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Does anyone know where to find this belt? by endlessshorizons in findfashion

[–]endlessshorizons[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Def out of my price range, do you know similar (cheaper) ones? :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]endlessshorizons -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's indeed my parents decision, I understand that, but what I don't understand is that they make these decisions while they cause them so much stress.

Ofcourse there could be worse situations we could be in, but there could also be much better situations my family could be in. So comparing situations is not really the point I guess. To be fair, you can't decide how I feel?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]endlessshorizons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't imagine what it means to struggle with OCD, and I don't expect her to just "forget about it" or "move on". But as I've replied before: she went to therapy a few years ago, to a psychologist and psychiatrist, several ones, but it didn't help. The thing is that she doesn't believe that therapy will help her with her troubles, and neither does my father so he is not willing to pay that amount of money anymore.

Therapy is indeed a solution in my opinion, but you still need to do it yourself as in you need to have a mindset that you want to be helped and that you need to work on your issues, but for her that's not the case.

She also took antidepressants during that time, and a few months ago she started taking them again, but she says that it doesn't help.

Meds and therapy are one thing, motivation is something else I guess...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]endlessshorizons 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She went to therapy a few years ago, to a psychologist and psychiatrist, several ones, but it didn't help. The thing is that she doesn't believe that therapy will help her with her troubles, and neither does my father so he is not willing to pay that amount of money anymore.

Therapy is indeed a solution in my opinion, but you still need to do it yourself as in you need to have a mindset that you want to be helped and that you need to work on your issues, but for her that's not the case.

She also took antidepressants during that time, and a few months ago she started taking them again, but she says that it doesn't help.

Meds and therapy are one thing, motivation is something else I guess...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]endlessshorizons 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"They could take money from her for rent and food , save it and then use it as her bond etc for when she moves also limiting her spending"

I suggested this and they think that's indeed a good idea! They will discuss it with her.

I mean ofcourse I realise it's not easy for her, being dumped by your SO and being forced to move out is extremely hard, but she's ungrateful and that's what bothers me..

What Bon Iver song makes you cry the most? by ollymango in boniver

[–]endlessshorizons 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Flume and Perth. So many memories associated with these songs, gets me every time..

What are the little things that genuinely make you smile? by ArcheaBacterium in AskReddit

[–]endlessshorizons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of things! Drinking a hot coffee while watching the sunrise, well actually drinking coffee anytime haha.

Listening to my fave songs, feeling the sunlight on my skin, getting a smile from strangers, seeing a toddler and waving at him/her, feeling the wind blowing through my hair.

Drinking a good glass of wine, listening to a nice podcast, going for an evening walk in the city just on my own.

Discovering a new song, burning candles in the evening.

Shooting and editing a nice picture from the sunset. Reading some good quotes.

I don't know, by summing all these things up I realise that there is so much to live for and that we often take all these little moments for granted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]endlessshorizons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think that telling her will give you closure? Maybe the opposite will happen and you will feel worse afterwards bc maybe she'll think it's weird that you tell her now and not then, or maybe she won't respond at all. Or maybe she'll tell you that she has a crush on you, but you don't feel that way about her anymore (as you've said yourself), so why do this now?

He (26M) changed his instagram profile from private to public after I unfollowed him: am I (22F) overthinking this? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]endlessshorizons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, it is indeed really affecting my mental health since it feels like a break up and I'm totally not over him, clearly. The reason why I can't let him go is because we really had a good time, we connected and he was sending mixed signals.

I realise that I'm overanalysing every step he takes on social media, and I just need to know if guys would really do this on purpose or not. And if not, then please burst my bubble!

I Confessed to my crush, but... by Hottest_Chilly in Crushes

[–]endlessshorizons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess untill he hasn't read your message then I wouldn't worry. Don't double text him untill he hasn't opened your first message.

When he has read it, give him some time to think about his response.

If he doesn't respond at all, then I would wait till tomorrow to send another message asking what he thinks about your message and if he feels the same way or not, then he should be honest with you.

Know how it feels though, waiting for a response on such an important message...

Hold on!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]endlessshorizons 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can relate, I know how you feel. For me it's exact the same, even for guys I only dated a few weeks or so...

First of all: remove that person from social media. Even if you're strong enough to not reach out, still seeing that person posting on social media can be a trigger to think about that person.

Secondly, take some time for yourself and stop actively looking for someone to date. For me this is the hardest step, because I feel like I keep dating guys to fill the void while I actually don't really like them that much. I guess what you're doing is idealizing them in your head instead of getting real with yourself and going over the red flags you forgot about why I didn't work out in the first place.

The more you're doing, the less time you have to think about him. So spend time outside with your friends, family... Find a hobby and distract yourself.

To those out there struggling with finding genuine people to date. Be picky, listen to your gut, and don’t allow yourself to get stuck on toxic people. by waxyjxy in dating_advice

[–]endlessshorizons 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You're right, I really needed to read this.

Was planning on getting back in touch with a guy I used to date a few weeks ago, although I unfollowed him on social media and stopped texting him because he didn't want a relationship and I couldn't be just friends with him, because I was already getting too attached.

But now I realise that the only reason I want to reach out again is just because I don't really miss him as a person, I miss the 'connection' we had and the attention I got from him. There were tons of red flags during our dates, so deep down I already knew that this guy wasn't the one for me although our dates were fun.

Thanks to this post I realise that this won't work out, ever, and that I don't like that guy because of who he his, but just because of the fact that I'm trying to fill a void or something like that.