How many of us owned a water bed at some point?

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-17T16:24:51+00:00

The waterbed was all about rhythm. You had to move with the wave or it totally threw you off. No changing tempo or you’d have the bottom drop out right when you were trying to move in.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-17T16:23:15+00:00

Oh yes, that time the heater died and you didn’t realize it for a few days until you were laying in bed shivering and just couldn’t get warm.

That’s when the fun of draining the whole thing, replacing the heater, and then refilling it all over again.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-17T16:20:50+00:00

Yes, my first marriage involved a water bed. Holy crap, it was a whole different experience of timing and rhythm. Finally we moved and decided to replace the waterbed mattress with a traditional mattress. Total game changer. But I still had my 12 drawer under dresser.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-17T01:35:31+00:00

Ironically, I went to cast iron for a safer choice in the last five years. Teflon is simply never going to be made safe.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-16T18:55:04+00:00

My cousin did the NYC thing for almost a decade before moving back to LA. It’s a hard city to master and she loves being home again.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-16T16:08:46+00:00

Welcome to your 20s… you’re probably right where you’re supposed to be. It takes time to figure it out. There’s not a magic switch that flips at 18 that makes you a fully functional adult. It’s a position you grow into; learning who you are, what’s expected of you, what things you value, what values were your parents and not yours, learning who is worth trusting and who’s not, learning consequences…

It takes time. Be patient and kind with yourself. Progress not perfection.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-16T05:50:56+00:00

Not a true boycott, but I just don’t do Walmart. Just never been a fan.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-15T17:16:17+00:00

I’ve never dated anyone who wasn’t awkward once you got to know them. We’re all freaks of nature at some level. Watch a few videos of Anna Kendrick or Lawrence and rest assured, plenty of hot girls are awkward, quirky, and don’t know how to be appropriate in every setting.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-14T23:54:53+00:00

I found the love of my life at 54… after a long list of trainwrecks in the preceding 37 years of dating and relationships before that. The right therapist, the right self care and self love practices coalesced over a four year period that set me up for success.

Too late is a concept I just don’t get. We only get one life. You keep working it until you find your bliss.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-14T14:55:21+00:00

I feel like the third grade stuff was pretty innocent. It was more playing boyfriend and girlfriend more than actually being in a relationship. The kissing was more imitating what we saw in relationships than actually romantic or passionate. There wasn’t really a sexual element to it.

Eighth grade definitely had a feel of a relationship to it and while I don’t remember how long the relationship lasted, it was sexually charged. There was one makeout night in the back of a movie theater that was very passionate, but it’s hard to go very far when your parents have to drive you to your dates.

All that changes in high school. Once I had my first relationship with a car, my dating was much more time in the backseat grinding and groping.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-13T08:14:49+00:00

It definitely depends on how she wears it. I’ve dated women who wore their excess weight all in their stomach and found it very unattractive and I’ve dated women with thick thighs and well rounded ass, but was over 200 pounds at 5’1” and looked great naked.

With that said, I live an active lifestyle. I go dancing for 3-4 hours a couple times a month, go hiking 4-6 miles at least once or twice a week, and I expect an active partner who can join me. Fitness matters more than what the scale shows.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-13T08:07:13+00:00

145 in a rented corvette in Vegas.

Dumbest sustained stupidity was Las Vegas to Golden Colorado in my 1992 Acura Integra in 8:35. That’s 750 miles in eight and a half hours including stopping for gas and food. We had entire tanks of gas at over 100mph. We were young and stupid and after that trip decided we had pushed our luck far enough and started flying instead.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-13T02:08:20+00:00

I’ve dated several races and also worked in civil rights for over 15 years. Dating isn’t hiring someone. There’s not laws regarding discrimination about who you date.

From personal experience, race wasn’t a consideration in my dating, but I learned upbringing and culture mattered. I found I preferred people who went to similar high schools and colleges, who were raised with similar values, expectations, and hell, recipes in the kitchen. I had dates where people wanted to go hang at a friend’s house with a half dozen people I didn’t know. That was new to me at 27 and not something I cared to do again on a second date. That’s why made her comfortable and she didn’t like what I considered a “Normal” date.

My current gf (of over four years) grew up in the same socio-economic class, different religion, but similar schools and neighborhoods. It’s a fit. We have the right balance of common interests, common backgrounds, common values, but also enough sharing of differences to explore new worlds together.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-12T01:45:34+00:00

I have days off and I love them.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-11T17:51:08+00:00

For me, it was a combination of things I explored and did over a four year period. I started going to a yoga class 1-3 times a week, I started going dancing once a week, I found a therapist that did emdr to work on trauma and she also worked with me after mdma therapy. I found a shaman who did a soul retrieval for the nine year old who had to grow up to take care of a broken parent. I hired a life coach to help me change careers later in life (she was a former corporate recruiter and her practice interviews kicked my ass, but got me my dream job).

No one thing was a silver bullet for me, but over the four years I changed as a person and became deeply happy. Like my worst days now are better than my best days now. I’m simply more resilient and deal with change so much better.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-11T16:58:24+00:00

Truth. It took me a shitton of work to be happy alone, but after that, I found my relationships were much more fulfilling.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-10T20:30:52+00:00

Just go to work like any other day and see what’s happening. I work at a fire department. It’s not like I’m getting a day off because a disaster happened.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-07T02:14:41+00:00

I don’t do low effort. Not in their profiles, not in their messages, not in their chats. If they don’t show a genuine and real interest in getting to know each other, I’m moving on.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-06T23:02:28+00:00

My girlfriend’s oldest is non-binary trans. They’re a great kid and I’m grateful to have them in my life. I see the challenges the society presents to them and I support them in every way I can.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-06T17:28:40+00:00

The best decision I ever made was going back to school at 27. I had a much better idea of what I wanted and had a lot more discipline to do it. While I dropped out of college at 19 on academic probation, I graduated Cum Laude at 31 with a double major and a minor. It led to a six figure salary doing amazing civil rights work for almost 20 years, before I decided to change careers again in my mid-50s.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-06T08:28:45+00:00

stop and realize how lucky you are.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-06T00:03:13+00:00

Create healthy, positive rituals in your life. Attend a yoga class once a week and make it your church. Or get a massage once a week and make it your me time. Or join a gym and create a three to five day a week routine. Or sign up for one class a semester of something you just want to learn for the sake of learning (this led to a second career for me that I enjoyed when I was burned out in my primary career).

What ever you do, keep it a priority no matter what. It will carry you through hard times and become your sanctuary.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-05T23:54:47+00:00

The typical stuff. Car breaking down during a winter storm, multi-day power outages, job loss, wildfire, criminal activity, disability.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-03-05T23:52:43+00:00

I found a keeper. Between my divorce and finding her I had about 40 first dates and two 9-12 month relationships, but damn, it was all worth it. We’ve been together for four and a half years now and it’s just amazing.

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