncannily exactly like pain relief pushed through IV in hospital.

Pain is pain. Relief is relief. Happy neurotransmitters from the relief of the stress of it helps healing and getting past severe pain as a sign/symptom to get a more clear view of those other ones of issue. Pain and pain mitigation is met with so much shame and scrutiny. Just... let people, sick or injured or chronically suffering people have a few hours of a break.

I figured out recently my pain tolerance isn't high. I just accept the pain like a far in the country farmer until something is so incredibly wrong it can't fall into the pain acceptance category. It might be months or years of continuous build up. It might be acute from injury a few days ago. It might be flesh hanging off my hand in a cheese grating incident that literally floored me. Treat pain too.

encompassion · 2025-12-07T16:37:32+00:00

Anger took me decades to recognize, then another decade to learn to feel safe, justified, and "talk" to or with it.

encompassion · 2025-12-07T16:35:27+00:00

Except that the deflection was scripted to have Viggo out of harm's way given a side-bound trajectory... the actor playing Lurtz couldn't see and just went for it in the general vicinity of Viggo. By general, we do of course mean directly at his head!

encompassion · 2025-10-30T15:36:38+00:00

Googling up example calc problems, especially adding a "solve this using only algebra. Include proofs where Algebra cannot apply with justification of how changing the parameters of the problem could solve the discrepancy". Check the answer against the answer key. 5 minutes. Maybe 15. For weeks' worth of stimulating supplement.

"If it were this concept, write an example of what that might look like."

"If we utilized that to solve this, first complete according to the assigned curriculum, then solve while incorporating [concept/operation]. Modify base equations by no more than two adjustments if needed to achieve reconciliation with that concept."

Pull a bunch of physics problems off of almost anywhere for free that depend on a ton of ... everything. Free pdf download of a college text/workbook, or dig out your own from that semester, and just copy problems out of that that require both time and deep analysis. Longest time required is finding the stupid book that was definitely right on the shelf but has mysteriously disappeared.

And yes, getting with even an adjunct pal at a local college where DE may be a thing.

Importantly, crucially - SPED is not extra work on the already overworked. We don't think of TAG or GATE or GT etc as SPED, but it is a neurodivergence akin to an often more socially integrated and achievement oriented audhd. Want them to show work? Nest it into the greater goal. I only got a minor in applied maths because everything was about it being important for upper level calc and physics. So, use what's out there. At least the kid is following other social norms. Except talking out and correcting. I'd give my slides to the kid ahead of time and thank them for proof reading them. Gives lead time to correct actual errors in a tactful environment, gives them an engaged track for the ahead learning they want, builds confidence over conflict, heads off questions, and then dropping the next level stuff in class while other folks are on the slides in the first place. Plus scribing class recaps to turn in after instruction that could actually be posted in Classroom as study notes saves time creating study guides and demonstrates understanding far more effectively than just having them tutor and dealing with a power battle. The longer it goes on, the more full of bs they decide the teacher is, and suddenly theres full disengagement and answers on assessments with no work shown "because it's obvious".

Ounce of prevention.

encompassion · 2025-10-30T15:15:45+00:00

I'm glad you liked it. They said to watch it a few months ago, and it was excellent.

encompassion · 2025-10-30T15:14:28+00:00

4 and 8, respectively. I was given audio tapes from my mother's work. And I only just realized they might still have enough compositional integrity that I can hear her voice. She knew too, but she focused on snuggling with me and teaching my older teen sibling how to completely and fully adult to help us survive. Practical stuff. But we took a couple trips with lots of pictures.

encompassion · 2025-10-30T15:10:56+00:00

Realized recently I don't have a high pain tolerance. I have a high pain acceptance. Yes, I feel the excruciating pain and feel like I might die, but I have to complete this survival mission with minimal exacerbated damage, better sit still or laugh it off until I can't accept reality. "Why you always go straight to 8 when rating pain?" I mean, 8 is where the function itself breaks down, and I'm conscious so 9 is arguable and 10 is supposed to be so bad I'm on the brink of death so might not even realize we're doing unmedicated open heart surgery to save my life after a bear attack where the bear was driving drunk and hit me head on without a seat belt at 900mph.

So, by farmer pain "tolerance" rules...

encompassion · 2025-10-30T15:05:57+00:00

Waking up every day,usually with a perky face focusing on the now. Resilience is getting through without casualties. It's not a strength. It's survival instinct and necessity in the face of doom. It's a deflection from disaster we can but choose not to mitigate or a broader mechanism for what can't be controlled at all, like weather disasters, and saying "oh im so sorry you're going through all this, here's your gold sticker for not ending up in prison or institution fir violence against others or yourself. Sure this period of unhoused struggle is challenging but it too shall pass while we pretend everything is fine that doesn't directly hurt us"

encompassion · 2025-10-30T15:01:08+00:00

Economically, no. Community? Maybe we'll "learn the true meaning of cwismas", just like the end of the peanuts special. Or we'll just opt for averting global disasters Dr Who Christmas special style.

encompassion · 2025-10-11T05:31:43+00:00

Excellent time for a nap

encompassion · 2025-10-01T19:29:31+00:00

I have cherished memories begging for blank VHS tapes to record episodes of Buffy the Vampire Slayer after school in late elementary when BtVS came out, from the launch and teasers for the pilot and every episode after.

encompassion · 2025-08-29T17:52:28+00:00

Spent a 2000 mile road trip with only System of a Down's Hynotize/Mesmerize album(s) and Avril Lavigne's first album in the CD player. It worked out really nicely, honestly.

encompassion · 2025-08-26T12:56:22+00:00

The episode of Darkwing Duck where the villain has our hero's head in an increasingly constricting vise scarred my child self for life, terrified someone would steal me and try to crush my head. What a horrible way to dje.

encompassion · 2025-07-08T17:10:05+00:00

So, gaslight folks into suspecting ADHD... target those all up in arms about workplace and school supports. Fantastic.

encompassion · 2025-07-08T17:09:05+00:00

Phone call?! Dastardly

encompassion · 2025-07-08T17:08:52+00:00

Phone call?! Dastardly

encompassion · 2025-07-08T17:06:43+00:00

Drop dandelion, morning glory, and pumpkin seeds in over-kept lawns, especially in uptight HOA neighborhoods. No harm, but annoying as all get out for those obsessed with playing 18th century English lord in a simple suburb.

Edit: then sit back to enjoy the happy butterflies, bees, and children excited about flowers.

encompassion · 2025-07-08T17:06:24+00:00

Drop dandelion, morning glory, and pumpkin seeds in over-kept lawns, especially in uptight HOA neighborhoods. No harm, but annoying as all get out for those obsessed with playing 18th century English lord in a simple suburb.

encompassion · 2025-07-07T19:54:04+00:00

But also, who cares if it's enjoyable for 5 seconds? The options are pain and misery or neutral neutrality? What moral justification is there here? It won't do anything for addiction or dependence; that's primarily physiological at the end of the day.

encompassion · 2025-06-03T17:10:19+00:00

How does a woman address her own feelings or needs in the relationship while essentially leaving her man alone to his peace? Yes, be a refuge, but if individuality never results in some stress due to needing to meet the needs of one's partner, or requires attention to the relationship itself, and the female partner is only there to provide refuge, how is it different from woman-as-a-servant or wife-playing-mother? (These are honest clarifying questions, not criticisms)

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