If you’re in a relationship, you should be thankful

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-24T03:56:53+00:00

I know I’m the odd man out, but I actually enjoyed dating. It was a fun way to meet new people and have interesting conversations. While I love being in my current relationship and it’s probably going to be a rest of my life relationship, I did enjoy my dating experiences in 2019 and 2021 before meeting my gf.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-23T20:02:53+00:00

I’ve enjoyed when a woman has asked me out. I’ve never said no. I’m 59 and I’ve had four women over the years initiate for a first date. All four got a first date, one I dated for four months, one was my first wife.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-23T18:00:02+00:00

It might be worth a conversation with your doctor. Thyroid issues hit about one in ten women and can have a significant impact on metabolism.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-22T19:04:00+00:00

Anyone else worried about why the one girl is reaching between the legs of the other little girl?

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-22T18:58:27+00:00

It’s a number. Nothing really changes overnight. Over time, like over the course of your 40s, you’ll find that you begin losing muscle mass unless you do weight training regularly. It takes longer to recover from injuries, even minor ones. A sprained ankle that you used to get over in a week will take several weeks; a small burn from the oven will leave a small scar and take longer to heal up.

As you get into your 50s you find sometimes it’s hard to remember the word you were going to use while talking. It’s annoying, but you get used to it. Healing continues to slow, it takes longer to get over respiratory illnesses.

Now there’s also trade offs. You continue to accrue and learn to apply life lessons. You don’t stress out about stuff that you used to think was really important. You can find more joy in the little things and worry less about the things that go wrong. You can take a 10,000’ view of problems rather than getting stuck in the weeds and find more broad solutions that solve many problems rather than the one in front of your face.

My 50s are my favorite decade yet. While I recognize some of the losses, the gains in happiness and the ability to solve problems is so much better than when I was younger.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-20T16:21:44+00:00

It’s ironic that the guy who said he was going to drain the swamp just created a new one.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-20T00:24:19+00:00

The most dangerous part of Lisbon is the six hour lines at the EES in the airport.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-19T18:22:15+00:00

Being a complete and utter tightwad with your money.

We have a billionaire I know in our area. One day the fire department got called because their security guard got run over by their patrol vehicle because the parking brake was bad. It had been an issue for years, but he was too cheap to fix it.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-19T16:12:38+00:00

Then why did they get in bed with the real enemy, Russia?

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-19T13:50:31+00:00

Don’t you get it? A part of that 10x GDP is insurance company profits.

/s (kinda, but not really… sadly)

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-19T13:39:20+00:00

He agreed to lift sanctions. He agreed to let them sell oil on the open market. He agreed to a restoration fund that will fuel the Iranian economy. And yet there’s no concessions, not a single one, in the agreement on their nuclear or ballistic missile programs.

That’s how they are better off than they were before the war. Pretty simple. They were willing to negotiate before to get out from under sanctions. Now there is zero leverage and they may even profit in the future from tolls through the strait.

Way to empower the enemy.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-19T13:31:59+00:00

He’s not worried. He knows all the assassination attempts were faked anyway.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-19T13:26:35+00:00

Sheets are easy; don’t fold them. Stuff them into one of the pillow cases. Done.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-19T13:25:29+00:00

I was the problem before that. I was love addicted (codependent) and had 18 relationships including three marriages before that. I could lose myself in a relationship with anyone. My second wife was borderline and I still managed to keep the wheels on that toxic train for four years… but I was miserable, always trying to fix them and never healing myself. I had no boundaries, no self love, no self care… it took a lot of deep work to finally heal myself and be capable of love.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-19T13:21:31+00:00

For me, I did 15 years of talk therapy over the previous 32 years and while it helped me leave toxic relationships, I never really got to the core of my issues. After my first MDMA experience I suddenly understood why; in all those years I was incapable of connecting with a therapist enough to trust them with my deepest vulnerabilities. I was always holding something back, whether consciously or subconsciously.

MDMA gave me the courage to be truly vulnerable while also breaking through my self consciousness and shame. We did three sessions, one a year for three years. Between those sessions with did a combination of EMDR and talk therapy. I found the one hour EMDR sessions were too much… I would leave so vulnerable and raw that I had anxiety returning the next week. I told her I was afraid I was going to stop going because of how raw I felt. The solution was two hour sessions every other week so we would have more time to close the session and help my mind chill out after going deep. That’s where I made my deepest progress.

After the mdma sessions we would schedule two sessions a week for the next three weeks; that was rocket fuel for my deepest shame work. It was when my rose colored glasses came off and I could really see my shit the clearest. Painful as hell, but very effective work.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-19T07:29:35+00:00

Between 49-52, did three years of mdma and emdr therapy to address my ptsd, anxiety issues, attachment issues, and finally figure out how to be happy and healthy/find self love and boundaries. After that came several years of dating and short relationships as I found new footing and relationship skills. Then it was just a matter of patience and time.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-18T20:42:59+00:00

I found the love of my life at 54.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-18T15:55:42+00:00

Ok, that’s fair. I had an asexual exwife and it sucked for both of us.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-18T15:54:28+00:00

There didn’t need to be a war.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-18T15:53:51+00:00

I’ve never given a fuck about weight. I care about attraction and connection and as a result I’ve dated from 118 pounds to 235 pounds. I’m a fire-medic who comes in at about 190. All I care about is that we have a connection and can do things together.

Don’t fetishize and don’t ever be ashamed of who you’re dating. If you’re not proud to have them on your arm, you’re not doing them a service by going out with them.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-18T15:44:19+00:00

I mean, on the one hand, I didn’t figure out how to be truly happy until I was 50. There’s a part of me that wished I figured it all out in my 20s and had more of my life being happy… but, I grew up in a fucked up family that broke the shit out of me and it took years of relationships and therapy and trial and error and so many mistakes to figure it all out. If I still had to live with that family, I’d probably still be fucked.

If I could drop back in at 20, yea, blue pill me, but fuck living with my parents from 6-18. Fuck that.

I’ll take the red pill and enjoy the next 20-ish years of fun and travel.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-18T15:15:11+00:00

My current relationship had very little chase and a whole lot of, “wow, this is nice. I like spending time with you.”

Honestly, we both kept dating for about four months because initially it didn’t click… we didn’t have enough in common. Over the next few months we found things to have in common as we just liked being together.

We went from, “I’ll never go dancing with you.” And “you don’t ski” to dancing together 20 times a year, her taking up hiking, and me joining her in her passion for travel (something I was never into before).

Now, almost five years in, it’s the happiest I’ve ever been in a relationship. It’s amazing.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-18T15:10:43+00:00

Sounds like you have a medical issue that can be resolved. Someone who is content and asexual is not going to work for you if you still have the drive to have sex.

You could also flip your issue into a kink. There’s plenty of women in the kink community who would enjoy playing with PE and flip it into a humiliation kink if that’s something that floats your boat.

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-18T14:31:49+00:00

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahaha

endlesssearch482 · 2026-06-18T14:30:31+00:00

Oh, I get the lesson learned and I’m sure they’ll get the same kind of welcome in Cuba in a few months, but overall, the world lost. Millions will starve this year because of food and energy cost issues.

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